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You're on the right track. Anything that will boost the self-esteem should be done. Exercise, grooming, a new wardrobe, etc. will help.

I don't necessarily agree that someone who doesn't feel good about themselves and hasn't been in a relationship should jump right into one. Someone with bad self-esteem are more likely to attract and stay in a relationship that may not work, settling on a person who is less than ideal (sometimes even abusive) out of fear of not finding a person they're more compatable with. It's the old "a bad known situationis better than an unknown situation".

I have worked on getting my self-esteem up by taking better care of myself, getting out of a bad work environment, and helping my friends and aquaintences whenever possible. Where did this lead me? I have spent some time helping a friend move, met a guy who I have a crush on and I think he likes me too, spent time at the friend's wedding dancing with the guy, and as soon as the bride and groom come back from their honeymoon, I'll be asking for them to help me get a date with the guy. He's not the chiseled gym-rat type. Actually he's a few years older than me, roughly mid-30's, receding hairline, a few gray hairs, a bit of a beer belly going, and divorced, but all that doesn't matter because he has the best sense of humor, a contagious smile, and he [I]really [/I]can dance. NinjaCowboy, I agree that someone who works out and is chiseled can be pretty intimidating.

As for me, about 6 years ago, I dumped the freeloading friends who were content with taking advantage of my giving nature and filled my time with going back to school for my Associate's Degree. I tried Accutane, but had to stop halfway through because I switched jobs and couldn't afford COBRA. I have been working out 2-3 times per week, have been eating better, and have lost 10 lbs. And I swore that whatever clothes I see in the stores will not be bought unless they flatter my figure better than what is already in my closet.
[QUOTE=Erica in IL]You're on the right track. Anything that will boost the self-esteem should be done. Exercise, grooming, a new wardrobe, etc. will help.

I don't necessarily agree that someone who doesn't feel good about themselves and hasn't been in a relationship should jump right into one. Someone with bad self-esteem are more likely to attract and stay in a relationship that may not work, settling on a person who is less than ideal (sometimes even abusive) out of fear of not finding a person they're more compatable with. It's the old "a bad known situationis better than an unknown situation".

I have worked on getting my self-esteem up by taking better care of myself, getting out of a bad work environment, and helping my friends and aquaintences whenever possible. Where did this lead me? I have spent some time helping a friend move, met a guy who I have a crush on and I think he likes me too, spent time at the friend's wedding dancing with the guy, and as soon as the bride and groom come back from their honeymoon, I'll be asking for them to help me get a date with the guy. He's not the chiseled gym-rat type. Actually he's a few years older than me, roughly mid-30's, receding hairline, a few gray hairs, a bit of a beer belly going, and divorced, but all that doesn't matter because he has the best sense of humor, a contagious smile, and he [I]really [/I]can dance. NinjaCowboy, I agree that someone who works out and is chiseled can be pretty intimidating.

As for me, about 6 years ago, I dumped the freeloading friends who were content with taking advantage of my giving nature and filled my time with going back to school for my Associate's Degree. I tried Accutane, but had to stop halfway through because I switched jobs and couldn't afford COBRA. I have been working out 2-3 times per week, have been eating better, and have lost 10 lbs. And I swore that whatever clothes I see in the stores will not be bought unless they flatter my figure better than what is already in my closet.[/QUOTE]

Well, you seem to be doing everything right in my books. Just exactly how I have said it. My point is there are other ways (easier, less expensive and less complicated) to improve yourself and look awesome than using accutane, and the host of meds. I now truely believe that those meds are reserved for the most serious of cases where medication is the only option to prevent extreme damage to the skin. On the other hand, if your acne isn't detrimental, I say screw the meds for good and move on to other aspects of your life. Trust me, you'll look back and wonder "why the hell didn't I just do this earlier?" and " What was I thinking?" Ever since I have been in this relationship, I haven't even taken one day to count the number of pimples on my face. My acne is still there, but I no longer have any concern for it. In all honesty, the feeling is really strong and powerful; it feels more powerful than having the cure for acne. I wish you could all understand. I wish I could share this all with you.





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