... such a big way, making a concious and final decision to end contact can be the only way to find peace. It sounds as if they have placed responsibility for their issues on the shoulders of a child, something which no parent should ever do. ... (3 replies)
... I've been going through the same issue, but not exactly with friends, it's more like with boyfriends, it's caused me a lot of pain. I also have suffered child abuse which is the cause for my PTSD, this is pretty much exactly what happens to me, the constant crying, the lonelyness and hopelessness. I've destroyed every one of my relationships because of it, this is the first... (6 replies)
... Sorry to hear you are having problems, I think you will find some good suggestions from the others.
I found a good counselor helped me to learn my triggers (words, thoughts or where I am, etc) and then to learn how to control the situation. Like, the previous poster said use the word STOP. Say it to yourself. Yes, good idea. I have used that and other things to help myself.... (6 replies)
... I started shouting STOP. I know this may sounds totally silly and not something people may believe, BUT it does work. As the other poster said, you have been conditioned from a young age, (as I was) and so your reactions to a perfectly normal question/statement is to totally misunderstand or question why that has been said, self doubt takes over. And the key thing about the... (6 replies)
... Hello there. I am new to these boards and would really appreciate your help with this matter
I was diagnosed with PTSD years ago (die to childhood abuse) and I thought I got over it quite well but my best friend who is male says I never trust him and I have mini meltdowns where I acuse him of not meaning what he says/
eg - He could say to me "You know everything about me cos... (6 replies)
... My husband of 5 years left me for another woman. I have come so far in the past year and havent been having issues with my ptsd for over a year now. ... (1 replies)
... just wanted to say welcome to the board :wave:- you will find people here who have been through similar things who can maybe help you - take care - and i am very sorry these things happened to you too (6 replies)
... oh yes, the insecurity demon and i are good friends ashe visits me on a regular basis lol
misreading people is something i do all the time...... :( as isitme said saying STOP! is a great way to stop the thoughts - taking a couple of minutes out if you can is also good and saying ok if i was saying this to someone what would i mean?
when you are used to rejection you... (6 replies)
... Hello alexier. Welcome to the board. Yes unfortunately your mistrust of everyone is a symptom of the disorder. Good friends are hard to come by and I can understand why you are so concerned. The way you feel and react is something that was formed a long time in your past due to the constant conditioning you when through as a child. These are not easily changed as you well... (6 replies)
... to admit hehas issues, which he does...he left me and kept coming back but just could not settle as i suppose to many memories living with us..he has got another relationship within a month or 2 of leaving me but i know he cant move on properly till he deals with it... ... (3 replies)
... Locating a therapist that one can feel comfortable with is a task in and of itself. You sometimes have to build up a trusting relationship in order to share about sensitive issues.In order for you to proceed further, sometimes you have to revert back to the basics. ... (3 replies)
... Good point ICC, because if the relationship of today still sucks it is in the here and now and it isn't just being triggered from the past. I didn't realize that they are having issues between them now. ... (29 replies)
... now BUT when there are that many issues with someone and they see none of it and create constant long lasting triggers for a person I don't believe there is any relationship that can withstand one person constantly reminding themselves to stay in the here and now while the other is abusing them, badgering them, etc. ... (29 replies)
... Does he acknowledge that he has issues that need to be dealt with? ... (15 replies)
... Dear 7,
PTSD and relationships don't tend to work too well without a strong support group (therapists, family,organizations) and if the absence of all of these is present, it can provide for a "steep uphill climd" to say the least.
With PTSD, a person must first deal with themselves before others because the problem lies within.
With respect to meds, Cymbalta may... (3 replies)
... back issues but I live with a partner with ptsd. Recently his episodes are getting worse and the doctor put him on valium for sleep which I do not think is helping. ... (3 replies)
... each other through everything. We're affectionate and very expressive, but we don't endulge in romantic moments to be each others' favorite person. Even my close relationship with her brother doesn't dissipate because of my issues with the opposite sex. If I ever got 'ok,' he'd pursue a romantic relationship. ... (53 replies)
... I know that you are in therapy, and for that I give you tons of credit, and for posting here tons of credit too. Are you working on ALL of your issues at once, or are you trying to focus on just the most important ones first? ... (53 replies)
... upbringing of a distant family, bit of sexual abuse from an outsider, had a relationship with someone who physically beat me.. then a later one that emotionally beat me whom i had 2 sons with. ... (9 replies)
... My boyfriend has had a number of past experiences that have hurt him, though I don't know the full story. His parents' relationship was troubled and he doesn't remember them expressing love for one another with the exception of a couple specific memories. ... (1 replies)