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My son was diagnosed with ADHD nearly 2 years ago, at age 5. It was no surprise. He was an extremely fussy baby, intolerant to noise and light, he was an uncontrollable toddler, and many classic symptoms of ADHD had presented themselves long before formal diagnosis. The doctor was very thorough in his diagnosis, so I have no doubt of it. He was prescribed Strattera, and there was an immediate improvement of many of his symptoms. He seemed a different child. He quit getting in trouble at school. He was able to sit through dinner, pay attention to bedtime stories, etc. However, even though I fed him a good breakfast before giving him his med each morning, he began to throw up on the bus nearly every morning. Then I would have to pick him up from school, and he would miss. I decided to take him off the Strattera because of the vomiting. He immediately became despondant at school. He would not do anything. So I took him out of school and have been homeschooling him for the past year. He is unable (not just unwilling, just flat unable) to read a sentence or write a single thing if I am not with him prodding him and giving him all of my attention. (I have 3 other children, whom I also homeschool, who do not have ADHD or any behavioral symptoms).
So....here is my dilemna: I am patient and willing to help him work through his inability to focus without the help of medication. I am willing to homeschool him and give him all the attention he needs. I don't want to make him suffer awful side effects in order to make him "easier to deal with." But at the same time, he displays other behavior that I don't know whether is related or not to ADHD. He is a compulsive liar, he is manipulative, constantly coaxing his little sisters to break household rules. He makes repetitive noises, he finds joy in aggravating anyone he can. He is never violent. He does throw tantrums, but they are like 2-yr-old tantrums, throwing himself down, etc. He tries to cause others to pity him and think he is abused--like if we are at the grocery store, and he is wandering off, and I GENTLY touch him on one arm to corral him back toward us, he will THROW himself to the floor, yell "OWW", and pretend to cry. I am consistent in discipline, and discipline-wise I treat him no different from the girls, but nothing works. Just tonight he was trying to bribe his little sister to throw her shoe at the new big screen TV. I feel helpless and at the end of my rope. I can't figure out why he does the things he does. I remember wistfully the sweet little attentive boy I had for a few months when he was on Strattera, and I wonder if maybe it wouldn't be worth letting him suffer motion sickness if it would make him less "evil." I feel like either he needs meds to make him better or I need meds for the depression this is causing me!
[QUOTE=janddplus4;4851069]My son was diagnosed with ADHD nearly 2 years ago, at age 5. It was no surprise. He was an extremely fussy baby, intolerant to noise and light, he was an uncontrollable toddler, and many classic symptoms of ADHD had presented themselves long before formal diagnosis. The doctor was very thorough in his diagnosis, so I have no doubt of it. He was prescribed Strattera, and there was an immediate improvement of many of his symptoms. He seemed a different child. He quit getting in trouble at school. He was able to sit through dinner, pay attention to bedtime stories, etc. However, even though I fed him a good breakfast before giving him his med each morning, he began to throw up on the bus nearly every morning. Then I would have to pick him up from school, and he would miss. I decided to take him off the Strattera because of the vomiting. He immediately became despondant at school. He would not do anything. So I took him out of school and have been homeschooling him for the past year. He is unable (not just unwilling, just flat unable) to read a sentence or write a single thing if I am not with him prodding him and giving him all of my attention. (I have 3 other children, whom I also homeschool, who do not have ADHD or any behavioral symptoms).
So....here is my dilemna: I am patient and willing to help him work through his inability to focus without the help of medication. I am willing to homeschool him and give him all the attention he needs. I don't want to make him suffer awful side effects in order to make him "easier to deal with." But at the same time, he displays other behavior that I don't know whether is related or not to ADHD. He is a compulsive liar, he is manipulative, constantly coaxing his little sisters to break household rules. He makes repetitive noises, he finds joy in aggravating anyone he can. He is never violent. He does throw tantrums, but they are like 2-yr-old tantrums, throwing himself down, etc. He tries to cause others to pity him and think he is abused--like if we are at the grocery store, and he is wandering off, and I GENTLY touch him on one arm to corral him back toward us, he will THROW himself to the floor, yell "OWW", and pretend to cry. I am consistent in discipline, and discipline-wise I treat him no different from the girls, but nothing works. Just tonight he was trying to bribe his little sister to throw her shoe at the new big screen TV. I feel helpless and at the end of my rope. I can't figure out why he does the things he does. I remember wistfully the sweet little attentive boy I had for a few months when he was on Strattera, and I wonder if maybe it wouldn't be worth letting him suffer motion sickness if it would make him less "evil." I feel like either he needs meds to make him better or I need meds for the depression this is causing me![/QUOTE]
For the behaviour in the store: do what my family did. Quell it immediatly. Like a member of my family said when i misbehaved in such a manner "stop that amd get up before i give you something to REALLY cry about". And that worked just fine.





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