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... My MIL has vascular dementia.
She returned to her home that she's lived in for 3 years after a stay in rehab.
She recognizes her furniture but does not remember that this house is her home.
One of the difficulties we're facing is her refusal to bathe. She keeps insisting she'll bathe when she gets home. She just doesn't remember she is home!
Any ideas? (5 replies)
... tion, if the door she looks out of has an outside screen or storm door, you can put a latch of some kind high up on the door near the top of the door. Most with dementia will not look beyond the normal door knob. If there is a latch at the top of the door it will usually keep them from opening the door. ... (1 replies)
... You did exactly the right thing. If you make too much of a fuss over it the negativity will hang with her. They may not remember what you say or do but they sure remember how they feel. With Dad, I even resorted to spilling juice on him!!! But only on rare occasions when he was a smelly mess. Just glad I didn't have that problem with Mom because she was much harder to... (5 replies)
... Thanks to both of you, for the redirection and the thoughtful reply.
My MIL has 24 hour live in help at her home.
Last night after lots of unsuccessful cajoling, breaking the shower process up into steps etc., she told me "Back off." So I did. (5 replies)
... Vjh... you are not going to convince her, explain to her, or otherwise talk her into bathing. Not going to happen. I went through this with Dad for years. Even when he knew he was home he would tell me he had already showered.
First of all Mom does not know where she is. Would you strip naked and shower in a strange house? I don't think so :) You have to understand... (5 replies)
... Go over to the Alzheimer's Board. Lots of good people over there can help you. (5 replies)
... r cd player, favorite blanket, collages of pictures of loved ones, pets, home, etc. Those types of things are good distractions when she's agitated. Women with dementia tend to like baby dolls, teddy bears, etc... things that they can cuddle and nurture. I think it's the motherly instinct. ... (3 replies)
... My mom and I were scheduled to go to New York to visit my grandmother (who has dementia) tomorrow morning. This past Tuesday morning my mom lost her wallet in the house and we have not been able to find it anywhere. She also misplaced her birth certificate. The wallet contained her state i.d., medical cards, and social security card, and bank card, and her metro access... (3 replies)
... the way. I planned on keeping my husband at home forever. Calling 911 and having him go through an assessment gave me a lot of insight into the Alzheimer's and dementia that I would have normally not known from regular doctor visits. ... (7 replies)
... My husband is 83 and diagnosed with dementia about six years ago. He has declined very fast in the last three months. He is going through sundowning recently. Gets very ill and agitated. ... (7 replies)
... he top of her lungs when no one at the facility pays attention to her. I told the facility that she must be put back on namenda or at least some medication for dementia since it did at least seem to keep her calmer than she is now with out any medication. ... (1 replies)
... My husband has alz/dementia and is on hospice,. Yesterday a nurse from hospice came and checked him out. She said she was going to check his muscles. She measured his arm around and from the shoulder to the elbow. I should have asked her why but didn't. Would anybody know why? Also, she said something about his strength. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks (1 replies)
... Get in touch with you local Admiral Nurse and ask for an evaluation of the situation. They are trained Dementia Nurses in the UK and can give guidance as to what services are available and what services are needed. ... (6 replies)
... I'm so sorry about your family. Your dad needs to be in a facility. It sounds like your mom is not equipped to deal with the dementia and will definitely have problems with it as it progresses. ... (6 replies)
... Thank you all so much for alerting me to this. I am very scared because I know it may be happening to us. Went to the Doc yesterday and he changed some meds and added some new ones. He did sleep better last night but got up in a really bad mood. I will keep praying the new meds will help. (7 replies)
... Hello. I am really struggling as to what to do. My dear dad (aged 79) has Alzheimer's (stage 4), and prostate problems. He has been on medication for his heart for 11 years. He keeps falling and suffers hallucinations.
My mother (aged 68) is an incredibly bitter lady with anger issues. She has always suffered with depression, but she will not do anything about it. She is... (6 replies)
... When I was literally scared of my gentle husband and had to call the police twice in a week after I was able to get out of the house. He saw men in our home who were going to murder us and went to attack them. I became one of the intruders. For some time I had been able to calm him as he roamed through the night and he would listen to my son who would drive 30 mins to... (7 replies)
... I am taking in all these suggestions and will try my best to do them. How did your situation stop? (7 replies)
... gewallac you could be describing my husband. Same age same progression. The agitation continued to paranoia and aggression until there was no alternative but to call the police. His Dr was superb but it is not easy to give meds when it is considered to be poison. Even after 3 months in a hospital mental health unit a medication balance has not been found that stops the... (7 replies)