... I too was at peace six years ago as for mum the Alzheimer path was over. The hole in the heart never goes away. ... (4 replies)
... I also think it is human nature. Fortunately all the caregivers in the dementia unit are understanding. One caregiver even joked "Am I your girlfriend?" I think a little teasing is OK. It is not just the loneliness. I feel it is the nature. Given dementia. the man loses the abilities to be polite or proper. Often he would be so frank to say would you go to bed with me. He... (7 replies)
... Hi Nina,
Thanksks for the reply to my question concerning Alzheimer's patient preoccupied... Your remarks touched me. My Father had the same problem as my friend's husband does. After my Mom died at age 82- my father who had been ever faithful to her starting looking right away. He had no problems finding willing women. The embarrassing part, I felt for him was he could not... (7 replies)
... I have read many of the posts on this board but haven't seen one yet about a 90 yr old patient with advanced Alzheimer's who is obsessed with wanting to have sex with his wife. She is his only caretaker and is nearly worn out and this added pressure is nearly too much for her. She called me, a retired nurse, to ask if there was a drug that she could get from her doctor to make... (7 replies)
... The other thing I want to add: Usually a bigger place like the dementia unit can help the elderly who wants "intimacy". At home alone, he has no choice but to fall in love with the caregivers or wife and etc. In a dementia unit, there are many ladies whom he can fall in love with. I think this is the best choice so that the elderly is not so lonely given a few more choices of... (7 replies)
... Yes, it happens with both sexes. Each loved one with dementia is as different as they were before dementia. Distractions and engagement are definitely the best answers. The current set up in most care facilities, and even in home care, does not have enough varied and targeted stimulation to prevent acting out behavior.
What did her husband do before? What was his... (7 replies)
... Hi Deb,
Thanks for the advice... I will encourage her to talk to her doctor. I know she wants to but is simply so embarrassed. Thanks again so much.
Carol (7 replies)
... We had discussed this long time ago in this board. No, you are not the only one.
Perhaps it is not so obvious. But my late father-in-law did want to have sex or have a girlfriend/wife with demand. Any lady at all, he wanted her! He was old-fashioned but we could tell it is sex he wanted - he wanted his late wife back but he asked for other ladies. He was in the late 80s and... (7 replies)
... As far as I know there is no approved medication that can be given to curb the libido. I know it can be a frustrating problem but redirection is the best option.
Reduced sex drive is a side effect of some medications. Prozac, Zoloft, and other selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) improve mood by raising serotonin but they can also lower libido in some... (7 replies)
... Danny, I understand your situation well having been through this twice, with Dad and then with Mom. The nurse is absolutely right about some with Alzheimer's not feeling pain. My Mom was one of them. She had sever arthritis in her hands. but in the final years of Alzheimer's she never once complained or acted like she was in pain as before. She broke her arm and never once... (5 replies)
... I understand that you want to find out what happened and how she died.
Given Alzheimer's, I think she had lived a good life with your care. She probably didn't suffer much when she passed on the table. I know at times families want to find out what was wrong and who did wrong. But it is her time to go.
Please accept my condolences.
Nina (13 replies)
... He may not be dying but hospice can make sure he gets comfort care without aggressive treatments. Dehydration may cause UTI. He would need more water. If he eats less, he would have less water intake. Stopping eating is usually the last stage's symptom and the person may die from not eating. In a way he is probably in the latest stage of Alzheimer's. DNR is still in order - so... (5 replies)
... I'm so exhausted.
I have been running around to various facilities trying to find a place to move my dad.
We can handle the sudden recent increase in the AL costs. But, we CANNOT handle to continue paying for an additional one on one caregiver. We went from 12 hours, to 10 hours, to currently 8 hours. However, I don't see how we'd be able to cut back further.
I... (17 replies)
... My late father-in-law died before we wanted to start hospice. So I have no idea what hospice really does for a demented person.
What I learned is that taking drugs is not the only way out when the person is too agitated. There is also another way to cope: the caregivers need to be tricky with him and play with his fantasies and thoughts. Sometimes the caregiver needs to say... (17 replies)
... I guess I thought all Alzheimer patients become agitated. ... (17 replies)
I am sorry your Dad has been diagnosed with AD (Alzheimer's disease).
It is hard to believe in the beginning. My husband had trouble believing it too when his late father was diagnosed in late 2004. Hard to believe someone with PhD would get AD... Anyway, as time went, we did notice that my late father-in-law got worse and etc. He got worse every 6 months and... (3 replies)
... Marianne, know that everything you are feeling is normal. Being human, we do that. We feel anger, resentment, guilt, love, compassion, and a host of other emotions all at the same time. This journey through Alzheimer's is not a sprint that we can dash through quickly. It is a long slow marathon that tires us to our bones and drains us of all that we have. We think we can... (4 replies)
... If they were diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's, then the chance is higher for the relatives. Check with the doctor to find out about it. You may be able to test your genes. It is sad indeed, given early onset AD, there are more family members that can have Alzheimer's. They also have shorter life span for the disease (5 to 10 years.)
Nina (5 replies)
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... Whiskers, it is hard to say. If it is the Familial genetically inherited form of Early Onset Dementia then there may be as much as a 50/50 chance. If one parent carries the gene mutations then you have a 50/50 chance of receiving the mutated gene and the probability of having early onset Alzheimer's is high. But you have a 50% chance of not having the gene. It cause can... (5 replies)