... Dear luka,
At least you are safe. :)
It seems that you really need to be more honest and admit that all you need for now is just friendship. We don't 'need' a mate or sex. That is in the want department. Most of us want that but then we find out it is much harder work than expected.
As you are finding, relationships aren't based on getting what we 'need', but rather... (11 replies)
... I think it's important for you to understand that, in therapy, you will need to go back and relive what you lived through. As difficult as this is and as scary as it may feel it will help you to move forward and leave the ghosts behind. ... (11 replies)
... Of course I don't want to hurt her, and trust me, if I could go back and move out on my own without her, I would have. However, money is much more than an object now, and I'm far from home with no money to make any direct actions. The idea of us moving in together was supposed to fix me and help me out, but it wound up trapping me somewhere that I can't get away from.
I... (11 replies)
... How you feel and why is completely understood, from my own experiences, which I won't describe. I was seriously emotionally and physically abused as a child which really messed me up, then I repeated it with unhealthy choices of who I would trust that I made as I grew up to be a young adult. ... (11 replies)
... it's not as though I wake up every day and say "I don't feel like loving my girlfriend so I'm not going to touch her". Cuddling, as I've said, is terrifying because I feel smothered so I can't move or break away when I've had enough. ... (11 replies)
... they misdiagnosed me as paranoid schizophrenic and when I saw 2 certified psychologists and psychiatrists to beat the diagnosis, they determined I had it. ... (11 replies)
... Really I believe if you refuse to choose to let go of your fears as if fear is a warm fuzzy blanket, then I think you need to live separately and be alone. It isn't like fear is a cancer. ... (11 replies)
... of war vets coming back from the Middle East. My son is a doctor and we had many discussions about the meds and therapy as well as the EMDR process. Have you had a good physical in a while? ... (3 replies)
... brother having sex with me, etc. Would all that I have been through be classed as trauma because I can barely get tasks done throughout the day because I keep thinking about everything bad that's happened to me. ... (2 replies)
... but they are so mild that they dont realize thats what it is. To them, its just a memory that wont go away, they dont see it as reliving the event. ... (4 replies)
... While coming to terms with my PTSD, I've heard the disorder described as a normal reaction to an abnormal event. ... (4 replies)
... being is very important. I feel your frustration because I felt the weight of my responsibilites at the time, as well. ... (14 replies)
... ing what to do with it. It is SO sad! He follows me around the house and doesn't have a clue what he is doing. For some reason he is very unsteady on his feet as well. ... (14 replies)
... As far as the "Grand Scheme of Things".... I look at it like this. "Life is a Circus, Plan accordingly"..... ... (14 replies)
... Just accept things and remember that "He only gives a person as much as He feels that person can handle. ... (14 replies)
... I know that it was no coincidence. Even more amazing, the psychiatrist that he will be seeing is strangly connected to us as well. ... (14 replies)
... Dear Carmen,
I know that your DH has been having a rough time and there is no coincidence that the psychologist and the physician were there at that point in time. It was meant to happen this way.
There seems to be some light emitting from the end of that proverbial tunnel and that is refreshing news. Embrace the help.
If you don't mind me asking, when is the... (14 replies)
... extremely helpful and his specialty is with PTSD. He said he can't make an accurate diagnosis without seeing him, but he wants to try to taper him off the meds as soon as he can get him more treatment for the PTSD. He thought he sounds like a classic case of misdiagnosis. ... (14 replies)
... I posed a few questions as to get a better picture of your options. ... (14 replies)
... He was diagnosed because he was psychotic...which they attributed to mania, and he also used cocaine and alcohol. At first, I accepted the diagnosis as an answer for the psychosis. But, as this has progressed, the diagnosis doesn't seem to fit. ... (14 replies)