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I'm going through exactly the same thing with my husband. It's brutal to deal with. My husband does crazy things when he gets mad or doesn't get his way. For example, twice he bolted out of the car as I was driving...going slowly, but still that's a bit extreme, I think. Each time I try to get to the bottom of a disagreement for the good of the relationship, he tries to escalate the discussion into a heated argument. I have never met someone as thin-skinned in my life either. His favorite way to get back at me is to ignore me totally for days. It is very tough to deal with as it feels like complete rejection. Everything is on his terms, he makes up when and only when he feels like it, my feelings don't matter.
Our situation is unique. We met online and fell in love. He's British and I'm American. We traveled back and forth across the Atlantic and after 2 1/2 years we married. During the courtship he had his moments....he has anger-management problems, but the episodes were infrequent. Unfortunately, right after we married he turned into a monster. He started being disrespectful to me in front of his parents the day after the wedding! Of course, the wedding and parental visit was stressful and he did not handle this well at all. Shortly after the wedding, we went to Miami for a week (at my expense) got lost at night trying to find the resort. Needless to say with our frayed nerves we had a blow-out that very night.When we finally found the hotel an hour later I asked him to take me to the grocery store because we hadn't eaten. He said "no, absolutely not". I said, "take me to the store for food or else". I know this sounds ridiculous, but it actually happened. Anyway, he took me to the store and refused to buy any groceries which made me even madder. He was continuing to upset me and wouldn't quit.I was still angry the next morning because he still was refusing to kick in any money for the food.So, I lost it and told him to leave...not meaning it though which was stupid because don't you know he did leave. He left me in Miami, at my timeshare without a car!He flew up to his cousin's house in NJ and I didn't see him for 2 weeks. He ignored my emails for 3 days..so I cut my trip short because i didn't even know where he was.We did make up after this believe it or not and now he is in England supposedly trying to sell his house. The problem with that is he used to email me everyday before we were married and now he never answers.His house has no phone because he has been living here with me for the past 12 months so I have to call his mother to tell him to call me. He takes his time to call back too.The separation is causing a lot of stress and on Sunday we had a discussion which he turned into a fight over the phone.He hung up on me twice and I haven't heard from him in 3 days now. I feel your pain and if I were you I would definitely try to straighten him out before you married him.We need to get control of our emotions and stop letting their manipulations hurt us because I believe that it is done to punish and bully. I just think this behavior is so childish, but I have read that men have this fight and flight trigger. Who knows, maybe it's true. Anyway, I was in your boat in my 1st marriage. My husband was stationed at RAF Lakenheath in England and he became abusive there. I found the local women to be really friendly and they helped me to get away from him and return to the States.Try to join some clubs, meet some other Moms and when you feel comfortable tell them what's going on.I'm certain they will help you. I also think that you might try to re-build your relationship with your family. Remember, blood is thicker than water.

I moved to Maryland a year ago and don't know too many people here.I think I have post-traumatic stress disorder over the Miami thing...I guessed his yahoo password and read some of his mail to find out what was going on and his sister was telling him to block my emails and return to England. Nice sister-in -law huh? I would never had read his mail ,but when he abandoned me in Miami, I felt that I needed to get to the bottom of why he did it if I could. So, I would appreciate as much help as possible with this problematic marriage...reaction and advice would be great.Everyone says that I'm easy-going...I don't understand why this is happening in my marriage.
Hope this helps.





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