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WallSal,

I'm a 30 yr old man and just recently was diagnosed ADD. My wife had called me several months ago at work and started the converstaion with "I figured out what's wrong with you." Every man loves to hear a woman say that... ;) She'd run across a web site that listed common symptoms of adult ADD. Anyway, after some time of reflection I finally started researching things myself. I never had behavior problems at school as a kid and had always just considered myself a highly unorganized person who just for whatever reason lacked the discipline I needed to get things done the right way. I saw myself as quirky and creative. When I learned about what ADD was and lost the sterotype of a nine-year-old bouncing off the walls of a classroom, I quickly saw myself on those web pages. I read all these traits that spelled out my life. I then went to the doctor to get his analysis and referral to a psychiatrist for further testing.

It was a mixture of feelings when I became aware of my ADD condition. At first there was this relief and then a blending of insecurity from a "great there's something wrong with me" thought when you realize you now have a label. Men are reluctant to go to the doctor anyway. We're also reluctant to talk about relational problems, especially when we are the root of them.

I have no idea what would work with him to convince him he needs to address his ADD. Some web sites highlight what it's like to live with an ADD spouse and how having ADD can affect your family. Maybe you could find some info and print it for him to read. Someone suggested the book "You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid Or Crazy?!: A Self-help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder" and it might be a good shot if he would actually read it. Or, buy the audio version. I don't have the book yet, but it's ordered. He isn't going to do anything until he sees how his ADD can have a negative effect on his life and his family. I've read several different sources that say adults with ADD have a higher likelihood of getting divorced. He needs to be aware of that. He needs to realize that he may be taking for granted your willingness to stand by his side through whatever in life. Of course, treating his ADD won't be a cure-all and there are possibly other areas of your relationship that need help/attention. Heck, make an appointment for him and organize the day far in advance so it's convenient for him to go.





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