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[QUOTE=sassykitten74]We are having a VERY similar problem with my step son. My DH had custody of the kids for 3 yrs(he's military)but when he had to move to a different state-a joke of an emergency custody hearing turned custody over to the mother since she would be staying put. Anyway the mother has now had custody for about 5 months and suddenly SS has all kinds of issues/problems that we do NOT see when he's here. He started a psychologist and a psychaitrist-was put on Stratarra on his FIRST visit there with no testing done. Testing was done afterwards and they have changed their minds from an ADHD dx to now a bi-polar dx!! Oh yeah Tourette's syndrom was also mentioned because he developed tics as a side effect from the straterra. These people seem to be listening to MOm only and not us at all and all mom wants is a magic pill to make SS act right. She nor the Drs. will even consider the fact that the poor kid is just upset over his daddy moving far away and going from living with dad and myself(step mom) to living with mom. Its very frustrating. Oh and she used to be the type that did not believe in meds like that but has changed her tune since she got married and her husband does not want to deal with any problems.[/QUOTE]

It sounds like you've already got it figured out, on the money!!! It's terrible the child has no rights here. It's one thing if an adult decides hey, I have a terrible time focusing and want to take meds, because they are old enough to decide if they are willing to take all the health risks involved but the poor kid has to do what he is told, even if the drug harms him in some ways.

Biological medication is given for these conditions where there are no existing biological tests. The drugs themselves can be harmful health wise and even create mood problems and as you have seen, neurological damage in the form of tics.

Lots of kids are getting tardive dyskinesia from neuroleptics given to them to control and calm them; sometimes neuorleptics are used to counter the stimulants side effects! Tardive dyskinesia is a horrible neurological ailment, I've seen kids in wheelchairs grimacing(sometimes looks like smiling or making faces) and losing control of tongue, neck and trunk movements wondering how they got that way; if it was from drugs.

That's the worst case of course but drugs that effect the brain function can cause various effects maybe not as bad as Tardive dyskinesia but bad nevertheless.

It's sad because nobody asked these kids if they are willing to take these risks from medications. And the kids wouldn't be able anyway to make the decision like an adult would.

Well, I hope there is something you can do for your stepson because now he has been labeled mentally disordered and usually it is hard once that happens to fight the system, especially if one parent is on the other side of the issue.

Maybe you could encourage him to fight it himself, at least he may get his mother to hear him.

You might be interested in Dr. Fred Baughman and Dr. Peter Breggin's take on the biological points of ADD and also of the drugs prescribed for it.

I'm seriously doubting he is bi-polar either since you and your husband have not seen any behavior of that sort while he was living with you.
[QUOTE=Jennita]It sounds like you've already got it figured out, on the money!!! It's terrible the child has no rights here. It's one thing if an adult decides hey, I have a terrible time focusing and want to take meds, because they are old enough to decide if they are willing to take all the health risks involved but the poor kid has to do what he is told, even if the drug harms him in some ways.

Biological medication is given for these conditions where there are no existing biological tests. The drugs themselves can be harmful health wise and even create mood problems and as you have seen, neurological damage in the form of tics.

Lots of kids are getting tardive dyskinesia from neuroleptics given to them to control and calm them; sometimes neuorleptics are used to counter the stimulants side effects! Tardive dyskinesia is a horrible neurological ailment, I've seen kids in wheelchairs grimacing(sometimes looks like smiling or making faces) and losing control of tongue, neck and trunk movements wondering how they got that way; if it was from drugs.

That's the worst case of course but drugs that effect the brain function can cause various effects maybe not as bad as Tardive dyskinesia but bad nevertheless.

It's sad because nobody asked these kids if they are willing to take these risks from medications. And the kids wouldn't be able anyway to make the decision like an adult would.

Well, I hope there is something you can do for your stepson because now he has been labeled mentally disordered and usually it is hard once that happens to fight the system, especially if one parent is on the other side of the issue.

Maybe you could encourage him to fight it himself, at least he may get his mother to hear him.

You might be interested in Dr. Fred Baughman and Dr. Peter Breggin's take on the biological points of ADD and also of the drugs prescribed for it.

I'm seriously doubting he is bi-polar either since you and your husband have not seen any behavior of that sort while he was living with you.[/QUOTE]


Thank you for the information, I do appreciate it. My DH has begged his ex to let SS move here to be with us and to at least give it a chance(she refuses to believe us when we tell her he just does NOT act this way when he's with us!!) before meds, but she refuses. Why she'd want to put her son on potentially dangerous meds before at least trying to see if he'd be better off with his father is beyond me. She put him on the stratarra without my husband's permission, knowing it was against his wishes. They do have joint custody so she is not legally entitled to leave my DH out of these decisons. It seems like these drs. are too fast to put a label on SS and his mom seems to be fine with it all?? I think the poor kid could use someone to talk to (therapy) but beyond that I just honestly do not see anything wrong with him. His mom has put him through alot in his life and I really just think he feels more loved and secure here with his dad. Hopefully we'll be able to get something worked out for him. Thanks again-





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