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Re: Upset and down.
Sep 15, 2006
[QUOTE=Angelwing]About two months ago, I spilt up with my boyfriend, well now he's my ex-boyfriend, and, I found it really really hard. I felt like I had literally hit rock bottom. I loved him so much, and I still do love him. He told me that he didnt want a girlfriend, but then about 2 or 3 weeks after we split, he starting going out with one of my friends. I felt like rubbish. All I did for days was cry and not eat.

Then it started to get better, I began to pick up myself and move on, until now. I cant bare it, I love him, but he is with someone else. Its hard for me because we're still close friends, and I have caught him looking at me a few times, but I know those looks will mean nothing.

When im with him and my friends, all I want to do is hug him and never let go. But I cant do that. Im my eyes he is the most perfect person, we went out for 9 months, and cause im in the middle of my teenage years, it really isnt nice.

He cant understand how it feels. I really need some help form you guys, advice, anything, just to stop me crying and feeling so low.

Thankyou.[/QUOTE]

The only thing that will really make it hurt less is time. But I very strongly suggest not seeing him for a while. I know you want to be his friend, and he probably shares your group of friends, so it would be hard. But all your doing is keeping yourself in a position to remember it all. What you need is time and space. Trust me.. I've been there.. we all have.

It took me a long long time to get over my "first love." I was doing good until he called me out of the blue one day to hang out one day.. we ended up having sex. I thought it meant we were getting back together.. he thought differently. That sent me back to square one.

The only thing that got me through it was space, no phone calls, no IMs, no text messages, so seeing eachother. Give yourself time to heal. I also have great friends who helped keep me busy and too preoccupied to think about him. I also tried reminding myself of anything even slightly negative about him! hah..

Remember that things happen for reasons. At the time, Chris was the only one I wanted to be with.. since then I've had other relationships, am currently in one and happier than Ive ever been! Everything is a learning process. You can't have good experience without bad ones. This is just one more stepping stone and you will cross. I know that right now it seems that it will never be better.. but it will.





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