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[QUOTE=Nikita8282;4051046] But he did make a point of telling me that it wasn't right for me to say anything b/c he is hurt and out of work right now- we had a fire at our house and he burned his hand. The thing about this that irk's me is that MY INSURANCE is paying out for the damages in the fire; everything destroyed was for a garage sale (luckily) but my insurance is paying out full replacement cost and he expects me to hand over the entire amount to HIM! .[/QUOTE]

Oh please please please PLEASE do NOT do that!!! So the two of you live together, but you pay the homeowner's insurance premiums every month, he had crap he was trying to sell at a garage sale, and it caught fire, is that right? Aw HECK no, he doesn't deserve the whole thing! If I were you, this is what I think would be fair - when you get the check, take out what you spent on this last trip to see his daughter and put that in your separate bank account up front. Then give him however much you think he would have made at the garage sale had he sold all his stuff, and at the garage sale prices, keeping in mind people talk down and down and down, to a dollar or 50 cents for somethings, then take the rest of the money and put it toward household expenses, like the homeowner's insurance premium!! If you are getting sick and tired of hauling his butt around, then maybe putting some of it toward a car makes sense, WHEN he gets his license back. But there seems to be a definite pattern developing here, and I hope you can see it. Whatever happens, any misfortune, any challenge that the two of you face, he seems to say "Me me me, it's all about MEEE! I'm here to live my life as I please, and you are here to make MY life easier in any way I see fit." That attitude does NOT bode well for the future. It's hard to be a good husband, friend, father, etc. and be so self centered at the same time. IF you do choose to stay with this guy, you'd better have an awfully strong back, and be prepared to WORK and work hard, to shoulder all the responsibilities of not only your life, but his life as well, on your own.

[QUOTE=Nikita8282;4051046]Larrylou'smom: I saw the papers for the adoption case. The mother took off then called him leaving him to believe she lost the baby. A couple days after she had the baby, she called HIS mom and told her about what she had done. It seems odd but I read the as many of the papers as I could; he wanted that kid from day 1, she didn't and was pissed that he didn't want to be with her (her words in court).[/QUOTE]

I see. It is strange. But I'm sorry, I still can't summon up a whole lot of sympathy for him. He should have been more selective in picking his bed partners. You never know when a bed partner/casual boyfriend/girlfriend can turn into your co-parent and baby mama/baby daddy for life. It's a shame more people don't think about that when they're hopping into bed. And if he wanted this kid from day 1 SOOOO badly, then why isn't he taking a more active, responsible role in raising her on those precious, rare occasions he actually gets to be with her?

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