... im also very exhausted and fall alseep with my glasses on watching tv, dont get to sleep that long cause my mom is calling every hour almost. ... (9 replies)
... e in NJ. I feel completely helpless to help her and I can tell she's at her wits end. I can't remember the last time I spoke with her and she was happy. She's physically exhausted, emotionally drained, frustrated, angry and completely unaprecciated. I want to help her in some form just need ideas. ... (4 replies)
... JENETTI******enjoy you trip, your son adn the caller ID. get rid of the guilt. in doing something for yourself you are not doing something wrong to someone else. you count too. you know it's funny but when i went through this with my in-laws i could have written a book on excuses the sons ame up with. even when they would tell me they would do a saturday maybe their wife had... (9 replies)
... thank you so very much everyone who replied. there is lots of great advice!! i am getting caller ID, i know i'll feel guilty (why must there be guilt?) , but its something i NEED TO DO for MYSELF or i wont be any good to either parent.
vacation, YES, i have one coming up in two weeks, going to go visit my son in austin and spend some time with him. oh told everyone dad has... (9 replies)
... right on ****yolo. i coudn't have said it better. (9 replies)
... Just a few words
Just do it!
Now you get to dicide what it. Do as much or as little as you can... The most important thing is to pace yourself and shake the guilt. Tell yourself what you need to hear. I hope you hear this!>>>>>You need a vacation!!!! (9 replies)
... May be your family will chip in money for help since they are doing well. (9 replies)
... jenetti--- alot of good advise hear. both of my husbands parents were ill at the same time. this went on for about a year that they needed constant care. out of 6 sons and daughter-in-law and many grown grandchildren everyone tried once or twice. they were too busy and didn't want to take form their lives. it fell on me and my husband who was disabled at the time so most o fit... (9 replies)
... I don't want to be negative, but if your relatives don't want to help you with your mother so far I doubht you will force them. They gonna keep making excuses.
My friend's father going to adult daycare which take him to appointments and help him with paperwork if necessary, you can talk to social service about that.
Another way your mother or you can pay some money to... (9 replies)
... Siblings may work away from home, but they do get vacation time. They should be willing to use part of their vacation time to help with their parents.
Set up a schedule for each of you to be responsible for parents for 1 month at a time. Doctor's appts. etc. can be scheduled to work around and with siblings availability. Some siblings work long hours so they do not have to... (9 replies)
... I can give you a suggestion to put a caller id on your phone and don't answer every mother's phone call. Believe me she'll live, just answer once a day and only when it is something really important and requires your help.
I had same thing with mother calling from rehab and from house before.
When back in my country I had problem with terrible job and living with terrible... (9 replies)
... My grandma's diabetes has been spiraling out of control and she is EXHAUSTED, She has been sleeping a lot and physically doesn't have the energy to keep up with the house or my Grandpa. ... (8 replies)
... s moods, doesnt mind her own business that it would definetely kill me within a few months. Dad would be alright, but my mom is something else. Im just so tired, physically , emotionally and getting sicker by the day. Im just venting, and asking if anyone has any advice. Ive asked my two brothers to help me with her doc appts. ... (8 replies)
... My "problem child" is my physically disabled ex-spouse who is living in the home with me. 24 years of care-giving without a break; listening to all of his problems as if I'm a psychiatrist instead of a companion...has driven me to your exact thoughts.
I just can't keep his head up anymore, much less mine. After a while with constant care giving, one just looses it. It... (11 replies)