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Re: HELP!!!
Sep 12, 2003
Hi karmon,

You and your children are being emotionally abused. It can be just as bad as physical abuse. There are answers, that's positive. But, it will require change on his part. It's never okay or justified to lose control, never. If he continues in this direction, he'll have high blood pressure and possibly other physical health problems. This guy doesn't know how to deal with stress. He can learn. But it will require change on his part. If he doesn't want to change he can consider what this decision will cost him: you, his kids, perhaps his job, friends.

There are books. Have him, not you, go to Amazon.com and type in anger or anger management and he'll see plenty from which to choose. There is help, but you have to want it. My main problem was depression, but I have always had some anger, though not anything like your husband. A Cogntive Behavioral Therapy program brought me out of depression and has given me control of my anger as well. Losing control makes one look like a child, irresponsible. That's the way children respond. One suggestion I have is waiting at least 24 hours before responding to anything that makes you angry. Sounds like he likes to blame others for his own problems also. The program I went through can help him with this and with his anger. A lot of it is geared toward anxiety and depression, but the other parts are there also. Sounds like he has high expectations of others. The program can help him with this.

Bottom line, there is help. He can change and become someone who can control his moods. He has to want to. There's no excuse for him not to accept responsibility for his behavior and try to change. He just doesn't want to.

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Never give up. Never, never, never.

[This message has been edited by moderator1 (edited 10-10-2003).]





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