... I must be one of those one in a million guys who do not watch porn, frankly I find porn movies boring and would rather be doing something else. (22 replies)
... I agree with this 100%..... (7 replies)
... I've seen it happen with all the men in my life.. my ex husband, our baby was born and we were still living at his parents house. he had $0 dollars to his name, no job, attached to his mother (and she was the one who would create most of our problems), and would focus all his attention towards his band. one day i finally picked up and left, moved back to my moms. didnt contact... (12 replies)
... Agreed! Your boyfriend is not going to change unless he wants to. It's pretty evident from what you wrote that he's content to being the way he is.
Even if he decides to exercise and become healthy, it has to be on his terms. If he does it for you and you alone, his change will not be sustainable. Also, there's usually a lot of resentment that goes along not accepting him... (17 replies)
... I second what Trystme said. ... (6 replies)
... Wow, getting up to see all these replies has really made me feel a lot better this morning - thanks everyone. I tried to clear the air with my boyfriend last night before we went to sleep (I hate going to sleep on an argument!) but I can tell he is really hacked off with me. I think he thinks I've been hiding how I feel all along from him, which isn't exactly true.
I... (8 replies)
... There aren't any cab services around.
And honestly, if I stayed as late as I wanted then by the time we were done it'd already be morning and I'd be sober anyway.
She just has trust issues. (67 replies)
... trystme, Oh, I get a laugh out of everyone when I suggest she come live with me. She wants her independence and things on her terms. I want to visit, but I know the outcome. I thought of possibly saying I moved back and I could visit every few months and just say I was busy when I didn't see her. She will have crying fits when I leave if I visit, it always happens, which... (10 replies)
... Agree with TRYSTME for sure. Here's how this plays out. Been there myself. Scenario 1 They get pulled over, cop smells weed, arrested. ... (13 replies)
... I'm not saying that it is BS because I think that you are lying, I'm saying it is BS because you are choosing to live this life. No one is making you live this way except for yourself. I'm saying BS because this is a pattern that you have created for yourself and no one except for you can get you out of it. I'm saying BS because you say that you aren't "chasing him" anymore... (59 replies)
... d my parents live close, they live in the next town from me. I have never had my parents spare keys since i have not lived with them. Everybodys different and no trystme it is NOT total bullS. ... (59 replies)
... I agree with trystme. Someone who keeps cheating over and over again clearly doesn't want stay married. I can't think of any other possible reason for the repeated cheating. This marriage seems to be far beyond repair and not even worth anything anymore. If I were you, I'd get the best lawyer I could afford and get custody of the kids. What else is there left to do? (23 replies)
... IDK. I've never had to make appointments for someone with a hyphenated name. I would think that as long as the person that you are calling knows who you are then you could give one name but if you are new or they are unfamiliar with you, then it is probably best to give the full name. (5 replies)
... Thanks trystme. So legally he can have a hyphenated last name but when making appointments etc can 1 last name be used? (5 replies)
... You can put on some weight and she can lose some, but the fact is she will always be taller than you - and I hear most women prefer taller men. I agree with Trystme that she sounds a bit immature, but it could also be her character/personality and this is harder to change. She sounds serious when she says you don't compliment each other.
I really don't know what to advice.... (5 replies)
... They've been together less than 2 years, and the sex texting happened during the first year, so it's not like she was digging around for dirt from years ago. I can understand how hurt, angry and betrayed she felt.
Having said that, you've done all you can to try and make things better, the rest is really out of your hands now other than cutting off your family altogether,... (29 replies)
... I'm going to have to agree with trystme, here. I've broken up with a few people in the past and it took me a long, long time to think about why I was doing it. In my first break up, it was with someone I had dated for almost 5 years, he had cheated on me in the past, I told him I was willing to let it go because he was so physically sick that he did it, but I was never the... (12 replies)
... That was my big question. Thank you. As I'm beginning to learn more about OCD I didn't want to worsen this situation by encouraging his behavior. (7 replies)
... The truth is, I can't stop thinking about the baby. I was even up at 4 a.m. and I couldn't sleep because it is something that really worries me.
trystme - I could care less how many presents they buy my son. A phone call on my son's birthday or after his surgery is what is important. Is that too much to ask of family? I don't know if you have kids or nieces/nephews, but... (14 replies)
... Oh, that's what i was referring to as a come back:D
I wish I was a quick thinker. So often when things like this happen my brain is not quick enough to have a witty reply. It's usually about an hour later I think to myself "I should have said this..."
I was thinking about her comment about me in the bikini and I think it was a back handed remark on how she "disapproves"... (30 replies)