... is my Husbands much younger brother. He has a twin sister named Drew. His sister was having sex with 17 year olds and doing drugs. When we found out we encouraged his mother to call the police so they could help her. They took Drew away. ... (8 replies)
... This is difficult. I've got a disrespectful nearly 12 year old daughter. Her father and I aren't together, and she wanted to live with him. ... (2 replies)
... s...He's not a kid to get into trouble and he is very health cautious about what he puts into his body..This has been going on since he has been 13 or maybe even 12 years old... ... (11 replies)
... Hi Corbriwild, I am not surprised to hear that you monster-in-law is not helping financially and find it disgusting she is so selfish. It is WONDERFUL that you guys stepped in and have taken on this responsibility but it sounds like it has truly been difficult, to say the least. It really made me sad to hear he cries when you try and talk to him, it shows how hurt he really... (8 replies)
... I have 2 children who are now 12 and 7 and they learned at a very young age that I have zero tolerance for any behavior of this type. ... (16 replies)
... or they hold my or my husband's hand. Let me tell you, our 12 year old son has only had to have this occur twice and he realized it's better to follow the rules and be a nice person. ... (16 replies)
... ally relate...my daughter is going to be twelve in a few months, but she sounds just like your daughters. Only she has issues at school too, she is not totally disrespectful but lies to her teachers and parents about school work. ... (2 replies)
... My 12 year old son has ADHD and has learning problems, so they tell me. In the later part of the year in primary they started teaching the kids to read. By the time he started grade 1 he was reading 1 or 2 grade levels above what he should have been. ... (1 replies)
... Well his mother basically told him she was attacked and he threatened to kill her but changed her mind that she was coming home. Apparently she's staying on the road for him.
I finally lost it and i made a police report about it and finally told the mother how I felt and that she wouldn't control us anymore. I couldn't live with myself if something had happen to her and my... (8 replies)
... WoW! It's unfortunate that when you are seeing progress in Danny that she is now returning due to the "incident"----which by the way sounds a bit odd but who knows it could happen I guess. I'm glad your husband is sticking up for you------through all the good and bad he needs your support (as well as you needing his)! Plus, it may sound silly, but he needs to have positive... (8 replies)
... Thank you all for such the wonderful comments. No we do not have any type of guardianship. The most we have is a notarized letter from the mother saying that in case of emergencies or anything we can get him medical treatment.
There is absolutely no way for us to get this either. Neither parent would give it up. The mother says she is coming back now but I think we are... (8 replies)
... I see you are in the US. Have you tried talking to his school counselor? I know when my daughter was going through some things I talked to the school counselor and they have a list of counselors that help on a "sliding pay scale" and if you really are poverty level then they would be free. It might be a way to get him help.
Also do you have legal gaurdianship of his so... (8 replies)
... Goodness, what an awful situation for you to be in! I find it really admirable that you have taken on this child and do not want to abandon him.
To be honest, the main 'problem' I see in all of this is, sadly, your husband. He NEEDS to put his foot down, this is his family and it is completely unfair of him to expect you to deal with all of this.
The child is not at... (8 replies)
... Thank you so much for your response. I've have taken a good bit of your advice and it is working well. I have started using the xbox as a tool for teaching. Now when he gets home from school his xbox is hidden and he is not allowed to have it until he's cleaned up his own area and taken a shower. So far it seems to be very effective. I've not taken him to the store yet but I'm... (8 replies)
... I feel like you have been put in an unfair situation having to take care of your brother-in-law, your mother-in-law needs to step up and become a parent because he is not your responsibility! I know you're trying to help the family by keeping him but I find it vey disturbing that 'mom' took this job that allowed her to escape being a parent and leaving you guys to deal with... (8 replies)
... I'll try to make this brief...My husband and I separated last year and since then I have now entered into another relationship. The man I'm with is wonderful. ... (5 replies)
... I can understand what you are going through with your 12 year old, because I am going through similar situation with my 11 year old. My daughter is not disrespectful in front of my face of course, but with others it is another story. ... (5 replies)
... Absolutely not! A 12 year old is too old for paddling. ... (6 replies)
... I think step-parenting is one of the hardest thing in the world, whether you're the step-parent or biological parent with another spouse. My husband is the step-father to my oldest daughter (12) and the father of my 2-year-old daughter and the baby that I'm currently pregnant with. My oldest is spoiled, mouthy, disrespectful (mainly towards me) and we've had a number of issues... (12 replies)
... nts will be home, and as long as her household responsibilities are done. However, I refuse to allow her any privelege when she mouths off or approaches me in a disrespectful way. ... (81 replies)