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... wasted effort, and you are contributing to the whole mess by her assuming you are 'on her side' thus enabling her to fill her victim role. Be assertive with your mother about involving you in her life this way. She is playing an old pattern of hers and is stuck in that groove. ... (1 replies)
... LOVES children, but never had any of her own. She talks about her nieces and nephews as if they are her children. She knows they aren't, but she loves them as a mother loves her children. ... (19 replies)
... My friend is as codependent on men as your friend is on her mother. ... (19 replies)

... I thought you said that she works and takes her nephew out and sees and calls her sister, besides being with her mother. It sounds like a life beyond mother to me. Not your kind of life, but a life nonetheless. ... (19 replies)
... o be her mother's companion, and not allowing herself to get her OWN companion. I'm talking can't make a move without asking her mother. I'm talking runs to her mother when the woman breaks a nail. And let me preface that the sister lives a block from the mother, but my friend has to take 2 buses and a train to get to her. ... (19 replies)
... I do not wish my friend's mother death. I do not think it will "serve a good purpose." I never used those words. ... (19 replies)
... ement is not anyone's place to make. So, while you may FEEL like it would help out your friend, you know you should not have expressed the idea that death of the mother will help your friend. Can you foresee whether she will sink into depair or depression when her mother dies, or know if she could ever come out of it? ... (19 replies)
... I said WHEN her mother dies. I never said I WISHED that to happen, any time soon or ever! I don't WISH anyone death! I think it's pretty obvious what I meant. ... (19 replies)
... You are right that isn't at all a horrible thing to say....I'm sorry, guess I was wrong...........If someone said that about your mother you would think that it was ok? ... (19 replies)
... Secondly, I know her mother since I'm 12, I would never wish that on her, or my friend, or anybody! ... (19 replies)
... That has to be the worst thing I have ever heard anyone say. What kind of "FRIEND" says when the mother of a "friend" dies it will be the best thing? ... (19 replies)
... both, in that order. I hate saying it, I know I'm going to go to hell, but when her mother dies it will be the best thing. ... (19 replies)
... I'll be really honest - There is nothing you can say or do to change another person... whether that is a man in your own life or a female friend. The only thing you can do is be there for your friend - because at the rate she is going (and that her mother is allowing) she is going to really really need you when her mother dies (as all parents do) and she has no one to "do"... (19 replies)
... Well Curls I also give it to you that you mention your grandmother's failing health. But as I said, her mother is FINE. There is nothing wrong with her mother, certainly not physically. ... (19 replies)
... But back to the situation...the thing is, my friend's mother is not even sick! The woman is fine. She has been thru a lot, granted, but the woman is quite capable of taking care of herself. ... (19 replies)
... Ivory films who go on holiday with their mothers. When she is not with her mother she is a workaholic. She never does anything for herself. All her energy is spent worrying about other people. ... (19 replies)
I'm so sad
Jan 24, 2016
... The fact is his mother recently died. This is a life changing, threatening event that most often stirs up fears we may have never had to face. ... (16 replies)
... om the beginning she had told me several horror stories. His constant cheating. His lying. His drug problems. Him telling the kids they would never see their mother again and threatening her by saying he would plant drugs on her. ... (10 replies)
Advice needed
Jul 7, 2010
... I have thought long and hard about this. I didn't fight her when she was running around. I voiced my opinion on things, she voiced hers. I don't want to be the codependent in her life, nor enabler, nor lifeboat. I know she's not going to get help until she's ready. ... (14 replies)
... Redneon, I'm glad to hear that you found the post helpful. Thanks for the kind words. I just want to add that there is no need to beat yourself up over staying too long in a toxic relationship. I don't think of that mistake as pathetic but, rather, as an understandable -- even predictable -- result of our upbringings. In my case, I simply grew up too quickly, trying to... (48 replies)

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