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WHy am I angry?
Mar 11, 2004
I dont understand what my problem is. I am mad all the time. I wake up upset. I get up at 6 am and put my girls on the bus, by 8 oclock im alone again and okay until they get off the bus. My husband comes home at 3 and the girls come home between 2 and 3. I am mad until everyone goes to sleep. I get stressed out to do homework or be asked for anything from them. I cook supper and then go in to my own room ( where my computer is) and sit there hoping noone will come talk to me or ask me for anything.
I also get annoyed at a certain friend who asks me to babysit when its my day offf from work. I avoid people and want to be alone all the time. My husband says I am miserable and he is right. I love him so much and he is a wonderful husband but Im always mad at him. I get mad when he has certain songs on( i dont understand that one at all). Im mad at every noise that happens. WHy am I like this? I feel like i am going to have a stroke soemtimes with the anger I have. I also feel like i dont have enough time to do anything so I feel like every day is a waste. UGH. thanks for listening
Re: WHy am I angry?
Mar 12, 2004
Dear Jxlvr,
I know EXACTLY how you feel. Probably a lot of other people on this board do, too. I've felt angry & irritable, often for no apparent reason, on & off since my teen years (I'm 43). I thought I'd found the solution when I found an antidepressant that made me feel much more mellow. The anger just went away. But lately it seems to have stopped working. I'm back to that old feeling of wanting to choke people to death (not literally, but you know what I mean). I'm on the verge of quitting my job. And I don't know what the solution is -- ask the dr for a stronger dose of this antidepressant? Try a different antidepressant? Try therapy?

Many, many years ago my mom had a similar problem as you, Jxlvr, where she just couldn't stand having her kids or husband around her, she felt so angry & irritable. Her problem turned out to be low estrogen levels. She said that once she went on estrogen replacement therapy she felt like a new person. I know that's not what my problem is because I've had my hormone levels checked & they're normal. But it might be something for you to consider Jxlvr. If it's not a hormonal problem, then an antidepressant might help. Though, as I've learned, they tend to lose their effectiveness over time. Some people swear by therapy but I've never tried it myself.

Anyway, I hope you'll find the help you need, Jxlvr. It's miserable feeling angry at the world all the time. Please keep us updated on how you're doing!
Re: WHy am I angry?
Mar 13, 2004
[QUOTE=mycatsmom]Dear Jxlvr,
I know EXACTLY how you feel. Probably a lot of other people on this board do, too. I've felt angry & irritable, often for no apparent reason, on & off since my teen years (I'm 43). I thought I'd found the solution when I found an antidepressant that made me feel much more mellow. The anger just went away. But lately it seems to have stopped working. I'm back to that old feeling of wanting to choke people to death (not literally, but you know what I mean). I'm on the verge of quitting my job. And I don't know what the solution is -- ask the dr for a stronger dose of this antidepressant? Try a different antidepressant? Try therapy?

Many, many years ago my mom had a similar problem as you, Jxlvr, where she just couldn't stand having her kids or husband around her, she felt so angry & irritable. Her problem turned out to be low estrogen levels. She said that once she went on estrogen replacement therapy she felt like a new person. I know that's not what my problem is because I've had my hormone levels checked & they're normal. But it might be something for you to consider Jxlvr. If it's not a hormonal problem, then an antidepressant might help. Though, as I've learned, they tend to lose their effectiveness over time. Some people swear by therapy but I've never tried it myself.

Anyway, I hope you'll find the help you need, Jxlvr. It's miserable feeling angry at the world all the time. Please keep us updated on how you're doing![/QUOTE]



Thanks for replying. Today is a bad day until I leave for work. I work at 2pm. I took my kids to a birthday party and was annoyed at their voices the whole time in the car. When we got hom i told them to just go outside until I leave for work. I even told my husband to stay away from me to give me a little time to relax. I hate this feeling. I get really stressed and its not fair to them. I also have my father in law living with us and he drives me up a wall lol. The people at work wouldnt believe me if i ever told them i was miserable because at work i seem to hide it well. I will make an appointment monday to talk to my doc because you may be right( I hope you are) about the low estrogen level. I cant stop[ thinking about not having enough time for stuff. My mind is on overdrive LOL. well thanks again, keep in touch to let me know how your doing.
Tracy
Re: WHy am I angry?
Mar 13, 2004
Hey Tracy,

Thanks for your reply. I'm glad you're going to see a doctor. I hope he/she is sympathetic to what you're going through & doesn't just blow you off. Sometimes people who are lucky enough not to have this problem don't understand.

I know what you mean about not having enough time, sometimes I feel like I'd have to be 3 people just to get all the things done that I need to....and I don't even have kids!! I really don't know how people like you who work AND raise kids ever manage it. I'd be so frazzled I'd have to be locked up in a padded cell lol. Maybe part of your problem is simple exhaustion. Does your husband help out much with housework, cooking, errands, helping with the kids, etc? Or are you like most wives & mothers who end up with the lion's share of those chores?

Anyway, try & hang in there (easy for me to say). Let me know how it goes with the dr, ok?

Talk later,
Mary





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