... It would help to know what type of dementia your Mom has (each type of dementia is different) and what other symptoms does she have (what stage she is in).... is she ambulatory, can she feed herself, does she communicate effectively, can she follow instruction?
In the late mid stages of Vascular Dementia my Dad started sleeping more and more. It was a result of his... (1 replies)
... Many do go through that hostile, combative, aggressive stage. My Mom did, and my Dad even had his moments. I know very few that have not been angry and combative at some point in their journey though dementia. The facility should have been a bit more proactive about paring residents. You don't put a calm resident in the same room with a combative resident.
As for the... (3 replies)
... My husband who has late stage Alzheimer's is now in a small nursing home/rehab center. I visit my husband every evening and have come to know a lot of the residents and they know me. They moved my husband to a different room with a different roommate and now I have to ask them to move him again. His new roommate was a minister in regular life. Now, he's the devil... (3 replies)
... Silkey, my husband has Alzheimer's and is taking Namenda. It seems to help keep his mind clearer and doesn't seem to have too many side effects. He did complain of headaches when he first started taking it but, those went away after a couple of weeks. He also has suffered from sleep apnea all his life. (4 replies)
... He is in the hospital, just had surgery, and definitely out of his normal routine. It is all traumatic. So see what tomorrow will bring. Hopefully there are no more infections and he will recover from the confusion. Yes, you Dad could have NPH and Vascular Dementia, or Alzheimer's, or a combination of all three. Only time will tell.... so be patient. Hope for the best... (125 replies)
... My name is Sean and I live in WI. My step dad has been diagnosed with alcohol related dimension and early onset Alzheimer's. His long term memory is still there but his short term memory is not good. We have gotten him to stop drinking any alcohol besides n/a beer. And that has helped.
Where I am in need of advice is that he does not treat my mom very good anymore. He... (2 replies)
I'm a 64 year old man and I have a 72 year old friend who I've known since I was 22. I am disabled and shouldn't be doing any heavy work. Our house needed a new roof for some time, it's small but we can't afford to hire the typical high dollar big money contractors in this area. I had a deal with a guy in town that I've known for a long time to help me shingle... (3 replies)
... Nattydresser, yes I have seen this before and heard of it many times. My Mom was worse on Aricept as well and I eventually took her off the medication. Perhaps it was your lucky day when the VA ran out of the medication and you were able to see how she was without the medication. If she was my Mom, I would leave her off the medication. Putting her back on will not make... (1 replies)
... I totally agree that this is one of the hardest things I have ever had to deal with... twice... three times.... with my grandmother, my Dad, and them my Mom. What we truly wish is that they didn't have this disease which has no cure and no effective treatment. We are helpless to truly help them. So we try to compensate by making life as pleasant as possible for them. We... (3 replies)
... Ttsmith, it is difficult from what you have said here to know if you are doing the right thing for your mom. Yet I do understand all you are saying here. Believe me, yours is not the only dysfunctional family around. Untangling a lifetime of mess complicated by dementia is not easy. But it can be done.
I hope your Mom has had a complete physical exam. Medication,... (3 replies)
... No, your life is not over once you are diagnosed. I know many that are living well with dementia. We fear this disease more than any other disease. I am here to tall you that you can live well with dementia, especially if it is accurately diagnosed early and you take advantage of the mentoring, support, and medication available. It is when you put off, delay, and deny what... (2 replies)
... I'm 62 and have what I would consider to be very mild symptoms of dementia/Alzheimer's. My father has severe dementia, don't know if it's specifically Alzheimer's, though. I'm due to get a mri soon for an ear problem (which of course has nothing to do with anything). My concern, though, is that something might show up on the mri that will suggest dementia. Will my life as I... (2 replies)
... Silkey, it is not unusual for one to be healthy in appearance yet have some type of dementia. Looking at my Mom or Dad you would have never guessed. Dad did have heart issues for years but looked healthy. Mom was a picture of health, walked every day, had not other current medical conditions, and took no medication. She just had Alzheimer's.
Diagnosing Dementia is... (4 replies)
... The underlying causes of Alzheimer's and Vascular Dementia are very different. Namenda is a medication that has been approved for treatment of Alzheimer's not Vascular Dementia. To date there has been no medication approved for the treatment of Vascular Dementia. Of course any medication taken to improve the blood supply, heart and vascular medications such as blood... (4 replies)
... SOTM, much depends on your location since Medicare/Medicaid is a function of the state you are in but the answer to your question is that most states do have facilities that accept Medicaid. Medicare only covers a 90 day rehab after a hospitalization. You will need to contact social services or adult protection services in your area. They will be able to guide you through... (6 replies)
... I also think it is human nature. Fortunately all the caregivers in the dementia unit are understanding. One caregiver even joked "Am I your girlfriend?" I think a little teasing is OK. It is not just the loneliness. I feel it is the nature. Given dementia. the man loses the abilities to be polite or proper. Often he would be so frank to say would you go to bed with me. He... (7 replies)
... Hi Nina,
Thanksks for the reply to my question concerning Alzheimer's patient preoccupied... Your remarks touched me. My Father had the same problem as my friend's husband does. After my Mom died at age 82- my father who had been ever faithful to her starting looking right away. He had no problems finding willing women. The embarrassing part, I felt for him was he could not... (7 replies)
... I have read many of the posts on this board but haven't seen one yet about a 90 yr old patient with advanced Alzheimer's who is obsessed with wanting to have sex with his wife. She is his only caretaker and is nearly worn out and this added pressure is nearly too much for her. She called me, a retired nurse, to ask if there was a drug that she could get from her doctor to make... (7 replies)
... Marianne, know that everything you are feeling is normal. Being human, we do that. We feel anger, resentment, guilt, love, compassion, and a host of other emotions all at the same time. This journey through Alzheimer's is not a sprint that we can dash through quickly. It is a long slow marathon that tires us to our bones and drains us of all that we have. We think we can... (4 replies)
... If they were diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's, then the chance is higher for the relatives. Check with the doctor to find out about it. You may be able to test your genes. It is sad indeed, given early onset AD, there are more family members that can have Alzheimer's. They also have shorter life span for the disease (5 to 10 years.)
Nina (5 replies)