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To answer your question "How do you get them to quit"
Unfortunately no one can force someone to quit unless they want to!
I say this for 2 reasons 1) I am addicted to pain killers and my old man wants me to quit them 2) He is an alcoholic and well unfortunately I blame him for my addicton because I WAS YOU, I would be the one taking care of 2 kids feeling sorry for them not having their dad around to do things, cause he was either out at the bars until late hours and he ran up bar tabs over 100.00 a week, I would cry, whine & grip that I wanted attention and I wanted him to stop drinking, the pot he could keep that I didn't care so much about that. Even though he would spend his last bit of money on it, but anything to help him stay calm. Anyhow I guess I got this attitude for a year that I told him I guess I need to start something to make up for my money going on his sh** so I didn't actually realize it at the time,but i started drinking, then came pills (no I did not say I wanted to be addicted, but mentally I guess I was hiding the pain he had caused me). Anyhow we split up for less than a year and we got back together and well now a year later we are back to the same crap. I must quit my addiction and I am willing and said I am willing that I hate this crap, but I need him to quit drinking and wanting me to be around the pills. He likes to go to parties where all drugs are! But he says he doesn't have a drinking problem, although I know he does. I don't know if I can get clean living with him, I have tried many many many times!
What I want to say is stick to your gun, don't take him back (unless he is clean for at least a year) and your son is better off without him living with you, unfortunately the kids grow up and learn they are jerks and then it really gets worse on YOU because you will be in the middle of EVERYTHING (like u rn't now right) cause everything the kid wants to do is always NO NO NO, so they run to you cause well you will say yes, and dad will be a jerk and get on him for nothing (little things/hungover or cause he is drunk) and you get really angry and it starts fights. Trust me I know all this, it is more hurtingyou right now but as your son gets older it will hurt you both.
Get out now before you end up drinking or doing drugs to forget the pain.
HE ISN'T GOING TO CHANGE, AND I AM SURE YOU DESERVE BETTER!!!!!!!
SO DO I AND I AM GOING TO MAKE THAT CHANGE VERY SOON AND MAYBE WE CAN BE MORAL SUPPORT FOR EACH OTHER, CAUSE IT SOUNDS LIKE WE ARE IN THE SAME BOAT. I AM HERE FOR MY KIDS EVERY DAY AND I HAVE TO DO EVERYTHING! I HATE IT, CAUSE I WANT A FATHER TO SAY HEY CAN YOU TAKE THE KIDS TO SCHOOL MEETINGS TONIGHT SO I CAN COOK OR AT LEAST FOR HIM TO GO WITH US AND SHOW HE DOES CARE ABOUT THEIR EDUCATION. SORRY FOR YELLING,I FORGOT TO TAKE THE CAPS OFF!
SO TAKE IT EASY AND LIVE FOR YOU AND YOUR SON AND I WILL SOON BE THERE WITH YOU!:blob_fire :rolleyes: :angel: I LOVE THEM SMILEYS:angel:





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