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Hello all. I guess I will cut right to the chase. My clitoris is SUPER sensitive. So sensitive that direct contact actually hurts. When my bf performs oral sex on me I have to keep reminding him to not touch his tongue directly on my clitoris. He is totally dumbfounded by this because he has never experienced this with other women he has been with. He thinks that direct contact is what all women want. I am able to orgasm by way of clitoris, but I can't touch it directly. Does this sound normal? Do other women have this problem? Also, he was inspecting it the other night and said that it appears to have a white nub at the very end. Is this normal? My gyno has never said anything looks abnormal. Also, I do not have any kind of STD, as my clitoris has always been sensitive, ever since I began masturbating as a teen. Thanks!
Why concern yourself with what he thinks? If he's doing something that hurts you and disrupts your pleasure and he knows it, that's a sign that he either doesn't care or he doesn't listen, both of which are bad in my opinion. Why bother trying to communicate when they don't care and/or don't listen? That's why I implimented the action stops policy with my husband because he was too hard headed to listen and thought he knew my body better than I did, solely based on his past relationships and of course porn. Once he was stopped and refused a couple of times, he finally got the message and started listening for a change!
Both Dr's Berman, one a sex therapist and the other a urologist have discussed clitoral sensitivity on their show as well as in other outlets and many women, not just the two of us, are percieved as having excessively or extremely sensitive clitoris', unable to tolerate direct stimulation. So, tell your boyfriend to hit the net for a little education on the subject and just because you arn't responding just as his past girlfriends did to his attempts doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you. It just means that you are differant, and not in any negative manner either, and he'll have to respect that differance. Some people like rocky road ice cream while other like strawberry, chocolate, etc. Do we find fault because someone doesn't like the same ice cream flavor as a past lover or friend? Of course not, so sexuality and all if it's varieties and variances shouldn't be considered abnormal either.
[QUOTE=Sillygrl;4050754]Hello all. I guess I will cut right to the chase. My clitoris is SUPER sensitive. So sensitive that direct contact actually hurts. When my bf performs oral sex on me I have to keep reminding him to not touch his tongue directly on my clitoris. He is totally dumbfounded by this because he has never experienced this with other women he has been with. He thinks that direct contact is what all women want. I am able to orgasm by way of clitoris, but I can't touch it directly. Does this sound normal? Do other women have this problem? Also, he was inspecting it the other night and said that it appears to have a white nub at the very end. Is this normal? My gyno has never said anything looks abnormal. Also, I do not have any kind of STD, as my clitoris has always been sensitive, ever since I began masturbating as a teen. Thanks![/QUOTE
Hope you did not read my original post, because I mis-read your's and made a foolish comment. To partially re-iterate, I would say that if your concerned about what your bf claims to have seen on your clitoris, then check it out with your gynocologist, although I suspect he was clutching at straws in order to ignore the obvious-That you have an ultra-sensitive clitoris! Having such does not sound abnormal to me, although it might be fairly uncommon. There is so much more of the vagina for him to enjoy, (and you too) and he need not feel emasculated because he can't do something he feels is part of his sexual duty. You are able to orgasm, so he should be happy he can pleasure himself, and you. My pleasure would not be diminished if I could not make contact with my partners clitoris. If I can bring her to orgasm through whatever means, then I am happy she orgasmed, and excited that we were able to enjoy that experience together.





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