... I found out that her father was having an affair with my mom! I HAD NO idea about this WHATSOEVER..until my neighbor asked me if smething was goiing on between my mom and her dad. ... (12 replies)
... I am seventeen years old, and I have a narcissistic father. ... (3 replies)
... Oh, you are not the only one. Only that you are so brave to have this fight with your Dad at a young age.
My FIL is like that or was like that. Now he has late Alzheimer's but he is more self-centered.
As a "normal" person before, he was very self-centered and the family has to talk about his career. Only his, not the wife's, not the son's... He happened to have the highest... (3 replies)
... unfortunately I did not realize this until recently. My father was not around very much when I was growing up. He also took jobs out of state and was home maybe three months out of the year. ... (4 replies)
... My heart goes out to you for your situation. My father is also a Narcissist and I feel your pain completely. ... (4 replies)
... My father is and has always been a nasty mean bully. He has alienated everyone in his life and no one wants to be around him or have to deal with him in any way. ... (4 replies)
... Hi everyone. I posted before about my narcissistic father, and received some great advice. Lately things have gotten worse and I'm hoping someone can help me. ... (12 replies)
... If your father treated your bother better than he did treat you, maybe he had a reason to do so. I am just saying "maybe. ... (4 replies)
... natural pattern. We tend to be attracted to people who remind us of people in our past that we subconsciously want to fix something with. So if you forgive your father and let all that go, you will no longer feel compelled to try to "fix" that relationship, and you will no longer be drawn to men that remind you of him. ... (4 replies)
... r household with an emotionally distant father. Never could say NO to the mother and this created much self loathing and hatred towards women. This resulted in a narcissistic personality in my dad, who was idealistic, a complete snob, sexually repressed and isolated, emotionally and verbally abusive to my mother. Mom was a martyr. ... (4 replies)
... Frankly counseling or talking to him will not work. Just state your positions and ignore him. Move on for yourself and don't bother to listen or read his abusive emails.
This kind of people don't change. Really. they don't. They may change some diplomatic approach but they will always be self-centered.
My FIL with Alzheimer's now often asked my husband if he has the same... (3 replies)
I understand that kind of relationship. It is always one-sided. I can't imagine a good counselor not suggesting to you that you end the relationship for good.
We can only change ouselves. You were a good person, gave him a chance to change, met him more than half way. There is no reason to torture yourself. (3 replies)
... I know that you're right and I will stick with him but sometimes it's so overwhelming. The situation could be worse and I've been able to 'protect' myself to a point. I need to keep reminding myself about these things and continue to be thankful that I have my hubby's help. It took him a long time to realize that I wasn't just avoiding my dad to be mean, I was doing it to... (4 replies)
... I know you will not want to hear this but you may have to stick with him for a little while longer. I mean if he is 85 how much longer can he live. I feel for you though I know some people can be very domineering and he sounds like he might be. Anyway the reason I say this is because, given his age, eventually he will die. And when he does if you do not do whatever you can... (4 replies)
... similar upbringing. before you can have a relationship, you need to have a relationship with yourself. I went to coda (co dependents anonymous) which helped me to not be afraid to be on my own. I now prefer my own company, and have friends with good boundaries only. If they do not, then I let them go. I do not ask for anything from parents/siblings. I am the happiest I... (4 replies)
... Thank you very much for replying.. I do agree that therapy would probably help. Now that I am grad school I have access to their health center. I recently watched the movie The Squid and the Whale, and it through me into such a depressive state (what an accurate portrayal of a miserable narcissist the guy was and what a toll it took on his family) that it motivated me to... (4 replies)
... Apparently, his few long-term relationships have been with girls with low self-esteem. I believe, and I know it based on things he told me, that he has been held in very high regard by these women.
I'm not sure how he will respond to my bringing up the fact that I think he has some serious issues (whether it actually be NPD or BPD or BP or...?). He has been contacting... (7 replies)
... From what you say, this does not seem to be the case. He seems to be a narcissistic self indulging person who, on top of all this, has addiction problems. ... (6 replies)
... First off, This may get lengthy - I apologize in advance.
Guess I am starting off with a bang, so to speak.
I'll get right to the point:
I've been seeing a man on and off since 2010. We met through co-worker/friends and we've done the usual going out to dinner, movies, etc. Nothing as far as he calling me his gf or anything like that, but rather a casual... (5 replies)
... ficult relationship with my mother. My Mom is a very blunt, unapologetic person, when it comes to her opinions and beliefs. Very set in her ways. I think she has narcissistic tendencies as well. Up until the last two years or so, I would say that it was downright unbearable sometimes. Now, however, my Mom is one of my best friends. ... (3 replies)