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Pakemuumama,

Absolutely, without question, ADD is a personality type. So are schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, etc. Very few people in the population are without some symptoms of some disorder.

It's a matter of degree.

My 14yo has ADHD to the extent that he cannot function in a classroom without assistance. Without the stigma of the label, he would not be able to receive the services that enable his learning. Without help, he would still be in elementary school. That's not the worst of it. He is so hyper - without medication - that other kids cannot stand to be around him. He has been shunned all of his life. That's not the worst of it.

Neither his inability to learn nor his social isolation were enough to convince us to try medication. Trust me, it was a heartwrenching decision. It was one that we wrestled with for years.

It wasn't until he started calling himself "weird" and saying that "it would be better to be dead" that we decided we were doing him an injustice by not trying every avenue available to us. At that point, all that was left to try was medication. We had already done counseling, behavior mod, dietary modification, supplements, tutoring, a multi-modal approach to education, etc, etc, etc.

We did not put him on medication *without question* nor do we continue him on medication *without question*. It is a decision that we wrestle with daily. However, for the first time in his life, he has kids that he can call "friends". He no longer sits alone in the school cafeteria. He no longer talks about wishing he could "just die".

Perhaps it is a personality disorder on my part, but I cannot help but feel defensive when YOU assume that WE have made assumptions about his disorder and put him on medication without thought. You have absolutely no idea what we've been through.
[QUOTE=index.html]Pakemuumama,

Absolutely, without question, ADD is a personality type. So are schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, etc. Very few people in the population are without some symptoms of some disorder.

It's a matter of degree.

My 14yo has ADHD to the extent that he cannot function in a classroom without assistance. Without the stigma of the label, he would not be able to receive the services that enable his learning. ithout help, he would still be in elementary school. That's not the worst of it. He is so hyper - without medication - that other kids cannot stand to be around him. He has been shunned all of his life. That's not the worst of it.

Neither his inability to learn nor his social isolation were enough to convince us to try medication. Trust me, it was a heartwrenching decision. It was one that we wrestled with for years.

It wasn't until he started calling himself "weird" and saying that "it would be better to be dead" that we decided we were doing him an injustice by not trying every avenue available to us. At that point, all that was left to try was medication. We had already done counseling, behavior mod, dietary modification, supplements, tutoring, a multi-modal approach to education, etc, etc, etc.

We did not put him on medication *without question* nor do we continue him on medication *without question*. It is a decision that we wrestle with daily. However, for the first time in his life, he has kids that he can call "friends". He no longer sits alone in the school cafeteria. He no longer talks about wishing he could "just die".

Perhaps it is a personality disorder on my part, but I cannot help but feel defensive when YOU assume that WE have made assumptions about his disorder and put him on medication without thought. You have absolutely no idea what we've been through.[/QUOTE]

You do realize you are contradicting what most of us have been told by numerous doctors and professionals, that ADD is not a personality disorder but a biological illness almost exactly like diabetes and cancer. ;)

Glad your son is doing well, however! :wave:





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