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[QUOTE=tomminny]My 6 year old son was diagnosed with adhd. His mother and I were divorced when he was 4 and she was remarried a year later. Her new husband is very strict to the point where the kids are not allowed to play with toys outside their bedrooms. My son was chewing with his mouth open and was banned from their basement playroom for a month...
We went to a counselor for awhile where my ex kept pushing how bad my son was at home and in school. I did not see the behaviors she talked about when he was at my house (once or twice during the week and over the weekends). I lost the battle with the counselor and they put my son on strattara at age 5. He was on that for a little over a year. I did not like the effect the strattara had on him....I think it made him more aggressive and his emotions seemed very on edge. The doctor did not like the way my son was not gaining weight so they switched him to concerta in January. I am much happier with the concerta because I can choose not to give it to him as it does not have to be kept at a level in his blood like the Strattara was.
I went to the doctors with my ex. yesterday to ask some questions. The first thing as we sat there in the office is the doctor said he could tell right away that the dosage was working because my son looked like he was behaving well. I said "He has been staying with me for three days so had not had the meds during that time". The doctory was taken back by that but said nothing. I told the doctor that I did not have the problems with my son that my ex seems to have at her house. He said "The reason for that is that your son holds it together at your house and when he gets home, he lets it all out." I am baffled by that statement. I have had my son for almost a week now with no meds and he seems to be doing great. We are on break from school so he has not had schoolwork so I cannot gauge his school behavior without the meds.
Could anyone comment on this turning adhd on and off? Is this possible if it is true adhd?
Thank you for your time.


Ok, now that I'm done laughing at the counselor I'll give my 2 cents in. I have to comment at how convenient that answer was...about your son holding it together for you but letting it out when he gets home. Wow. I wonder how many people in your postion they tell that sounds so formulaic, too perfect of an answer in my opinion. And it makes no sense.

Sounds like he really should be on his best behavior with the strict army of a house your ex and her spouse run....but why isn't he? Well, IMHO, I think he's being harrassed and he's not at all happy about it. This is the food stress feeds on...the emotional disappointment of mom and dad not loving each other anymore (and the child wonders if mom or dad can stop loving him too), and the other situation with a new person moving in, who had no rights in his life suddenly coming in and pushing him around as though they did.

Did the counselor ever think of that...the fact that maybe your son is not happy in that environment with your ex and her guy, and it shows in his behavior??

Oddly enough, when he's with you, he is not being harrassed or stressed, thus a better behavior. Happy children behave much differently than unhappy ones.....and I think this is also true of many adults. I don't think one needs a PHD to figure this stuff out, it's simple logic. But then, logic doesn't sell pills.

Divorce is a trauma on children, it rocks their foundations, their security. So if that isn't bad enough, they then may have to also have some stranger come into their house and try to replace one of their parents, this is not only upsetting but if they can't get along, then the children start to feel resentment towards the person who has no authority in their lives other than pushing themselves in on it! The conflict can create enormous stress on any child....

Insecure, resentful, over-stressed children are not going to behave well now, don't you think??

By the way, good job pulling one over on the counselor about the meds... which I really doubt the child needs....IMHO, since I'm not a doctor I cannot tell you to not give him the meds.

Now, if you are worried about the long-term problems of taking meds, you should have every right to express that; you have rights too.

New studies show long term theraputic use of amphetamines or amphetamine like drugs can lead to development of depression; also, they are drugs of dependancy and tolerance, which can cause numerous problems. THere are also the known mood problems that can develop. THere are also the health related factors on the cardiovascular system among many others.

You might be interested in some of the information out there, you can look up people like Dr. Peter Breggin, Dr. Fred Baughman. You might want to also look up Dr. Ann Tracy, PHD, she is mainly concerned with the damage done to children by antidepressants but I think whether one is talking about antidepressant, stimulants or traquilizers, the concerns about drugs that effect the brain function and change moods are still one in the same.

Look up adverse and side effects of Concerta or even Ritalin, since I'm under the impression Concerta is a longer acting version of Ritalin. Looking up that information may arm you in your concerns for your son's future health and well being, so do some research.

Good luck, with it all...

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