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A little background. I have a 15 year old daughter who has always been an average/above average student in school. She made A/B's with an occasional C in math/algebra (which she has always struggled in). She attends and has always attended private schools that have very small classes. When she was in the 3rd grade her teacher told me that she thought my daughter had trouble focusing and gave me some information on ADD to read. I read it and thought my daughter had some of the symptoms, but she seemed to do well in school and socially, so I did not do anything further. On to middle school, at a parent/teacher conference, her teachers informed me again that she seemed to have trouble focusing. I do nothing as she is doing well academically/socially.

Then comes the summer of 8th grade, she begins having severe anxiety attacks. I take her to her doctor who refers her to a psychologist who helps her tremendously. She has not had a panic attack in a year and a half. She is not presently on any medication for the panic attacks.

On to first year of high school (9th grade). She goes from a small unstructured school to a very structured Christian school. From the beginning, her grades dropped drastically. One of her teachers told me that this was not an uncommon occurrence for the first year of high school and plus, she had just started a new school. However, her grades never improved. The biggest reason for her poor grades was the fact that she did not do her homework. She had 12 zeros one semester for incomplete assignments! I did everything, beg, plead, punish, reward, restrict and nothing helped. Finally, I took her back to her pediatrician who sent her back to the psychiatrist who treated her panic attacks. After thorough testing my daughter was diagnosed with ADHD Combined Type. She was put on Adderall and Focalin (not at the same time) and she could not tolerate either of them. She is now on Strattera and a very small dose (2.5 mg) of Adderall per day. She seems to be doing okay, but I do not know if she is focusing any better. She has just now been on the Strattera long enough to start seeing improvements.

Anyhoo, I know that she does in fact have ADHD, I do not doubt that. However, I do not think that the ADHD is an excuse for not doing homework or not even attempting to do it. I asked her every day if she had homework and she would look me in the eye and say no, or she had already done it at school, so this is not a case of doing it and losing, etc. - she did not even make an attempt to do it. After a conference with all her teachers after her diagnosis, all of them told me that her poor grades was due to lack of work. I got her an agenda to write down her assignments in and then have each teacher initial it at the end of the day so that I can see that she has indeed done her homework. She is now in summer school in order to make up 2 classes she failed. (By the grace of God, she somehow managed to pass the other classes by the skin of her teeth).

I know this is extremely long, but I do not know what else to do. Have any of you had this situation? If so, what did you do? I know that my daughter is fully capable of making decent grades (she could make great grades, but right now I would settle for decent). Her doctor did tell her that the medication is a tool to help her, that she will still have to do her part, that a pill is not going to magically give her good grades. Sometimes I really think she doesn't care and I just do not know what to do.

FYI, she has never been in any trouble, even at school (other than normal talks too much, etc. stuff). She has lots of friends and she loves to dance and has classes 2 times per week.

Any advice would be deeply appreciated!

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