... Thank you, and thanks to Seraph as well :)
I believe that what's in the past is done and can't be changed so it's best to look forward to the future. (7 replies)
... I think you are doing a good thing, our ability to not let the past rule our future makes us more mature and well adjusted people. All the best to you and your girlfriend.... (7 replies)
... It's that she tends to be pretty careless sometimes, like accidentally leaving her mobile on a train or forgetting to lock the door. So I'm really afraid that another pregnancy may come out of the blue, this time with my child and I wouldn't be ready for it at that time.
Also, for a moment, I expected the child to be mine, not her ex's so I was a bit disappointed. (7 replies)
... My girlfriend and I dated for about a month and we recently found out that she was two months pregnant. She admitted that she had sex with her ex about a month before we started dating, so she didn't cheat on me. ... (7 replies)
... @Seraph I've always practised safe sex and will continue to do so. Thank you - I'll talk to her tonight once she comes back from work. :)
@lenvegas Yes, that's exactly what makes me a little bit uneasy. But I love her very much so I'll definitely stay with her and be there for her. (7 replies)
... Hi, perhaps you perceive her as being more tainted having gone through this experience so if you are feeling uneasy then perhaps it will take some time to get through this. However, if you do not get through this then you should cut your loses and move on... (7 replies)
... You will not leave it to her to take the whole responsibility for birth control. Be a participant, use condoms, practise safe sex generally. It is always possible to be deceived, but if it is just absent-mindedness on her part, your input and sharing of the responsibility will do the trick.
I understand your disappointment, because, well, baby! You will be a good dad when the... (7 replies)
... What is making you feel uneasy? (7 replies)
... Is it yours? Whose idea is it not to talk, yours or hers? If you're sure it is in fact yours, does she want you involved? Do you want to be involved? If it is yours and you know this for sure, you should step up to the plate and be a man and provide for it as much as you can. The important thing to do now is that both of you love this child more than you hate each other. The... (3 replies)
... We will need a bit more information. Has she definitely decided to have the child? If so, does she want you involved and do you want to be involved with the birth, etc? Helping you depends on some of these answers. (3 replies)
... I don't know what to do with a pregnant ex girlfriend
we don't talk (3 replies)
... I will give you a very simple answer:
No, you can't be friends with a pregnant ex-girlfriend for one reason.
When the baby is born, unless she proves to be a very bad mother, she will have eyes only for the baby and no time for you as a friend, let alone as a partner. You will end up as a provider. Is that what you want to be?
I don't think so, so please stop feeling... (32 replies)
... messages later and she had told me that she really feels strongly about me. Last night in her good night text message she basically said she would like to be my girlfriend but I held back. I figured that had something to do with her mood this evening. So I asked her if she would like to be my girlfriend. ... (32 replies)
... I agree with what you're saying here, brokenhearted83. I have told her that I would like to see her get back with her ex-boyfriend - as long as she can trust him - for their sake and that of the baby. However, whilst I'm around, with the history between us, I am limiting the possibility of that eventuality.
Thanks, rosequartz. My ex-girlfriend's mother is an alcoholic and... (32 replies)
... well if it happens there is nothing you can do about it.
does she have a mother? let her mother worry about it.
she's not your responsibility, this baby is not your responsibility.
you're not ignoring her, you're just not getting involved where it's not your place to be involved. save yourself a lot of trouble down the line, don't be involved with her or her problems, let... (32 replies)
... You don't have to ignore her. But this hasn't got much to do with you, Johnny.
Your not the father, you're not in a relationship, nor do you want to be in a relationship.
You'll not only be doing yourself a favour by backing off away from this situation but also her - she also doesn't need someone confusing her.
I think you should gently pull away and who knows may... (32 replies)
... Hey, guys! Just a quick reply, whilst I'm at work, to say thanks for all your replies. I want to read them properly and get back to everyone when I'm at home later. In the mean time, I am scared for my ex-girlfriend and her baby because she was in hospital on Wednesday evening with stomach cramps. She has to wait until her next scheduled scan next Wednesday before finding out... (32 replies)
... s when she told me she was pregnant and that she had split up with her boyfriend. Alarm bells started ringing straight away. ... (32 replies)
... Don't worry, its not an abormality, nor an overly bad problem to have! ;)
My ex was like that (not saying you're like him that much, he was a jerk overall, you're clearly not). He led me on for months, and months because he felt like he couldn't say no, or so he says, and kept saying "I only did it for you not for me."
You're not like my ex, he didn't have good intentions... (32 replies)
... Thanks for your reply, brokenhearted83. You have identified what I am afraid of by coming here for advice: you guys will tell it to me straight and make me realise what I am afraid to admit to myself.
Louise does have feelings for me. She's told me as much. The other day her sister asked why we didn't get back together and Louise joked about how I had told her I just want... (32 replies)