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[QUOTE=Hazel_Eyes]I took your advice and I spoke to my guy about it. He apologized.. He said he didnt mean to hurt my feelings.

I know he is sorry but I can't seem to get over it. :confused: I get these sudden feelings of 'I will never be good enough for this guy' :( A part of me wants to be close to him but the other part - the part that wont let go - pushes him away. Am I just insecure? Am I just dwelling on this too much? How do I let go and think... Its nothing.[/QUOTE]


It's just going to take time. I know the feeling of wanting to push him away- it's a defense mechanism. You don't want to be the one who is hurting, so you try to find a way to turn the tables and be the strong one who can live just fine without him. I get this feeling from time to time, and I know it's out of fear. I imagine how I would feel if I actually DID push him away... or he pushed ME away. And it scares me even more. So when I start to feel that "other part of me" creeping up, I keep quiet knowing it's just fear, and let it pass. As time goes on, you'll feel less and less of that urge to defend yourself. It will get easier. You did the best thing you could possibly have done by talking to him. Now as long as he follows through and doesn't upset you again, it's up to you to do your part to forgive him and put this behind you.





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