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Hello !

You have my support ! I found out I was ADD with a learning disability when I was 33, and my daughter was ADD in 5th grade (never finishing homework and never time for fun), and then had an ADHD son....

Family support: My husband left me, and my family said HUMBUG, they are lazy...that was 20 years ago, when ALL THAT IS COMMON KNOWLEDGE NOW, was sure punishment, and Unpopular back then, and I suffered from all kinds of people's comments......

I myself, being ADD, was given a pill, in a facility I went to for diagnositic testing, because I KNEW, I HAD THIS....I just didn't know what the name was ! Without telling me what medication I would be given, a small white tablet was given to me......

It was the first time, I shut up, and sat down, and noticed how beautiful the leaves on trees were.....I was sure it was a giant valium or something.....

It was a 5mg ritalin tablet......it changed my life, and I wonder, had I had this medicine during my high school years, where I struggled and cheated my way out as fast as I could....what I could have been, how things could have been so much better. Relationships I shyed away from.

My professional engineer husband left me, when my daughter was diagnosed ADD, and my son with ADHD....neither walked until they were 18 months old.....they both struggled in school, the unending homework, and my son was always punished in the corner in front of the class......I had to do something ?

So I gave them the medicine, well it worked better for my ADHD son than my ADD daughter it caused anxiety......his handwriting was from another planet and he could not read....and his tests were F's some of the time because they could not read his answers, and were marked with big red X's, stating I will not grade this unless his handwriting improves.....what they must have suffered too, way back, and now that I am 50 my brothers have horror stories...some their life is ruined.......thank God you are standing up for your children....they deserve every, CHANCE to be happy, healthy, people without stigma attached, however the FAMILY, does not always agree........

I took my 5mg of ritalin, and raised my ADHD kids alone, and worked for the last 20 years.......and YES IT IS A FIGHT !....ARD, meeting, fighting with teachers, for handwritten tests, MORE TIME, for my ADD daughter, and where they were weak, Tutors, Tutors, Tutors......and hence needed alot extra money from an already full budget !

However, my daughter, tutored through to her Associate degree, with a tutor for 7 years, and my 18 year son just starting to fail in Junior Year since he moved in with my professional engineer husband, who took him off medicine and put him on a College track with Spanish !

My break for my 7 year old ADHD son was the invention of the home computer !!...I went to a computer store for myself, and he started jumping up and down over a monster truck he saw on a beautiful computer, battleships games, World War II games and begged me to buy it.........

Reluctantly I bought it, and it was the best investment I ever made !!!!!!
He flew to ask me to spell words, to write to other people to play the war games with, he flew to ask me for books on D-Day, and library books of the names of ships, and constantly asking me to spell words to play online with other people.............his grades sored..........he reads well, and is a computer genius at 18.........and works on computers..........grades in Literataure and thing he hates are still very low........down here, home schooling is a big plus for these kids and are actually testing higher into college than the public and private schools.....he just cannot do well in a regular class room, and the punishments are hell on their self esteem !

So, I put my daughter at 16 at an insurance co. by me and made her the receptionist, and now learning slowly she is an adjuster. I have a way to go to get my ADHD son, and pray he makes it through high school, because he wants to just quit and work on computers and servers !

But the way was perilous on my nerves, with the teachers, getting them marked as special education back then because , it was the only way they weren't abused....and I was actually threatened that "special education" would be marked on their diploma ! If I pressed the 504 law onto the school and teachers.....I went to meetings at the local ADHD support school, and Chad organization.....they are online, and a huge organization now, that lists chapters in your area, and you will see other mothers there that look like you and feel like you, and had to share babysitters....to get support from one another.....I am now 50, still struggle with my own ADD, but am happy to report, they can become exactly who God made them to be, when they find their niche........for my son it was the computer..

I told my doctor how unhealthy it was for him to be on the computer all the time, and the psychiatrist said, maybe that is not bad, at least you know where he is and he is learning, spelling, reading.......by age 12, he was playing major games with grown men in WWII games, and winning, and when I spoke to one of his team members, I was shocked he was playing with a 33 year old man, who stated he could not believe that the captain of their team was my 12 year old son !!!!!!! He said, wow, he beats the heck out of all of us....He now types 90 words a minute, and I plan to 'TRY" and harness this into a computer job....... so it does end.......and it can work, when you find out what makes them excited....to want to learn...

Hang in there, you are doing the right thing !!!! From and ADD mom :)





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