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Oh Maryann,
I can certainly relate to your issues. I too have a Mom (82) with similar symptoms but she doesn't remember anything longer than 2-3 minutes. My father is no longer living, so her grandson is staying with her to dole out her pills, etc. He's very loving with her and encourages her to eat, and get dressed each morning, etc.

There is a thread here with the 7 steps of Alzheimers and it was very informative to me. I'm going to try and post a link, if it doesn't can scroll over to the next page of posts and it is still there. The Seven Stages of Alzheimers.

I don't think anyone is clearly in one stage or another, but they fluctuate from stage to stage, showing symptom of several stages at once.

Take care of yourself and learn as much as you can.

Hi Mary,

Welcome! Bless your heart! So sorry you need to be here, but you'll get the reassurance that you are not alone as well as coping ideas and suggestions from we who have been where you are or are there now.

I've "bumped" a most helpful list of the 7 Stages of Alzheimers so you can read them and have an idea where your mother is. Do note that symptoms of the stages can appear sooner, later, or not at all. The listed stages are a generalization.

Since your father is resistant to the idea of a helper coming to the house to assist with the house work and with your mother, you're limited in what you can do. Your father could probably benefit from a mild antidepressant, because he's watching the love of his life "lose it" and that is so very sad. Perhaps he'd enjoy meals brought by you kids or to be invited to your homes weekly for a meal out. If there an adult day care in your area, your Mom could go there once or twice a week so Dad could have time to himself.

My mother was widowed long before she became afflicted with Alzheimers. I moved her into an assisted living facility where she had a sunny 1 bedroom apartment with good closets and her own furniture. There were many couples at that facility who enjoyed the freedom from cooking and household upkeep. There was nursing care for those who needed it, too, and there were many with Alzheimers. Perhaps your parents would like that kind of place - where your father could socialize with new friends, keep his car for errands, still use some of their furniture, and have help with your mother's needs (and those needs will increase).

Just some thoughts...

Wishing you well - Barbara

ps - started this hours ago, but will still post it. :)

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