... Mom was admitted on Friday. It is a beautiful, clean facility-the newest in our area. But so far not satisfied with the care. Not sure how many residents are on the unit but I would say at least 15. Yesterday, there was 1 caregiver the whole time I was there. I don't feel that 1 caregiver can sufficiently take care of 15 Alzheimer's patients. She had the same clothes on as the... (1 replies)
... My mom and I were scheduled to go to New York to visit my grandmother (who has dementia) tomorrow morning. This past Tuesday morning my mom lost her wallet in the house and we have not been able to find it anywhere. She also misplaced her birth certificate. The wallet contained her state i.d., medical cards, and social security card, and bank card, and her metro access... (3 replies)
... Hello. I am really struggling as to what to do. My dear dad (aged 79) has Alzheimer's (stage 4), and prostate problems. He has been on medication for his heart for 11 years. He keeps falling and suffers hallucinations.
My mother (aged 68) is an incredibly bitter lady with anger issues. She has always suffered with depression, but she will not do anything about it. She is... (6 replies)
... My parents have been married for 63 years. Dad has multiple medical problems and my mom has moderate to severe Alzheimer's. It looks as if she will finally be going to an Alzheimer's unit at a nursing home next Friday. My father will remain in the home for now as is his choice. It is so very difficult on the whole family. Although a majority of the time she can't vocalize... (3 replies)
... Get in touch with you local Admiral Nurse and ask for an evaluation of the situation. They are trained Dementia Nurses in the UK and can give guidance as to what services are available and what services are needed. Be sure to give the nurse all the information you have about the situation... be honest. Hopefully the Admiral Nurse will come to the same conclusion and help... (6 replies)
... I'm so sorry about your family. Your dad needs to be in a facility. It sounds like your mom is not equipped to deal with the dementia and will definitely have problems with it as it progresses. She won't be able to control her anger and fear and your dad could get violent with hallucinations and other imaginary problems. Best wishes to all! (6 replies)
What a sad situation!!...
Obviously your father and mother are both receiving medical care and I feel you should visit their Dr and talk with him about the situation with them both.
If he feels residential accommodation would benefit your father then he is the person to organise this for you.
He also should assess your mother regarding her Alcohol intake and what... (6 replies)
... Hi, I am so sorry for your devastating situation. I believe if at all possible that your father should be placed in a facility where he can be taken care of and looked after because it seems things are progressively worse for him at home. I know it is a tough decision but his welfare should be your number one concern which I know it is for you. It may also be better that... (6 replies)
... Everything that your mother is doing is a scream of fear. She cannot cope. Whether or not she is mean is beside the point. She cannot admit that she is lacking, so she behaves badly. This situation is very bad for both of them. You need to get something happening. Can you and your sister contribute to a part time carer, or get your dad into residential care at least for... (6 replies)
... Is there no way to move him to a care facility? He doesn't need to be living with her. (6 replies)
... I also had to call 911 on my normally very much a gentleman husband after the aggression got so bad that he picked up an end table and was going to throw it at the imaginary people he was fighting with and I just happened to be in the way. I planned on keeping my husband at home forever. Calling 911 and having him go through an assessment gave me a lot of insight into the... (7 replies)
... Try giving your dad organic coconut oil to calm his moods. (1 replies)
... I don't think I would tell her even though at stage 5 of Alzheimer's she can still comprehend a lot of things but won't remember them if they're not brought up repeatedly. Make her as comfortable as you can while you have her, create good memories, take lots of pictures, indulge her in what she likes to eat, drink, and do. In other words, spoil her and love her as much as... (7 replies)
... The answer definitely depends on the person and stage of the disease. Ask yourself... Would she understand the conversation? Would she remember the conversation? Would she have the cognitive ability to understand the consequences? Would it improve her quality of life. Bad news is difficult to process and in the later stages the ability to process and remember are... (7 replies)
... I do not believe you should tell your Mom either. I used to work in an Alzheimer's unit in a nursing home. If she is at stage 5 she would not remember what you will tell her, you are fortunate she remembers you. Besides what good will it do to tell her anyway?And perhaps from what your Mother is saying to you...she already knows. But this is just my opinion! Keep her happy,... (7 replies)
... I found out yesterday that my Mom has breast cancer that has spread to her liver and lungs. She had breast cancer 12 years ago. I feel telling her this is going to make her give up. I would say she is at a stage 5/ level 5 with Alzheimer's. The cancer was discover in her liver first, she never felt anything in her breast. She says things like, she thinks there's something... (7 replies)
... Please be aware that behavioral changes may be the first thing you notice. Those little bizarre moments when they are paranoid, irrational, or seem to be beyond their normal personality. Some will know that something is not right but deny it. Some will be able to understand that something is wrong and cooperate with diagnosis. Some will have no idea there is a problem and... (2 replies)
... Is there a solid link with this? My mom's grandmother had alzheimers. Her mother showed some memory issues but unfortunately passed away from a stroke so who knows if it would of developed into something or if it was just normal old age.
My mother, to my anyway, makes me nervous sometimes with her memory. Sometimes she cant remember the word for something. She literally... (2 replies)
... 3 of 6 of my Aunts and Uncles have Alzheimers. They were 55-ish when noticeable symptoms appeared. Quoted below is what one of my cousins found by having her dad(my uncle) tested genetically. Needless to say, all of my generation are concerned that we have this in us, but the results as shown below explain how there is not that much reason to worry. The early onset is a scary... (4 replies)
... Liz, isn't it amazing what stays with them and what is fleeting? Shifting focus is one of the major impairment that Mom had from early in the disease. She would obsess over some thing and be completely oblivious about others. Importance truly didn't see to be a factor. It was whatever Mom's brain grabbed hold of in the moment.
I do hope she will be able to go to the... (7 replies)