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My son sits at the front of the room, near the teacher, who will tell him quietly to pay attention. That's the extent of any provisions he gets. The weird part of my son's behavior is that while he fidgets, sits at the edge of his seat, and daydreams, he is a straight-A student! He is in the advanced reading and science class (yes they do that in second grade, which is silly). So that is why I'm not even considering medication for him. As long as he does well academically and socially, I feel that I can just deal with the fidgeting stuff. He actually does great behaviorally in school as well. What I mean is that he does not have tantrums, gets along with the teachers and classmates, etc. His problem is just sitting still and paying attention. He does have tantrums at home, mostly when he is tired or when there is a change in routine. I really feel this is more sensory than hyperactivity.

I started giving my son Focus last week and just started Bright Spark yesterday. I do feel like it is helping, though it is hard to judge because he has been sick. There has been a decrease in his tantrums after school, and he is more willing to do his homework. He still has morning and evening tantrums, presumably from being tired, although he sleeps 11 hours.

My son has an IEP and when he disrupts the classroom is sent down to the Special Needs Room for a time out where the teacher has him do worksheets or sits in a rocking chair (he likes to rock) and listens to soft music.

His most difficult time is on the playground where there is absolutely no structure at all and too much stimulation. There are no boundaries. Last year the teachers and us set up a boundary system and rules for him on the playground which worked. It was a booklet, with pictures of him implemented using balls, pretending to play with classmates on the playground in action on the playground in certain areas of the playground, etc. He also had a recess buddy. Every recess he would sit down and look at the book before going out to recess with the buddy to remember what was expected of him at recess. It really helped, and so did his buddy- reminding him of the rights' and wrongs' of the rules.

When he was in preschool, he had an aide the first year full time just for him. The next 2 years there were 2 aides for the entire room, as he and his brother were both in a Special Needs Preschool program.

I'm also a SAHM. My boys are both 6 and 7. After school and before school they know what is expected of them every day with routine. If not, things are very chaotic. Whenever we have something new that pops up- an appointment, etc. that is when the tantrums break out. :dizzy: So, I try to do my best to forewarn him of the appointments- a day, early morning, etc. It doesn't always work.

Attachment problems are stemmed by many variables. More than one thing can cause an attachment problem, and it does not have to be just an adoptive child. Contact your pediatrician if you suspect problems. They can refer you to someone for help.

Got to go to bed....

My son does not behave violently, and he rarely misbehaves in public. He just gets a "deer in the headlights" look when overwhelmed, and if he really is overstimulated, he will just run around without any sense of direction or purpose. He does not hit, kick, or act violently towards anyone (except his brother, but it is typical sibling stuff).

In reading your posts, it sounds to me that your children's issues are FAR more sensory-related than anything else. Please know that my son used to behave in many of the ways you describe, but no longer does. OT is what got us through the bad behavior. It worked wonderfully. The first time he was in it, he went weekly for four months. Many of his issues subsided, but I worried about his inability to socialize. He went to group OT for an entire summer (at age 3.5 years). That September, he started preschool for two mornings per week and made friends. He was not a social butterfly, but he did fine. The playground was not good for him because there was no structure.

Once we sent him to Kindergarten, he blossomed. He was in a rigid, structured setting, and he thrived. No playgrounds! Recess has several organized activities from which to choose, or you can bring a toy and share with others. It's ideal for him. Still, last year I noticed he was still easily distracted, not focusing, and fidgeting. He still toe-walks all the time, and has very bad temper tantrums (never at school). So we went back to OT and started the listening therapy program. It has helped tremendously with his handwriting, he doesn't touch everything in sight, and his modulation has improved. We still have a ways to go, but he is getting better.

I'm not 100% sure he has ADHD. I really believe his issues are more related to sensory problems, and his OT and teachers agree. MEDICATION DOES NOT HELP SENSORY ISSUES!! If medication is not working, than there is a good chance that ADHD is not the problem.

Remember that sensory integration dysfunction is related to autism. Children who have SID are not always autistic, but Autistic children always have SID. So the autistic-like behaviors we see in our children can be odd to us. I was very nervous that my son had Autism, but because he loves to be held, makes excellent eye contact, and is now a social butterfly (who would have guessed), he is absolutely not. But it doesn't change the fact that he has SID.

My advice to both of you is to investigate, get another evaluation/opinion, and work hard at OT. We have been at it for six years, but it has been worth it. You will see huge changes with a correct diagnosis, and ultimately, appropriate treatment. OT has saved our son and made our family life more enjoyable. We are not there yet, and there are days where we have setbacks, but all and all, things have improved.

Please check out the books "The Out-of-Sync Child" if you haven't already. It is an excellent resource for senory issues.


Great post, Cyndi! Sensory issues are so overlooked because, in my opinion, not many professionals even know about it. Many children are misdiagnosed because of the lack of awareness of SID.

Buying socks and shoes for my son is a chore. Socks have to be thin, but not too thin, cotton, and fit snuggly. The only socks that we have found are at Gymboree, but he will soon outgrow that brand and I don't know what we will do! Buying sneakers takes forever. We found a brand of school shoes that fit him perfectly, so that is ALL WE BUY FOR HIM. They have to be slip-ons (although he can tie shoes). No zippers or velcro. Who knows why. Tags on clothes are a problem, although I have noticed that more and more companies are going tagless.

Food has to be the proper texture. He is very willing to try new foods, but he primarily eats fruits and vegetables. He likes chicken and pasta, but is not wild on red meat. Food is not allowed to touch. No condiments on hot dogs or hamburgers, certainly no cheese on a burger, and we NEVER do milk in cereal. I'm very used to this and don't think twice about it now, but it was a challenge at first.

Hang in there, ladies! We will all get through this. It is SO NICE to be able to chat with others who have similar experiences. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one, and it really is hard for others to understand.


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