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Im twenty years old, and I have been dating my boyfriend for four years. We started having sex six months into the relationship, and it was not till the last year (if that) that I had found a way to orgasm with him. Regular sex only can give me really small orgasms. If im on top that works; however, I feel like im just using him as a tool.

I started masturbating at a young age (six years old), and I did it quite frequently (like 3-5 times a day). I still masturbate like once a day maybe twice at the most, but I try to involve my boyfriend. He hates helping me masturbate, because he says it is just a tease and leaves him wanting oral sex or just sex. I always do him, so I don't see what the problem is.

The real reason he says he does not want to do it is because he says its boring. The funny thing is he gets hard every time I ask him "to talk". What I mean by "talking" is it really turns me on and makes me orgasm unbeleivably when he talks to me about having sex with other people. I really get turned on when he talks to me about having sex with my friends. He doesnt really have sex with other people, and I wouldnt want him to, but I love hearing that type of dirty talk in order to orgasm.

Is this normal? I mean before I started using this techinique a year ago, I never got turned on by just a guy and a girl. It had to be 2 girls or multiple people (like a three some). I just feel so weird. Why cant I like things that arnt so taboo. I get mad at myself for getting turned on about these things, especially when it comes to the fantasy about my bf with my friends or us having a threesome. Also, my bf hates it that I cant masturbate and orgasm by using my fingers. Is it that rare that I masturbate by humping a pillow? How can I use the same technique or a different one, but during sex and not humping a pillow? I have tried during sex, but I only get wet and excited, but I dont climax. I hope someone like me can respond back or atleast someone who knows of someone like this. Am I messud up in the head? Sorry about the long long post, but I guesse im venting.
[QUOTE=brwneyedgirl020]Im twenty years old, and I have been dating my boyfriend for four years. We started having sex six months into the relationship, and it was not till the last year (if that) that I had found a way to orgasm with him. Regular sex only can give me really small orgasms. If im on top that works; however, I feel like im just using him as a tool.

I started masturbating at a young age (six years old), and I did it quite frequently (like 3-5 times a day). I still masturbate like once a day maybe twice at the most, but I try to involve my boyfriend. He hates helping me masturbate, because he says it is just a tease and leaves him wanting oral sex or just sex. I always do him, so I don't see what the problem is.

The real reason he says he does not want to do it is because he says its boring. The funny thing is he gets hard every time I ask him "to talk". What I mean by "talking" is it really turns me on and makes me orgasm unbeleivably when he talks to me about having sex with other people. I really get turned on when he talks to me about having sex with my friends. He doesnt really have sex with other people, and I wouldnt want him to, but I love hearing that type of dirty talk in order to orgasm.

Is this normal? I mean before I started using this techinique a year ago, I never got turned on by just a guy and a girl. It had to be 2 girls or multiple people (like a three some). I just feel so weird. Why cant I like things that arnt so taboo. I get mad at myself for getting turned on about these things, especially when it comes to the fantasy about my bf with my friends or us having a threesome. Also, my bf hates it that I cant masturbate and orgasm by using my fingers. Is it that rare that I masturbate by humping a pillow? How can I use the same technique or a different one, but during sex and not humping a pillow? I have tried during sex, but I only get wet and excited, but I dont climax. I hope someone like me can respond back or atleast someone who knows of someone like this. Am I messud up in the head? Sorry about the long long post, but I guesse im venting.[/QUOTE]

hi,
I don't think that its a problem/actually its quite normal... ...what it is in all reality your just being kind to yourself/// if the talking dirty to you is a turn on...so what thats good at least its a turn on...hummping a pillow agian so what if it gets you turn on....as far as you and your b/f thats something you guys will have to work out we can't say "how to's on here" .....try rubbin pelvic bones togather while having intercourse, with deep penatration that should arouse you to stimulation....just a thought.......anywayz >watching some one else have sex is a turn on or just thinking bout having sex with another person is a turn on...its your inner thoughts that bring that out....to me watching a porn movie and the guy having intercourse and he's huge size and his partner is moaning and really into the sex...that itself is a turn on to me because I'm thinking if that was me how goooood it would feel/for women it's probably the same but not as much visaul/ maybe more mental......the mind is a little wild at times....but like my g/f said she don't care where I get my sexual apptite as long as I come home to eat...

I always wanted to try a threesome...with two other women of course...but it would be interesting with 2 guys and one woman.





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