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... He knows how to push my buttons. He will think of the most ridiculous things to upset me.... and trust me, he has quite the imagination. ... (48 replies)
... Posts like these are what got me through this mess. Thank you x100. (48 replies)
... Well.... I guess I am the only one who actually has BPD. I am also going through a rough time with my boyfriend of almost three years and was thinking that we were really starting to make some progress. ... (48 replies)

... because he's offended you, so you start defending yourself. It has taken me a couple bad relationships to pick up on these patterns. I'm a caretaker, so when I hear "please help me" it is next to impossible for me not to. ... (48 replies)
... A friend of mine actually recommended the book "Walking on Eggshells" and that's when I KNEW that my boyfriend had BPD. ... (48 replies)
... Hey dude i know exactly how you feel its like i have meet some1 in the same exact situation as boyfriend, he gets mad over everything and then the next minute he is the perfect first we thought he was just bi polar but now his parents made him go to rehab, and his therepist suggested that he had BPD and so i looked it up and i found out what it was and i... (7 replies)
... I have inherited some nasty traits from my parents, which caused me to be basically socially incompetent and too much into drugs and doing nothing until around my 19th year of age. ... (48 replies)
... dependent no more". It changed my perspective on things. ... (48 replies)
... boyfriend also choked me once when he was intoxicated. He has also shoved me before and verbally abused me regularly. A boyfriend should make you better and happier... not make you feel like your life and sanity is being destroyed. ... (48 replies)
... I talked about leaving about 100 times before I actually packed my bags and left. So much, that he started to think I was bluffing.. and when I actually left, he was just in shock. The truth is, I didn't want to leave. ... (48 replies)
... I know exactly what you mean. I found myself lying about how great he is... just because I was so ashamed of what people would think of me if they knew the truth... that he treated me horribly. I know it must be hard for others to understand, but in all honesty- you don't owe them an explanation. You know that what you did was right, and I am sure that as time goes on, people... (48 replies)
... f the time. Our split is so confusing for some people because he seemed so sweet and so charming to them. Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde indeed. I now have to listen to my mother tell me that fighting is normal in a marriage and it does not need to end things. ... (48 replies)
... very charming, everyone thinks he is just wonderful, but they do not know the other side of him. I do love him too and it is so hard to break away but I know in my heart I am a good person, very kind and loving and I do not deserve to be treated this way. I am glad you are going on with your life.. ... (48 replies)
... I am so happy for you! :D I hope being separated from him will get you back to being the outgoing bubbly you that you mentioned. I have only had very limited contact with my BPD 'friend' since our project finished it's first major phase and I have already started sleeping better and putting some weight back on - not that I want the weight back, lol (in fact I joke with... (48 replies)
... I just want to update everyone on my progress, and I am proud to say... I finally packed my bags and left him.. and I want to thank those of you who have helped me through much of this... letting me know that I am not alone. ... (48 replies)
... I just wanted to say I had the exact same thing happen in my relationship. I loved him so much when he was good, but hated him so much when he was "bad." There was always something missing in his emotions. ... (48 replies)
... You could have been describing me in your post. I am exactly like you, to the tee. I am also a caregiver and always feel it is my responsibility to take care of people. The problem is, I have been told, is that we don't take care of ourselves. I have known this man for two years. ... (48 replies)
... I would actually disagree that he cries to manipulate you. I believe his tears are real. He's hurt, upset, etc. etc. People with BPD feel emotions very strongly and it isn't a manipulation. What it is though, is all about them. They aren't tears for you, they're for him. In fact, he could well soon turn those tears into anger at how you've 'hurt him' (you've made him cry,... (48 replies)
... I admit, I let this relationship completely take control of me... maybe I do need to be needed... or maybe I just can't say no when someone needs my help. I thought that made me a good person, but now I just feel.. weak... stupid.. taken advantage of. ... (48 replies)
... Simply D, you need to turn the focus around and away from your boyfriend, and ask yourself why you need to be a resquer. If you feel lonely and need to be needed, may be one reason, but addiction to a person may be another. Perhaps a low self esteem may be the problem lying underneath, or else you would not have stayed so long, nor would you have let others use you as a... (48 replies)

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