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hey LT,are you feeling like there is something still kinda 'undone"?if so,i would really highly advise you to seek out an AA group to help you thu all of these new feelings and the new way of life that you finally chose(i am giving you a huge pat on the back here,hope you can actually feel it).you really DO need to stay in connection with other people who are in your current situation.these people know what you are deakling with and sre by far,the ones you really do need to have in your life right now.plus by going to AA you can find a sponser,this is a person you choose,or they will offer,to be the biggest source of your support right now.this person is one who will be there for you if you should ever start feeling like you want to start your old way of life again.my sponser thru NA helped to keep me on the straight and narrow.i could call her anytime of the day or night,remember,this person volenteers their time for you,so you are not 'bothering" them.

i really think that if you get to an AA meeting,this will be that 'piece'that you feel is the undone part.you need people to validate you and what you are going thru and mostly to tell you how proud they are of you and your accomplishment.it appears that you are not getting that from the people around you right now??you are doing a really amazing and lifesaving thing for yourself,and thats wonderful.the folks at AA know just how truely amazing your ongoing sobriety really is.this is where you really need to be.at least for a while,at the beginning.but you DO need that support right now,and a place where you can vent and hear others tell their stories and how they manage their sobriety.

please find a meeting in your area and just go,I think you will be happy that you did.hang in there LT,marcia
Hey LT,

When I first sobered up, it was for professional and personal reasons, I went to an addiction doctor, and slept on my father's couch. About a week later, it was suggested I go to an AA or NA meeting. I happened to love the program and the 12 steps. My fiance tried on the AA and NA stuff, probably to pacify me, and he doesn't like it. It fills a space in me, and gives me a place to do something just for myself. I was always doing so much for everyone else that getting high and drinking were what I did for myself. Now I foster friendships and I have people I can call when life gets rough and I want to use or drink. My fiance, however, doesn't go to very many meetings, but has managed to stay clean and sober. He still reacts to some things like an addict or alcoholic would. He has changed a lot, but still we both have work to do on ourselves. We have chosen different paths to do that. My father was, without a doubt an alcoholic, but has not drank for nearly 40 years, just stopped on his own.

My point is, I am very close to people who are sober, with and without the help of AA or NA, and while it doesn't matter how you get sober, or why, it does matter that you stay sober. If what you are doing is working for you, then by all means, keep doing it. If it stops working, or you feel like you need more, that there must be something else, you do not have to drink. Take that time to try a meeting before picking up a bottle. Just do whatever it takes to stay sober. Coming to these boards is a great tool for you to use to stay sober. The program helps a person to clean up the internal issues that drive him or her to drink in the first place, it is a program for living happy, joyous, and free. Staying sober is one part of it, being happy being sober is another. I hope this helps.

I wish you all the best, and please let us know how you are!
Brandi





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