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[*I appologize for the length of this post ahead of time*]

Well, I finally decided to break down and get an appointment at the campus health center to see if they can do an add evaluation on me. My appt. is in about 2 weeks.

I was just going to brush it off as being "lazy" or just the "procrastinating queen" in me, but after reading this thread, and knowing that I have only 1 more semester of college left, I wanted to see if maybe I had this disorder. I highly suspect it, since my "symptoms" have been present ever since I was in grade school.

My teachers even in elementary school would say that I was "bright", but just liked to "daydream" a lot, or "look out the window". My grades in school have NEVER been up to my ability. They have always been somewhat low despite the fact that I think I am a very smart individual. I could never understand why.

Even through college, my grades haven't been all that great. I've even failed classes in college, only to have to take them again. :( In high school, it wasn't really "vital" to really read and understand the course material in the books since the teacher usually basically reiterated it again in class. But college has hit me like a brick wall. In fact, I'm surprised I've been able to last as long as I have. My GPA is so low right now, I'm afraid they'll kick me out of my major! It was this realization that spurred me on to really [b]SERIOUSLY[/b] get checked out.

I'm thinking not only for my school career, but also for my JOB career after I graduate. I can forsee these ADD symptoms taking over my life. I have a part-time administrative job right now that I work, and even though I'm pretty proficient, I'm just very fortunate that the office environment is pretty laid back and relaxed for the most part. But when it's really really high-paced/deadlines are due, I'm a nervous wreck! :(

And I find myself getting more and more absent-minded as I get older. :( Soemtimes I just "forget" to do things! This has been present ever since I was young! You should see my room....it's a MESS! It's like a tornado has hit it most of the time. I know this is not normal for a young woman in her 20's! :( My mom asks me to do things around the house, and usually I try to do them, but other times I either don't have the "motivation", or I "forget" what she asked me to do. Or, I'll START something, but won't/can't finish it. It's so crazy.

I just want an end to my absent-mindedness. I want to be able to READ for longer than 2 seconds, and actually stay [b] FOCUSED[/b] on what I read and remember and learn something!

THis is just getting so frustrating.... Does/has anyone feel/felt the same?

I can't wait for my ADD evaluation.... :(
[QUOTE=sweet_chic][*I appologize for the length of this post ahead of time*]

Well, I finally decided to break down and get an appointment at the campus health center to see if they can do an add evaluation on me. My appt. is in about 2 weeks.

I was just going to brush it off as being "lazy" or just the "procrastinating queen" in me, but after reading this thread, and knowing that I have only 1 more semester of college left, I wanted to see if maybe I had this disorder. I highly suspect it, since my "symptoms" have been present ever since I was in grade school.

My teachers even in elementary school would say that I was "bright", but just liked to "daydream" a lot, or "look out the window". My grades in school have NEVER been up to my ability. They have always been somewhat low despite the fact that I think I am a very smart individual. I could never understand why.

Even through college, my grades haven't been all that great. I've even failed classes in college, only to have to take them again. :( In high school, it wasn't really "vital" to really read and understand the course material in the books since the teacher usually basically reiterated it again in class. But college has hit me like a brick wall. In fact, I'm surprised I've been able to last as long as I have. My GPA is so low right now, I'm afraid they'll kick me out of my major! It was this realization that spurred me on to really [b]SERIOUSLY[/b] get checked out.

I'm thinking not only for my school career, but also for my JOB career after I graduate. I can forsee these ADD symptoms taking over my life. I have a part-time administrative job right now that I work, and even though I'm pretty proficient, I'm just very fortunate that the office environment is pretty laid back and relaxed for the most part. But when it's really really high-paced/deadlines are due, I'm a nervous wreck! :(

And I find myself getting more and more absent-minded as I get older. :( Soemtimes I just "forget" to do things! This has been present ever since I was young! You should see my room....it's a MESS! It's like a tornado has hit it most of the time. I know this is not normal for a young woman in her 20's! :( My mom asks me to do things around the house, and usually I try to do them, but other times I either don't have the "motivation", or I "forget" what she asked me to do. Or, I'll START something, but won't/can't finish it. It's so crazy.

I just want an end to my absent-mindedness. I want to be able to READ for longer than 2 seconds, and actually stay [b] FOCUSED[/b] on what I read and remember and learn something!

THis is just getting so frustrating.... Does/has anyone feel/felt the same?

I can't wait for my ADD evaluation.... :([/QUOTE]


Did I write this? :rolleyes:

But seriously, I could have... even your first post about your mom thinking your lazy, I can completely relate. I was "diagnosed" about 3 yrs ago by a psychologist after taking some tests. My mom has come around a little to understanding that I don't [B]try[/B] to take a half an hour to get my coat and bag, it's just after getting sidetracked and distracted 30 times and saying at least 5 times "what was I doing?" to myself it takes that long.

I'm trying to find ways to cope and trying to just accept those aspects that are minor details (like so what if the top of my dresser is covered with everything but the kitchen sink)... anyway... I know your post was a while ago, but I hope u are doing okay with all this.

Take care! :wave:
my mom diagnosed me - she said it wasn't normal for a girl as smart as i am (low-genius level) to fail math three years in a row but get high 90s (and one perfect mark) in languages and history. all my reports say the same thing: "needs to focus", "lacks motivation", "brilliant! such a pleasure to teachy, but needs to let others talk", "was she in my class? i don't remember meeting her" [from a teacher in whose class the highest mark was my absenteeism], and so on.

i have the hyperfocussing form - i either can't focus at all, or i can't pull out of something. if i start reading a book, i MUST finish reading it or i get cranky as all hell. once i'm on the computer, i'm on for a minimuim six hours - 12 or 18 are not uncommon. i'll even keep reading/posting even when i'm about to burst a kidney - it just doesn't register until the dam's about to break.

........there was a point to this but damned if i can remember what i was trying to say.

[later] oh, okay - yeah - so basically, what i hear you saying is you want to be able to fit in with "normal" ppl. you know what? don't! unless you really love your administrative job (and you probably don't, or you'd have no problem figuring out coping mechanisms), the fact that you're having such trouble with it just means you're not in the right milieu. why not go to a career counsellor and find something that fits in with your ADHD? most jobs requiring creativity and fast thinking - motivational speaking, marketing, etc - are tailor made for us.

i guess what i'm thinking is that ppl are too quick to say "disorder" and "bad" when it ain't necessarily so. sometimes it's not a "disorder" - it's just different. you say having a messy room is "not normal" for a 20 yr old girl - where is that written down? i sure as hell never read any law saying girls are neat and if you saw this house, full of nothing but females, or my sister's house, or my daughter's house, or my younger daughter's bedroom, or my friends' houses, well ... far as i'm concerned, having a neat and tidy house is NOT normal, lol.
I am 25 now and I was Diagnosed with ADHD as a child , I remember my parents took me and my brother to a lot of different doctors ( i did not know the reason at the time) and then being told that we had ADHD and that we had to take some tablets to help us concentrate. my mother was given a sheet of paper from one of the doctors that said " if your child has 14 of these 16 symptoms he has ADHD" well we both had all 16.
I fidget
I find it hard to concentrate
I procrastinate, The list goes on and on..
Some days are greater than others
I spent a while on meds IE: Ritalin, Dexamphetamine and Prozac.
I found that my choices were Take the meds and deal with the side-effects
or Stay clean and deal with consequences.
I have been Clean for a long time now and i am better for it.

Don't be ashamed ( i was for quite a while) but learn to embrace it, and do the best you can with it.
i made a appointment with a mental health dr. he asked what makes you think you have add? i made a list of things i have always had trouble with. he put on meds. it took a long time to find the right one. now on concerta i can stay on task. i still cannot remember things a lot.
it was never a question of laziness for me. if anything, i did too much...too much of everything that nothing got done. it's hard to describe (and could even be called "normal daily life stuff" that everyone goes through), but anyone who has ADD will tell you that it's not "normal".

since ADD problems have always been a part of me, i can't recall any particular start date. but i remembered having to repeat first grade because my teacher felt i was "too scattered" to fully understand the material. i never felt stupid...if anything, i felt more perceptive than the other students in the class and, sometimes, the teacher too. :rolleyes:

by the 4th grade, my school finally brought in a psychologist to evaluate me. i took all sorts of IQ type tests and even remembered the timer going off, everytime, before i could finish, which completely frazzled me, but the psychologist just supported me along while observing my strategies. the results? ADD w/IQ of 150...w/clear inability to focus, perfectionist. but before they could implement a plan, my family moved...and i started at another school. :(

always believing that I was bright, my parents refused to recognize ADD. so the idea was abandoned and, under no treatment, i finished HS and even managed to get accepted at a pretty competitive college (all done w/a lot of HARD WORK).

but college was where my problems started...i studied for hours, but managed to only read a couple of text pages. i taped my lectures, but found no good in this either. without my parent's support, my self-esteem dropped...i was depressed, and for the first time in my life, i felt stupid.

eventually graduating, i found a job in the real world...but wasn't able to regained my confidence. i decided to get help at 30. i saw my pcp who started me on meds...and after some trial and error, i'm feeling a little better about myself everyday.

i regret not getting help sooner. i could've had better grades. i didn't need to study such long/abnormal hours. looking back, i feel very robbed. so based on my experience, if you feel something isn't right, you should get help because it does exist. :bouncing:
Hey-Its okay trust yourself...The sooner you get dxed the better.
When I was younger? I could sit down and play with blocks for hours....but making transitions from one thing to another was extremely difficult. In pre school if we had story time...I was in the corner doing my own thing..In my own lil world. I wuz moved up a year early because I was ahead. Then they started to notice I flipped things....and patterns were so difficult 4 me. They suggested that I might be dyslexic but my parents r like total california hippiez and ignored it. Then I was soooo disorganized, so forgetful so "slow" but my IQ was average...I wuz so behind they placed me in special ed...then they told me I was doing to well to be needing the extra help. I suffered really bad in 1rst through 5th in silence, never received a B and now looking back, I missed out on so much. But I didn't understand I thought every1 was like me and I was just a "Weak" person...Doing homework was impossible, always ended in tears. Came home from skool crying b/c I began to feel really misplaced by 5th grade. In 6th grade I discovered wut I call "elementry ditchin" lol never went to band. Began to have obsessions and compulsions, ya i wouldnt wanna parent myself!! My standard of living got stuck on survive...My parents had to take me out and homeschool me, with no diagnoses...Then they heard for the first time about ADD and were like omg thats the problem. Took me to this guy who specializes in ADD did 2hours of testing. Came out told us I was boarderline...but auditory wasnt my way of learning and to look into audotity processing problems...but wouldnt suggest medication yet but might later as i grew. Again my parents ignored that...8th grade OCD just totally consumed my life, trying to control my life controlled who I was...Parents sent me to a shrink dxed me with that put on prozac and wallah iz like magic lol helped alot. But as the OCD subsided for once I was old enough to realize man I really am different..it got worse and worse I started skool up in 9th grade HS flunking I couldnt even finish writing 3 sentences on my own. I never got diagnosed untill it truley became debilitating. It makes me angry to think "woah imagine all I could have known....if only i was dxed earlier". Well I cant change the past but I can hope for the future and live for today the best I can! I know sometimes you might feel like your stupid. I thought I was. l8ter we realized I wasn't diagnosed with anything because I scored so above average in one area of my test and so low in another that it averaged out. Keeping searching....trust yourself. If you cant find hope, theres hope for you hear....
take care
I was referred by my general practitioner because I was so off the scale on a depression diagnostic, she referred me to a shrink. He scribbled while I gave him what I thought was a concise, to the point narrative. He asked me a couple of questions and then said matter-of-factly "Here's what I'm going to prescribe for your ADD." I was blindsided. I was 54 years old. There's no way I can have ADD. I was furious with him, but he was very calm and serene and Buddah-like. He told me it didn't manifest to an incapacitating degree before because I am high functioning and had strong coping mechanisms but it was there and classic and as I got older the ability to cope was getting worse.

I was so mad I didn't go back to him for a year but my memory and confusion got worse and worse and I didn't have any other answers, so I went back and finally agreed to go on Ritalin AL. With the first dose, I felt clear for the first time in my life. I was like, "Wow, so this is how normal feels." I felt less muddled in my head. I went home and was able to clean my refrigerator from top to bottom. Amazing! However, the Ritalin nearly took out my heart, so he put me on Focalin AR which is less strong to me but no heart or blood pressure problems. No health insurance and not much money so I take it when I have something to do which requires heavy conenctration.

I can see now that I have a basis for comparison that without meds if anything is out of my line of vision or out of my hand, it drops into a black hole in the universe and I don't know what happens to it. The kids (now 26, 25 and 19) knew not to give me anything that had to be signed and taken back to school. They had to get it back. The only good things about ADD are that it made me quirky and gave me a unique approach to problem-solving (we are not striaght-line thinkers) and my area of hyperfocus was academics (I would go spastic if I got a bad grade in school, not so much now as I am older and stupider).

The medication has wiped out my chronic depression and feelings of general hopelessness. It makes me feel capable and like my brain functions at a higher level. And I can remember where I put things so that while I'm on it I don't accidentally wash a ham in the dishwasher (while the dishwasher was running I was like, "What is that smell?"). The downside is that I am "normal" and not at all hilariously funny when I'm medicated (the fast wit factor was probably a coping mechanism).
Once again BSBgeez I can identify with you on another point you brought up...the children not giving you anything that needed to be signed and returned to school...LOL! My kids did the same thing. They would give something that needed to be signed and stood there while I signed it and put it in their book bags for safe keeping. They have a tremendous sense of humor about my short comings.
bindsided, are you me??? I read your other reply to my reply in another thread and it appears that we can raise healthier than we are, lol. I was able to get mine kind of up and going and they're turning out fairly ok and it doesn't look like any of them inherited my disorganization and/or ADD.

Now that I've been diagnosed (and according to my shrink it tends to run in families) I can look back and understand things about my father that I didn't understand before. His coping skills were not as "in place" as mine and while I can appreciate and embrace my "different-ness" he was tortured by always being one step out of sync with the universe and was unhappy and bitter at all the potential he didn't fulfill. He died in 2004 at the age of 91 and would rarely, if ever, go to the doctor (died from complications from what was probably advanced prostate cancer, wouldn't even get it diagnosed) so I can appreciate how you have to work with what you've been dealt, cope as best you can and celebrate your strengths.
Boy oh boy, I can reverse that question and ask if you are me because...wow...the similarities are almost uncanny. I might have been unorganized, but I was not going to let my kids suffer the same way I do. Although, my youngest seems to have some of my issues, but she is able to keep herself organized and on track with most things. A few things fall through the cracks here and there. Maybe it is reverse pyschology, she decided that after seeing my problems she was going to rebel against it and be organized...LOL....thank goodness!

Yes, ADD does run in my family and now that I know I have it I can see that my father has it too. (Sorry to hear yours is no longer around) He constantly leaves stuff laying around, is forgetful and gets frustrated with his limitations to the point that he drives himself way too hard at 76. Now that I understand my moods I can certainly see where his are coming from. He has a tendancy to pick on people when he is mad at himself for not being the non-ADD person he thinks he is...LOL. I live right around the corner from him and when he is on his way home from his 8 mile walk every other day, he stops by to chat for a few. Now that I understand the dynamics, I can always tell when he is frustrated with himself because when he stops by he immediately starts picking on me about my short comings.

I understand my moods now and realize that it is just me being frustrated with me trying to be non-ADD in an my ADD world. Since I have come to that realization I have been working on how that effects my relationships.

Sorry for the ramble again. It sounds like we do have a way of raising our kids to be better than we are. I will have to say one thing about ADD...since trying to develop relationships was too exhausting...it kept me out of the neighborhood gossip circles. No one knew me so they couldn't really say anything about me... Nice talking to you.
Hi Leon,

I was glad to have come across this post.

I have never been tested for ADHD, although I remember I was a very hyperactive child. I have however suffered from depression and anxiety from 17 years old. I am now 35. It had never really occurred to me that I may have ADHD, and I've just come across some websites, and I have some of the symptoms associated with ADHD, although some of them are similar to those for depression. I have become really bad at concentration, memory is terrible, and although Iím sure it has become worse in the last 2 years. I often miss out the middle of a sentence of what people are saying, both at work and with friends. Itís like I have a problem with the English language. I donít always remember having that problem, unless I have been completely unaware of it in the past. I did have tutors say that I was good at written English even though my spelling is terrible. I have also noticed that I can jump in the middle of sentences. I lack motivation, get really stressed about making decisions and am confused most of the day. However these symptoms could be due to the depression.

I have had issues with personal relationships, and working has always been a struggle, because of the lack of focus and concetration, and I have always had trouble getting through books.

Also is it possible to have some ADHD symptoms when you are young and others when you are older?

I have no faith in my GP, I have had to many disappointing meetings with the practice, especially my own GP.

You mention the centre Maudsley in London. Is this NHS or private. Would I need to be referred by my GP?

Thanks

Nou


[QUOTE=lmm23]Hi sweet_chic,

I am twenty-five now, and was diagnosed as having had ADD as a child. My local doctor didn't pick it up, and was flirting with the idea of bipolar. I went to the Maudsley in London, which is a specialist unit, after my mother was diagnosed with it. By having a thorough consultation and psychological testing, as well as childhood school reports, they were at least able to say I had it as a child. As for now, my case is cloudy - I am currently being referred for an autistic spectrum evaluation, which hasn't even occured to me before; and I have acute anxiety and depressive spells. I think, for most people, getting a diagnosis of ADD is difficult, because it looks like other problems, such as bipolar disorder, and people, as you suggest, tend to wipe people off with ADD as being lazy. With me it was difficult, unruly and petulant. But we're lovely really!

Take care
Leon x[/QUOTE]
I have never been diagnosed either, it wasnt untill a couple of years ago that a freind (who is add as well ) told me I have it too. We laugh because , we often wander how much time goes by when we are visiting each other that we may both be staring off into space.....how long is a day , really when you are aware of it all, lol.

I run a buisness, I have had customers for years that have been regulars, Everytime they come in, it is like I am meeting them for the first time.....unless they are very unique I cannott focus enough to retain them in my memory. When I was married, someone would come and talk to my husband and I , when they were gone I'd ask husband whose that ??? he would just roll his eyes and say something like ...we were at a dinner party with them last week ??????


I procrastinate something terrible, especially paper work (not house or yard work ) I keep these impeccable, but I will put off paper work, on the weekend I say to myself...I will do it Monday, Then I dont do it , I promise to do it Tuesday...then Wed. Nope , by the time Thursday comes , we are almost at the weekend, so I am happy to put it off till monday again....It also tortures me not to get it done.

I can tell that sometimes people that I just meet think Im a bit strange, they can tell that I am not retaining everything they are telling me, (like directions or something )if I am with someone else they instinctively start to tell them.

With all this being said , I consider my self smart, up on current politics, I am able to wheel and deal in buisness , and real estate and such. I have been fairly successful in earning money for myself....and have had the instinct to do well with not a whole lot of effort.... I just kind of wing it, it usually works for me, but I could not read a manual on how to put something simple together to save my life...... If I have a problem with the tv , or something like that , I am a mess, I need to call my kids (who both look after me well, lol.)

They laugh, because when they ask me a question , they know I will usually answer them...in about five minutes.

School was a nightmare, my report cards were always , daydreaming, looking out the window, un-able to focus, I daydreamed away all the basics, was so far behind, I just didnt get it, and quit in grade nine.

I am very hard working, my house is beautiful and I have great taste in gardening , decorating , I take huge pride in this. Often when my phone rings I ignore...cant deal with the everyday.It has been on "mail box is full " for about a month....just the way I like it.

I have to say that I probably have it mild, or maybe I am too far gone to realy know how bad I am....but I enjoy life, I like myself, and wont take meds, I am happy enough to continue muddling through.Its like this, I need glassess, but I only wear them for driving, I am un aware of what is really around me with out them, But I see things a little more beautiful when they are fuzzy, I enjoy the scenery more, I think I have vision like Monet probably did, all his painting look like he seen things blurry, and his painting are beautiful, I also like that when I am not weraing them I have a (false ) sense of being private....if I cant see you, you cant see me...lol, yes I know I am rambling......... gotta go, I need to think about paper work....tommorrow.
[QUOTE=BlueMimosa]it was never a question of laziness for me. if anything, i did too much...too much of everything that nothing got done. it's hard to describe (and could even be called "normal daily life stuff" that everyone goes through), but anyone who has ADD will tell you that it's not "normal".

since ADD problems have always been a part of me, i can't recall any particular start date. but i remembered having to repeat first grade because my teacher felt i was "too scattered" to fully understand the material. i never felt stupid...if anything, i felt more perceptive than the other students in the class and, sometimes, the teacher too. :rolleyes:

by the 4th grade, my school finally brought in a psychologist to evaluate me. i took all sorts of IQ type tests and even remembered the timer going off, everytime, before i could finish, which completely frazzled me, but the psychologist just supported me along while observing my strategies. the results? ADD w/IQ of 150...w/clear inability to focus, perfectionist. but before they could implement a plan, my family moved...and i started at another school. :(

always believing that I was bright, my parents refused to recognize ADD. so the idea was abandoned and, under no treatment, i finished HS and even managed to get accepted at a pretty competitive college (all done w/a lot of HARD WORK).

but college was where my problems started...i studied for hours, but managed to only read a couple of text pages. i taped my lectures, but found no good in this either. without my parent's support, my self-esteem dropped...i was depressed, and for the first time in my life, i felt stupid.

eventually graduating, i found a job in the real world...but wasn't able to regained my confidence. i decided to get help at 30. i saw my pcp who started me on meds...and after some trial and error, i'm feeling a little better about myself everyday.

i regret not getting help sooner. i could've had better grades. i didn't need to study such long/abnormal hours. looking back, i feel very robbed. so based on my experience, if you feel something isn't right, you should get help because it does exist. :bouncing:[/QUOTE]Sort of describes me. Held back in 4th, barely made it out of 7th and drifted through highschool. Work with my hands well. Book stuff....not!! Military helped me because they have structure, something to fall back on. Civi life has little structure. Too bad because it is needed. It really is simple to do, but nobody wants to take the time. From all that I read, I'm about convinced there is a mental cast system in our society(sp). I happen to be on the lower end because of what I feel is a disability to keep up with the more focused minds. Well I'm seeing a shrink, and it is very informative. I've seen a psycologist(sp) before because of something different and had a very bad opinion of them. I think this guy was in it for the $$. I will be back on the board to let you know what has happened to me with my diagnosis. To put it bluntly...man I hope this ***** works!!! :D





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