... Please reread what the posters question was (above) and stay on that topic.
This thread is not a debate on whether to spank or not.
Moderator BAC (123 replies)
... yes it is our job to teach them wrong from right and no i never suggested letting them get away with whatever they want. i have worked with many children in my time and can agree that some punishments do not work for some children but there is always another way other than hitting. let me ask one question. If your kitten was doing something wrong or you were looking after an... (123 replies)
... d a step parent and run a daycare and yes i agree not all punishments work the same for all children but there is always something other than hitting that works. spanking is hitting it is just called a different name. If someone hit a child across the face and called it a love tap does that make it ok? ... (123 replies)
... On that note, i also do not consider spanking the same as hitting. Spanking is a form of punishment, and if done correctly, should not truly inflict pain. ... (123 replies)
... s is nothing wrong with a good spanking on the bare butt. ... (123 replies)
... Sadly yesterday we had to spank all 3 of our kids due to theft from my wifes purse which was found in the twins bedroom,the twins blamed each other and the youngest,the youngest said it wasnt him and blamed the twins saying it was in there bedroom
we decided to ground them all for 1 week but told them if the one who took it owned up we would listen to the reason why before... (123 replies)
... e hand why it is gonna happen.My kids also do not feel they have been treated wrongly they realize when they break the rules they will be punished wether it be a spanking or some other way but there will be conseqeunces.They also know they are very loved and I am here for all their needs. ... (123 replies)
... hey fifi
sounds like you have very well behaved kids thats wonderful.I have good kids also,although I will spank their bottoms if I feel its warrented which is also rarely.I do no believe it is has effected my kids in a negative way whatsoever.Spanking is far from the only discipline my hubby and I use.I tend to get pretty creative with discipline and sometimes yes other... (123 replies)
... e use as discipline for their own children,as long as it is not abuse.I fail to see why some other's would not feel this same way.Of course i realize some feel a spanking is abuse, that nobody can change.I just think good parents try their best and do what they believe to be the right thing for each situation. ... (123 replies)
... I have always thought that the phrase "spare the rod and spoil the child" was an instruction! That you should spare the rod (no spanking) and spoil your child (with kindness). Guess I was wrong.
That being said, I managed to raise two children without ever once hitting either of them. My mother-in-law (who didn't like me from the get-go) actually said to a mutual... (123 replies)
... Just for the record, the "spare the rod, spoil the child" verse does not condone physical punishment. This is so misunderstood. This verse refers to the shepherds who would tend their sheep with a rod. They used the rod to guide their sheep, not hit them with it if they strayed out of line!
I'm all for discipline and teaching children the right way to behave. I just wish... (123 replies)
... as spanked as a child also. He's actually the one that brought it up one day. He was asking me how I planned on punishing my son. If verbal isn't enough, then spanking is next in line, plain and simple. IMO there is nothing wrong with spanking. ... (123 replies)
... :wave: Hi, just wanted to give my view on a subject that seems to have got to a heated stage where we seem to be disagreeing with each others view instead of accepting some people have a different way of dealing with discipline problems,i myself agree with a spanking policy for all act of naughtiness,im not saying im right and im not saying if you dont spank that your wrong id... (123 replies)
... d 'abuse' has come up soooo many times it really begins to hurt.And THAT is what I am defending. I'm not defending my right to spank. I'm defending the fact that spanking is not abuse and that I am not an abuser because I choose this method.I do believe whole heartedly in my choices. ... (91 replies)
... g guilty about swatting her for hitting. Thinking I might sound like a hippocrate, but she understands the difference. I realize that now. She knows that if I am spanking her and explaining to her why she needs to listen to me, she gets it that her hitting is not ok,that I am doing it to end her bad behavior. ... (123 replies)
... Hey everyone:)
I think this thread is getting a lil out of hand.....people dicipline their children the way they feel right to....and i am sure no one here is gonna deliberatly hurt thier child...its ok to offer help...and i am in the wrong 2 cause i am against spanking..thats my choice..and i used my wording in the wrong manner in a previous post on this thread..and to... (123 replies)
... people who whine, I can't understand what you say, talk to me like a big girl not a baby. She always stops. That is one thing I am consistent with. But the whole spanking thing when it comes to her hitting her brother, although I am a firm believer in spanking... ... (123 replies)
... my response is 'Well, the spanking will help you not to forget next time!' If you do this and stick with it, you won't have to yell and scream. ... (123 replies)
... you sit down and stay sitting down', he gets up, I swat his bare bottom once and say 'sit down', he sits down on his own and doesn't get up again. ... (123 replies)
... een testing me BIG time lately and I used you as an outlet.Again very sorry. Believe me, I completly understand the reasoning behind a parent who chooses to keep spanking out of their disciplinary methods. I myself would like to use other means...but my dd can really be a handful.Not in a bad way, she is just ALOT of work. ... (123 replies)