... In some cases, the wife has to leave or move the sick spouse to a dementia unit. If the wife feels abused, she needs to do something by distance. ... (2 replies)
... Cockateils... STOP! Please stop. The mind can come up with more ways to blame yourself or others than there are facts to repute. What if? Why? In a perfect world, in the best of circumstances, in every situation you can question and blame but there is no place for such. You have to know that it was your Mom's time. Her heart gave out. Simple as that.
I doubt it was... (13 replies)
... d know your Mom. Just be sure Mom is getting all the assistance that she needs. If it appears to be lacking you may want to bring up the subject of the smaller dementia unit. ... (10 replies)
... Your Mom should be in dementia unit which is assisted living too but the unit is locked. ... (10 replies)
... progressive dementia for the past 2 years. She was an abusive parent and has been abusive to her fellow residents. ... (13 replies)
... My dad passed a year and a half ago - he was primary caregiver for my mom who has vascular dementia. He was having a hard time taking care of her at the end because he was so ill and I could see my mom needed more help than a caregiver coming in 2-4 hours a day could give. (she can't dress herself, shower herself, etc.) I am power of attorney for her (financial and health)... (10 replies)
... She got a UTI which advanced her dementia and had a fall. We got her into hospital, but when she came out, she never really recovered. Instead over a few weeks she just wasted away. ... (5 replies)
... Yes, that helps immensely. I went around and looked at various facilities, including a few nursing homes. I agree, the dementia unit looks like the better way to go. The truth is, none of it is pretty. It is what it is, it's just sad. I get so depressed. ... (17 replies)
... I would think the dementia unit is better since he is still quite alert. ... (17 replies)
... I'm so exhausted.
I have been running around to various facilities trying to find a place to move my dad.
We can handle the sudden recent increase in the AL costs. But, we CANNOT handle to continue paying for an additional one on one caregiver. We went from 12 hours, to 10 hours, to currently 8 hours. However, I don't see how we'd be able to cut back further.
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... I am sorry about your husband. Usually dementia that is not temporarily caused is permanent so he may not get better unless it is misdiagnosed. ... (1 replies)
... My husband was diagnosed of Vascular dementia since 2010. He is 78 yrs old. He is in the moderate to severe stage of dementia. Is there any hope of improvement? ... (1 replies)
... upset him and go from there. If the caregiver can calm him down a bit, then the drugs can be reduced. All Alzheimer's patients get agitated but the caregivers or dementia unit use different techniques to comfort the demented person. e.g., if he wants to say he is at work, go with it and say yes we are working with you and etc. ... (17 replies)
... tc. He even needed help to get dressed but refused to let stranger dressed him and he took forever to get dressed in the wrong way. In the end, he had to go to a dementia unit and still had all the fantasies in the world until the very end. ... (3 replies)
... This has merely intensified with the onset of Dementia in the last few years. ... (3 replies)
... Here in lies the need for an accurate diagnosis. Different types of dementia present differently so knowing the diagnosis will help you know how to deal with the situation. ... (6 replies)
... You will need to check with his doctor regarding diagnosis that will make him eligible for SNF. Usually, a single diagnosis of Alzheimer's or other type of dementia is not enough. ... (17 replies)
... no understand that her reality is not real. We can put all kinds of psychological terminology on the systoms that you see but bottom line, it is a result of the dementia that she has. By getting a diagnosis, you will have a better chance of being heard. ... (6 replies)
... check with your local sheriff department. There is a relative new program, Project Lifesaver, that is free. It provides a monitor that can be used to locate a dementia patient that wanders away. Wandering can become a major concern. ... (4 replies)
... You are right about the lack of resources out there for dementia. Most are very expensive. Can you afford to hire someone to come in for part of the day, say in the afternoons when they tend to do the sundowning? As the disease progresses, it will be close to impossible to leave her alone for any amount of time cause she would create havoc on anything she can get her hands... (4 replies)