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Well I was just fresh in high school 4 years ago and I remember what we actually though of labia being long and all that. We (or I) thought labia being long, "loose", etc meant a girl had/has sex very often, that women were always tight both inside and outer(labia,etc) if they didn't have sex. So...we were pretty wrong and your bf just didn't know better.
[QUOTE=MysteriousGuy]Well I was just fresh in high school 4 years ago and I remember what we actually though of labia being long and all that. We (or I) thought labia being long, "loose", etc meant a girl had/has sex very often, that women were always tight both inside and outer(labia,etc) if they didn't have sex. So...we were pretty wrong and your bf just didn't know better.[/QUOTE]


ughhh well he fingered me.
but like.
it seemed like he had some trouble. and got tangled in them a bit. its the first time hes done it. do you think he thinks im gross now? he acted all funny and nice afterwards. and normal about it. but i dont want him to talk to his friends and be like "dude her lips felt huge" or something. im paranoid always though. thats the only thing im worried about is him telling somone. :confused:
I hope I have not replied too late to this comment. Also, I hope because I am 30, that posting in the "teen" section is okay for this. You have recieved some wonderful advice on this subject and I'm not sure if I could say anything that has not been said, but I can share my experience with you if it will help anyway. I too have a longer labia and even to this day, I get worried how I look "down there". When I first became sexualy active, I had a boyfriend who made a terrible comment about my looks below the belt and it hurt my feelings horribly. That one thing stayed with me even to this day. BUT! Not one partner that I had before I got married said anything bad about my labia area. So, what does that tell you? There are a few jerks out there who say things just to look macho or they are really insecure and uneducated. Also, some guys will talk crap like that in front of their friends to sound like they actually have a choice of what kind of labia they want! Long story short, most men really don't care if you have longer labia. Also, just because you have a longer labia, DOES NOT MAKE YOU LOOSE! That is the most ridiculous one I have ever heard. Even with my labia I am tight and my husband even likes the friction when we have sex. He calls it his "little flower". Also, did you know that in Japan and China, women with longer labias are considered "roses" and are a sign of fertility and total womanhood. When you say you are concerned about how it looks in a bathing suit, I have the same worries and it even pinches in certain clothes. And for that reason only, I am looking into a procedure called "labiaplasty". You can do a search and read about it. If it wasn't for the bathing suit thing or the pinching, I would not even think about the procedure at all. Because, what the guys think does not matter to me. Only that my husband likes it. The next time your boyfriend makes a stupid comment like that...call him on it! Tell him he must be pretty shallow and uneducated in the anatomy of the female to think such dumb things. Also, it is very immature. I hope my story helps you and you go on to have a healthy sex life without worry about what one jerk thinks. Embrace who you are and be glad your different! Could you imagine if all penises looked the same? Yawn....boring!!![QUOTE=ChinaDina]Well he didnt say it about me directly.
he doesnt know. but im afraid to show him.
that maybe he'll think im gross. did i mention in 16? i always hear boys use the term "meat curtain" or "roast beef". and make jokes about girls being "overused" due to their labia appearence. and ive always been afraid of a boy thinking that about me. these thoughts worry me everyday really. its basically a daily stress/anxiety issue i have to deal with everytime i see myself. im tall (about 5'7) and very thin and my whole life everyones told me how perfect my body structure was. and how pretty i was. and that i should model. But ive always remeber how gross i felt down there and how people would think im gross because of it. plus most models you see my age dont have buldge. im not just comparing to models, i look wierd im bathing suits compared to other girls.
this boy really isnt a jerk. he is inexpierenced. but all i hear is labia jokes from guys. ive gotten used to changing the subject quickly before i have to walk away hurt. so him making them would be normal. i just hope he'll find me normal too.

if you a bit older im wondering in early years. like 15-18[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=jumpinhorse]I hope I have not replied too late to this comment. Also, I hope because I am 30, that posting in the "teen" section is okay for this. You have recieved some wonderful advice on this subject and I'm not sure if I could say anything that has not been said, but I can share my experience with you if it will help anyway. I too have a longer labia and even to this day, I get worried how I look "down there". When I first became sexualy active, I had a boyfriend who made a terrible comment about my looks below the belt and it hurt my feelings horribly. That one thing stayed with me even to this day. BUT! Not one partner that I had before I got married said anything bad about my labia area. So, what does that tell you? There are a few jerks out there who say things just to look macho or they are really insecure and uneducated. Also, some guys will talk crap like that in front of their friends to sound like they actually have a choice of what kind of labia they want! Long story short, most men really don't care if you have longer labia. Also, just because you have a longer labia, DOES NOT MAKE YOU LOOSE! That is the most ridiculous one I have ever heard. Even with my labia I am tight and my husband even likes the friction when we have sex. He calls it his "little flower". Also, did you know that in Japan and China, women with longer labias are considered "roses" and are a sign of fertility and total womanhood. When you say you are concerned about how it looks in a bathing suit, I have the same worries and it even pinches in certain clothes. And for that reason only, I am looking into a procedure called "labiaplasty". You can do a search and read about it. If it wasn't for the bathing suit thing or the pinching, I would not even think about the procedure at all. Because, what the guys think does not matter to me. Only that my husband likes it. The next time your boyfriend makes a stupid comment like that...call him on it! Tell him he must be pretty shallow and uneducated in the anatomy of the female to think such dumb things. Also, it is very immature. I hope my story helps you and you go on to have a healthy sex life without worry about what one jerk thinks. Embrace who you are and be glad your different! Could you imagine if all penises looked the same? Yawn....boring!!![/QUOTE]

That really did help. I hoped i could get some advice from somone a lot more expierenced. A lot of advice from girls around my age say labiaplasty isnt worth it and whatever. I looked it up. I hate the fact that i want to be the weak link in this, going to surgery to be "normal". i feel like im being weak. But i really do want the procedure as soon as i cant get it.
Mine outer lips dont even come in contact in the front. and the inner labia are so big. i hate it. I feel like im an extreme case or something. I see myself everyday in the mirror. when i take a shower. Not one day goes by that seeing myself doesnt upset me. I think recently they may have even gotten larger. and i cannot wear a bathing suit. i really cant. i feel like im not normal. even though im told i am, i dont want to be like this. Not only does it affect me mentally, but physically im in constant irritation. I cant wear loose underwear or my thighs rub agenst them (even though my thighs are skinny) and irritate them. And when i wear tight underwear i need to readjust every once in a while. readjust. like a guy. I dont know what age id have to be to get the procedure, but i want it. Its basically just acess skin isnt it? so its not like i would lose much right? Have you already planned on getting it? Id like to keep in contact with you then.
[B][FONT="Arial Black"]Oh my god, I need help. I have been stressing over the EXACT same thing.
K so theres this guy, that i really like, and he likes me too, but we;ve never hooked up or anything.
I just broke up with my ex boyfriend who "loved" my longer labia. (one side is longer than the other inner labia) I was so embarassed about it at first, and i think he could tell and he told me he loved it and it turned him on so much.
But now im single and i have to worry about a different guy maybe hating it?
The topic came up about guys eating girls out haha kinda embarassing but he's like "i love eating girls out when they have a nice tight vagina"
I felt sick to my stomach becuz eventually were gunna end up hooking up and wut if he's like "sick yours isnt tight" or is totaly turned off, becuz apparently and obviously he likes them "tight" right?
UGH! im freaking out! I just want surgery so i dont have to be embarassed anymore. But thats costly. :(
What do u guys think about this??[/FONT][/B]





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