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Gosh I can really relate... My ex husband's whole family had anger problems and the longer I was with him, the more he took all his bottled-up anger and stress out on me, shouting his head off at me, at home with the windows open, in his car and so on. One of the worst was earlier this year, he was waiting for the car wash and wanting a smoke, but because we'd only gone food shopping he didn't have his cigarettes on him, so he asked me to walk back to the shop and buy him some.

I was tired and we were next to a petrol station (!) so I said "No" and explained why, and he totally flew off the handle and shouted at me for a good 20 minutes (long queue) at the top of his voice, initially with the windows down and then he shut them and the car steamed up. I was so terrified and embarassed yet I didn't have the guts to get out and walk away.

I left him a few months later, and am now happily invovled with a gentle loving guy who was my best friend before that.

I've tried to help my ex but as long as someone sticks by them and puts up with the kind of abuse you're talking about, people with such a bad temper problem will never have the motivation to do anything about their problems.

In my ex's case there were other issues involved (he became obsessed with an attack that happened 4 years ago, it was verbally provoked, they did wrong to him but he wouldn't get ANY help, just obsessed over how unfairly he had been treated and in the end *I* was the one who didn't care.. yeah right!) and after 4 years of being there for him, comforting him, listening to him and putting up with verbal and mental abuse on a sometimes daily basis I had enough.

Don't let it get to that stage - if you feel there is still hope, TALK to him, make it clear you will not put up with this any longer, print out (copy & paste into word if you don't want him to read your post here, so you don't have to tell him where/that you post) some of the posts here where relationships faltered because of anger problems, and ones where people got help with their temper...

Good Luck!





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