... She sounds unstable, talking about marriage one second and leaving you the next. No wonder you feel the way you do because she gives mixed messages. I wonder if she'd coming running back if you acted like you got a new job paying $150,000, but if she did, then she's just a gold digger. Sounds like she needs to work on herself. I think you can do better. You deserve someone... (11 replies)
... I can and sometimes do command my repsect. The problem is that she does not learn or acknowledge it because she is too stubborn. If somebody tells me that I do or say something that upseta them, I become conscious of this and avoid upsetting them. I dont want my life to be like this and I need to do something about it. I know I am strong enough to move on and could do... (62 replies)
... Aside from that ... this woman is unstable and I'd leave in a heartbeat... unless this is the life you want... is it? ... (62 replies)
... i think you should break up w this girl, just my opnion. i know you probably love her and want to "help" her, but it sounds like she is a very unstable person. ... (13 replies)
... She sounds really unstable and really immature. I don't know what to tell you. ... (16 replies)
... in my opinion, the root of the problem is that your girlfriend is comfortable in the role of "victim". You want to be the white knight and rescue the damsel in distress. ... (48 replies)
... Right...if my husband did any of the things that you got in a fight over, I can't say that I wouldn't be ticked off too but good god...I wouldn't go crazy and start hitting myself! That's nuts...she's NUTS!:eek: (67 replies)
... I really find it sad that everyone is being rude to the poster! The issue isn't whether he walks ahead of his girlfriend or whether he brings his friggin computer to a restaurant or the fact that she didn't need a bag for one measly item. ... (67 replies)
... My first question would be "Why are you having a nice lunch together at a restraunt and you have your Computer bag & gym bag with you?"
Maybe she feels you care more about these items rather than her and she doesn't feel like she has a right to say anything because you don't live together and that is driving her a little batty. Just a thought. I love the computer and ex... (67 replies)
... girl, and then tell her friends and family that you had to break up with her and that she will probably need their support. While it's not your fault that she's unstable and could hurt herself, it's never good to continue a lie in these situations. ... (6 replies)
... id and petty arguments with our SOs, but most of us do not explode into this suicidal monster over these petty things even on our worst PMS days. I'm sorry, but unstable doesn't even begin to describe her. ... (67 replies)
... okay this is has become ridiculous. i got halfway through reading these posts and it was just annoying. i can see from your side, and i can see from hers. i agree that the whole pounding her head and pulling her hair and wanting to kill herself.. is infact unstable. i think you are being closed-minded when it comes to the freakin sauce jar. she wanted a bag, big deal. you dont... (67 replies)
... Wow. Almost 50 responses over a jar of sauce -- not to mention the initial pouting, silent treatment, pulling of the hair, suicidal threats -- am I missing anything?
I'm not trying to make light of your situation, OP; I'm really not. But if you're in an otherwise healthy relationship, a snipity convo after a meal should NOT result in something like this, i.e., what I... (67 replies)
... Treat his wife that way? I don't understand what you mean...I'm talking about the wife expecting the man to do everything...work all the time and come home and work at home too. No taking care of kids isn't an easy job but it is a job that many women choose rather than working outside the home. I certainly wouldn't expect my husband to work all the time and come home and do... (67 replies)
... okay i'm putting my two cents in.....
I have read all of the posts and agree with the girls who are on his side not opposing him.
First off he asked her to carry it, who cares if it had a bag or not, she shouldn't even have to question him for a bag she should just carry the jar and not be such a baby about it i mean how hard is it carry a little jar while he is carrying... (67 replies)
... This is the hard part about getting adivce over the internet. None of us was there, we did not see the interaction and who got snarky first, who used wht tone, etc. But from your initial telling of the story, you asked her to carry the bottle, she had no problem with it until you INSISTED she carry it by hand rather than in a bag. i can only assume your tone even at that point... (67 replies)
... you know, I dont think it really is anybodys fault here, you need something different from a woman than she is offering and vice versa.... I can probably venture to bet you probably were a little snippy, demanding and irritated with her for wanting to get a plastic bag... if you had asked her nicely, hon.. would you mind not using a plastic bag to carry the jar? I bet she... (67 replies)
... I agree with you.I think your personalities are mismatched also.Now comes the hard part.How do you breakup with someone that is suicidal?:eek: (67 replies)
... I'm clearly a cold, unfeeling person to have taken my girlfriend to lunch, paid for the meal as I always do ... ... (67 replies)
... rational and very black and white, but by no means an emotional robot. The girlfriend seems sensitive and a bit immature. ... (67 replies)