... I wonder what people do when they have dementia and how do they decide when they need to quit work? ... (0 replies)
... There are 80 to 90 different types of dementia... Alzheimer's is just one of them. Parkinson's does have it's own dementia. Each type of dementia has different symptoms and different ways to deal with those symptoms. That is why a good diagnosis is so very important. ... (7 replies)
... Ruth I do believe that Parkinson's has it's own dementia. My mother had Altz, did not know me but was always gentle and concerned. My husband has Parkinson's and he is replicating my mother's deterioration but he is constantly angry at his situation and life is a tightrope. I think that many of us get to the stage when we don't like what we have become. The hurtful things... (7 replies)
... I really feel for you, all of you; big hugs to all of you and I totally agree with the others, give yourself a pat on the back for what you are doing, which is the most difficult job in the whole world!
My MIL has Dementia; her husband had late-stage Parkinson's and just passed away. He had been bedridden, unable to speak, eat, incontinent and frankly unbearable to be... (7 replies)
... Each has to follow their own heart, listen to any request that is made, and make their own choices. There is no right or wrong. Services are for the living. The deceased is not there but their wishes do bear weight. So it is necessary to not just put out a request, but to discuss the wishes so you will know the needs of all. I do not want a sad memorial after cremation... (10 replies)
... I don't know why people say they don't want a memorial service. Perhaps they believe that they are saving their family money, and they are. But, this is something the family really needs, even if it is just a small service at graveside or at scattering of the ashes. BTW, what are the plans for the cremains? My mother wanted hers scattered in the Mississippi River (not so... (10 replies)
... As for Dad, let him make the call on what he needs to do for himself. In the early stages of dementia one can handle grief and loss. Later stages it is more difficult for them to respond appropriately. ... (10 replies)
... Could be some of both Martini. Sleep medication does help but the disease also causes them to lose their sleep cycle. The boot placement is such classic dementia behavior. She had no idea what to do with items. They go in the strangest places. ... (5 replies)
... ad sealed it and placed in my pantry. The other boot she placed it on top my fridge. I'm not sure if this is because she hasnt taken her meds or if it just her dementia getting worse. ... (5 replies)
... She has dementia and is so very stubborn person, 83 years old, italian too. ... (5 replies)
... Alzheimer's or any other progressive cognitive decline is a difficult diagnosis. There is no treatment or cure at this time. I am not sure anybody can appreciate or understand the reality of the disease unless they have seen it first hand. It is mind boggling. I am not sure you get more callous. I think you just understand better which makes it a little easier to deal... (4 replies)
... SOTM, that is impossible to determine. There are so many variables and each one is an individual. If your relative is still ambulatory, is in not in the very end stages of this disease. Is he having difficulties eating or swallowing? Is there muscle rigidity? Probably not if he is ambulatory. Is he incontinent? Probably. What is his diagnosis, Alzheimer's, Vascular... (4 replies)
... My late parents-in-law didn't want funerals either. We had some sort of small memorial later on for the friends. If you really need to, you can have a small memorial later for your Mom. I am sorry Mom is hanging there now and it is sad for Dad to feel that way.... If possible, given Dad's Alzheimer's, he may need to stay home not attending to the funeral home and etc. It helps... (10 replies)
... Got a flight tonight at 5:50 from Islip to Minneapolis. Hope she holds on until I get there.
Barbara (10 replies)
... What you have described here is near the end. I am glad you were able to tell her what you needed to tell her. Even if she did not respond so you could understand, I feel that she did understand what you were saying to her. Remember that whatever happens, it is the way it was meant to be. There is no right or wrong... just what happens... and we have to be satisfied with... (10 replies)
... Barb I'm so sorry for all this at once. (10 replies)
... Got word yesterday afternoon. Mom's breathing has changed, I guess they call it the death rattle? They started her on some medication to dry up the secretions in the lungs, and added morphine. My sister says her body had some twitching.
My sister held up the phone to mom's ear for me. I told her that I loved her and that it was okay to go now, and be with her parents and... (10 replies)
... Barb, I am so sorry for all that your family is going through right now. Your Mom is where she needs to be, and well cared for. All you can do for her is to keep her comfortable. As for going to see your Mom... go as soon as you can. There are no guarantees. She may last a "while" or it could be sooner. You do not have to be there in the last moment but I am sure you... (10 replies)
... Prayers go out to you and your family.
Best wishes. (10 replies)
... Yep. You read correctly.
Mom is settled in the memory care facilty and under hospice care. Talked to the hospice nurse and even though mom is at end stage demetia, she isn't "actively dying". Although, that could change any moment.
Mom still continues to sip liquids some days, and other days nothing. The hospice nurse did say that mom has enough "stores" in her body... (10 replies)