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Hello,

I am an ADD daughter of frustrated parents. I used to take Strattera and Concerta. Now I'm taking Adderall XR. My grades have always been a rollercoaster---sometimes I'm passing a few classes, and most of the time I'm failing. It is a constant cycle ever since 1st grade. The same thing ever year: Doesn't pay attention, Seems withdrawn, doesn't do homework, doesn't go to bed on time, doesn't get to school on time. And somehow I pull it off and do just enough to pass to the next grade level. We have our moments when we can totally surprise everyone with our creativity, love, and effort. Parents---what is totally crucial to our success in school is love and attachment. What I mean is I found out that I will do anything for a parent or teacher when I know that I will be rewarded for my efforts.....the ADD mind doesn't always 'get' how numbers (grades) are the reward. When the teacher is positive and is flexible with your learnings styles it can make a world of difference. When you motivate with positive reinforcement that is something that will put more pep in our step than any ADD med on the market. And don't be thinking "Oh we've tried it once, and it didn't work." Trust me, it might not always show immediatley on the outside, but inside your self-esteem is rising and you feel happier....and soon when you are happy inside and feel like you are loved and understood.....the results are enough to blow your mind away.
Just remember that all AD/HD meds are just chemicals that carry out their purpose very well....keep you on task, alert, complete tasks. But don't forget that no drug on earth can take away will power, the power to choose.

I found this off a website about ADHD teens:

A Model for Promoting Prosocial Behavior
Perhaps the most critical factor influencing the development of prosocial behavior is attachment to at least one prosocial adult who believes in the child and provides unconditional acceptance and support. Hawkins explains that prosocial behavior results when children bond with prosocial adults and peers and adopt their beliefs and values. Conversely, antisocial behavior results if children bond to antisocial individuals, such as gang members, and adopt their beliefs and values instead.
Many experts agree that attachment to even one caring, responsible - adult whether a teacher, administrator, bus driver, custodian, relative, or community member - can help children become prosocial. A study of the effects of remediation on delinquency showed that the child's bond with the tutor affected school attitude and behavior more than improved grades.
Children seek to imitate and gain approval from their role models, whether good or bad. Once children bond with antisocial peer groups, their behavior becomes more difficult to change. Schools, families, and communities can work together to ensure that all children are cared for and have prosocial adults to emulate, thus assuring the transmission of prosocial beliefs and values to the next generation.

Thanks for taking the time to read my post! :wave:

Imagination is the highest kite one can fly.

- Lauren Bacall





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