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I have been glancing at these forums lately and just decided to go ahead & post my risk. I would really love advice & opinions on this. In January, I had a possible exposure to HIV along with many other Stds. I met up with a marine from LA after meeting him online. We had no plans for sex and he was actually a seemingly nice guy. I stayed with him in his hotel and one thing led to another. I gave him unprotected oral sex twice & when it came to sex, we had anal. He attempted to penetrate me anally but I felt something pop, he quickly pulled out & exchanged condoms & got more lube & we continued.

He asked me to be his girlfriend much earlier & I agreed. But after he went back to LA I began thinking about the risk. It drove me crazy & I ended up calling him and forwardly asking did he have HIV or anything else I should know about because I really want to be aware.

He told me no & that he has received a full std screening 4 months before he visited me because the military required it & that if he had anything they would have been contacted him as they do not get results unless they are positive.

I was at ease for a while, but then asked again & again which made him upset. He kept telling me I was paranoid & he didn't mind If I got tested but I shouldn't if he was the only person I slept with (which he is)


I have been driving myself crazy. Especially now that he rarely contacts me because of several marine tasks. But we still kep in touch & are to meet again in may...but to be honest I just want to have peace of mind. The only thing he asked me was I pregnant or something because I'm
So emotional.

May will be the end of my window period & I will test either on the 1st or 2nd. I do not want to test early as i feel it will add more worry to me. I want to test in exactly 3 months or over a bit. I just dont know what to trust now..
[QUOTE=WinterPooh;4947381]Honestly after reading this & my own post again I think you are right. It's unlikely. I do need peace of mind though so i will test. My mind has been stuck on this for so long. Thank you so much for your reply. And even more for your time. I will test on the 22nd of this month Instead of waiting longer. The longer I wait the crazier my mind will run.[/QUOTE]

we all make mistakes in life .. that should not be a reason for us to punish ourselves... Just take this experience and grow from it and change for the good... Im in a similar situation as you, i will be getting tested on this Thrusday it will be 60 days from the event. I truly convinced myself i have HIV, but as time goes by and so called "symptoms dissappear" and when you get help from others, you start to relax.. PLEASE DO NOT WORK YOURSELF UP, i did and have had the worst physical side effects from stress,anxiety and depression ... Were all just scared, HIV isnt something anyone wants... MY last test was at 47 days, ELISA test, NEGAtive... In reality i know i dont have HIV, but im scared and I have that little doubt in my head, which will go away in time.... GOOD luck and stay HIV NEgative ,,, please post your test results , so you can help another person who might be in a similar situation as yours
[QUOTE=WinterPooh;4947381]Honestly after reading this & my own post again I think you are right. It's unlikely. I do need peace of mind though so i will test. My mind has been stuck on this for so long. Thank you so much for your reply. And even more for your time. I will test on the 22nd of this month Instead of waiting longer. The longer I wait the crazier my mind will run.[/QUOTE]

No problem. The mind can be an amazing thing; it can work out very complex problems and given a chance can create havoc, playing out all sorts of worst case scenarios. Fortunately for us all an HIV status is not determined by our own minds and there is a world of difference between imagining and convincing oneself you have HIV and actually having HIV. An HIV test will determine your status, nothing else.

Good luck with your test on the 22nd and to be honest this is for your own peace of mind rather than a high risk of an infection. In the meantime please occupy your mind with other thoughts, negative thoughts won't alter your test results and based on what you have posted you really should be expecting negative results.

Kevin.





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