... Usually a bigger place like the dementia unit can help the elderly who wants "intimacy". At home alone, he has no choice but to fall in love with the caregivers or wife and etc. ... (7 replies)
... My Mom originally was diagnosed with dementia in 2003, after showing "slight" symptoms for a few years before that. ... (4 replies)
... I also think it is human nature. Fortunately all the caregivers in the dementia unit are understanding. One caregiver even joked "Am I your girlfriend? ... (7 replies)
... Yes, it happens with both sexes. Each loved one with dementia is as different as they were before dementia. Distractions and engagement are definitely the best answers. ... (7 replies)
... Hi Nina,
Thanksks for the reply to my question concerning Alzheimer's patient preoccupied... Your remarks touched me. My Father had the same problem as my friend's husband does. After my Mom died at age 82- my father who had been ever faithful to her starting looking right away. He had no problems finding willing women. The embarrassing part, I felt for him was he could not... (7 replies)
... In some cases, the wife has to leave or move the sick spouse to a dementia unit. If the wife feels abused, she needs to do something by distance. ... (7 replies)
... Cockateils... STOP! Please stop. The mind can come up with more ways to blame yourself or others than there are facts to repute. What if? Why? In a perfect world, in the best of circumstances, in every situation you can question and blame but there is no place for such. You have to know that it was your Mom's time. Her heart gave out. Simple as that.
I doubt it was... (13 replies)
... d know your Mom. Just be sure Mom is getting all the assistance that she needs. If it appears to be lacking you may want to bring up the subject of the smaller dementia unit. ... (10 replies)
... Your Mom should be in dementia unit which is assisted living too but the unit is locked. ... (10 replies)
... progressive dementia for the past 2 years. She was an abusive parent and has been abusive to her fellow residents. ... (13 replies)
... My dad passed a year and a half ago - he was primary caregiver for my mom who has vascular dementia. He was having a hard time taking care of her at the end because he was so ill and I could see my mom needed more help than a caregiver coming in 2-4 hours a day could give. (she can't dress herself, shower herself, etc.) I am power of attorney for her (financial and health)... (10 replies)
... She got a UTI which advanced her dementia and had a fall. We got her into hospital, but when she came out, she never really recovered. Instead over a few weeks she just wasted away. ... (5 replies)
... Yes, that helps immensely. I went around and looked at various facilities, including a few nursing homes. I agree, the dementia unit looks like the better way to go. The truth is, none of it is pretty. It is what it is, it's just sad. I get so depressed. ... (17 replies)
... I would think the dementia unit is better since he is still quite alert. ... (17 replies)
... I'm so exhausted.
I have been running around to various facilities trying to find a place to move my dad.
We can handle the sudden recent increase in the AL costs. But, we CANNOT handle to continue paying for an additional one on one caregiver. We went from 12 hours, to 10 hours, to currently 8 hours. However, I don't see how we'd be able to cut back further.
I... (17 replies)
... I am sorry about your husband. Usually dementia that is not temporarily caused is permanent so he may not get better unless it is misdiagnosed. ... (1 replies)
... My husband was diagnosed of Vascular dementia since 2010. He is 78 yrs old. He is in the moderate to severe stage of dementia. Is there any hope of improvement? ... (1 replies)
... upset him and go from there. If the caregiver can calm him down a bit, then the drugs can be reduced. All Alzheimer's patients get agitated but the caregivers or dementia unit use different techniques to comfort the demented person. e.g., if he wants to say he is at work, go with it and say yes we are working with you and etc. ... (17 replies)
... tc. He even needed help to get dressed but refused to let stranger dressed him and he took forever to get dressed in the wrong way. In the end, he had to go to a dementia unit and still had all the fantasies in the world until the very end. ... (3 replies)
... This has merely intensified with the onset of Dementia in the last few years. ... (3 replies)