... I posted before about my first foray into dating after a sudden breakup. I thought I'd post now about that breakup. Others on the board atre struggling with theirs, too, and I wanted to relate with mine. ... (14 replies)
... If she hasn't then it could be that she is confused and doesn't know how to react to certain problems so she finds a breakup as the scape goat. ... (4 replies)
... p in work though lately and havn't had much time for all the little stuff and since we dont' see eachother very often Well 2 days ago she told me she wanted to breakup with me and did it over the phone and that was pretty much that. ... (4 replies)
... I think you need to find YOUR inner strength and independence and give him exactly what he asked for and give yourself some "me time" too. Are you familiar with "me time?" Me Time is fantastic. You turn off your phone, you go somewhere that is SO relaxing and wonderful to you and do something that makes you feel happy. Go to your favorite park and read a book. Lay in the sun.... (35 replies)
... Some changes have been going on in the past month, which I think has a lot to do with this sudden realization of his. ... (35 replies)
... terrible. I was so caught off guard and upset. It was honestly the worst thing I have ever gone through. I picked up my things from his house two days after the breakup and we spoke then. I told him communication was up to him, I would not be in touch. He protested but understand any contact would be initiated by him. ... (11 replies)
... up, just hang in there. No matter how bad you feel now I promise you it'll get easier. You'll just wake up one day and all of a sudden the pain will start to dim and soon he or she will rarely enter your head. ... (6 replies)
... g about it and that she wouldn't open up to me about how she really feels. I think she just made her decision and i have to move on with it, but it just feels so sudden and it's such a mess. ... (12 replies)
... Hey there, I can totally relate to where you are coming from. He may not have lost interest in you, but what I am now trying to learn myself is that men like to be the chasers. It is ok that you iniate some dates, but let him do it. Also, as experience from my recent breakup, men dont think like we do with all the calling and how long it has been since they last spoke to you.... (3 replies)
... The breakup completely leveled me and I felt like I broke into a thousand pieces. ... (19 replies)
... ce. I think that you are correct in what you say. Its just hard because of how long we were friends and how the relationship was extremely good then all of the sudden came to an abrupt halt. I dont want to say that I was perfect during the process but I felt I was pretty genuine and yes, I think I got an unfair deal. ... (7 replies)
... break-ups are horrible things. I'm about 2 months out of one. I dated this great guy for a little over 1.5 year. . we are both 35 - lots on the table at our age. I thought that he was the one for me - so many things about him i really loved. But there was always some distance there - we took things slow in the beginning. 2 nights before we broke we talked about marriage... (14 replies)
... Oh it is. I want to believe in him so much. I've seen so many crappy jerks...I know he isn't one of them! But hanging out with his ex while we're on break and having all these random second thoughts about a really solid relationship????
I'm so confused.
I wish you the best of luck as well. Even if it is over between you two, don't beat yourself up about it. We're all... (14 replies)
... Yeah thats what it feels like, i have been through some really bad relationships before- especially one full of lying cheating etc but i SENSED it wasnt right and i was stupid and took him back etc but i still KNEW it was wrong and i didnt tell any of my friends at the time what had happened cos i knew they would hate him and be telling me not to get back with him, which is... (14 replies)
... I know you've posted a lot on my thread. Sounds a bit like how I'm feeling, if not the same situation....
It's strange. My bf, who I dated seriously for three years (and hope that I am still dating, but who knows), even when we were talking seriously about taking a break, cuddled with me and called me, and bought me a really expensive Birthday/Christmas present. I was so... (14 replies)
... Men are so confusing!
Since he realised off his own back that the argument was caused by someone else stirring things up and then making me out to be a super beeatch things have been a lot better between us and we have been getting on really well... but i think sometimes he is forgetting that we arent going out anymore....
like the other night on a work night out, we... (14 replies)
... :wave: Hi
I had this happen to me a few yrs back. The guy rushed in and after 2 months rushed out, and I was very confused.
Sorry to hear this but move on, he is not worth it. Too flaky just like this idiot I once knew.
Someone in Ontario Canada:wave: (14 replies)
... Hi thanks for your replies,
yeah i agree you are all right and i AM most annoyed at him, thats why i wasnt so bothered about her until now and i have actually thought about what she did. you are right that he shouldnt have doubted things just cos of what somebody else did but it was moreso the way that i reacted to what she was saying, getting so upset about it, like i... (14 replies)
... It sounds to me like he had one foot out the door before you ever had the argument. Sometimes people are too afraid to break something off because they don't want to hurt anyone, so they use excuses. If I were you I would stop driving myself crazy with analysis and move on. I would also take it as a lesson that relationships in general should not be conducted via text and... (14 replies)
... I am proud that you just said what you had to say and left it at that....try and think now that although she may have stirred things up even if she did it on purpose or not ...he is an adult and he made the choice to act the way he has been acting. Place the blame where it truly belongs. I find myself doing the same thing at times...for some reason we seem to want to blame the... (14 replies)