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Almost everybody i know thinks that im the most calm person ever and i would be the last person to get mad. But i never really want to let anyone know im mad, not sure why either.

It gets to points where im so pissed off that i just start punching a door or throwing things, but when nobody is ever around. It got so heated that once i actually cut my upper arm with a knife, just because i was mad. I didnt even want to do this to be honest with you, my mind just controls me when im mad, i ended up getting 13 stitches. I get easily pissed off when im driving, like if somebody does something stupid then i end up acting stupid as well, but not even thinking about it. For little things too, like in my neighborhood someone may run this little stop sign (pretty much everyone does it), and i just get angry about it so i tail them the entire way through the neighborhood. This has happened on tons of occasions, and a few people even mentioned it to me before.

The only thing is that i never inflict my pain on other people, never. Just my anger gets out of hand sometimes. Does anyone know how i could possibly fix this?
"Almost everybody i know thinks that im the most calm person ever and i would be the last person to get mad. But i never really want to let anyone know im mad, not sure why either."
"I guess i wasnt allowed to be angry, and in my current age i find it incredibly frustrating to argue with my parents, even in the friendly debate way. Because no matter what i am wrong, and that just makes me incredibly mad. I guess i just wasnt too angry of a kid when i was younger."
Your anger now could be surpressed anger from your childhood. Do you remember what your parents would do when you got anger? Did they punish you, or silence you?Can you remember how it mad you feel? Today you are frustrated when you argue with your parents and are always wrong, no matter what, correct? It makes you anger..what else does it make you feel?
Well i was never too angry as a child, here are there, and when i was i cant remember what i did, obviously nothing serious.

But with my parents, its not that im argueing because i hate them or something, its just that i want to get my point across, and they seem to defend their idea to that extreme so that it turns kind of into an arguement, no matter how hard i try not to. The past year was the worst though, sometimes they use this little tag team technique which drives me insane, i ask them something in the nice manner, they say no, i try to defend my answer (calm and cool), and then they start shooting down all of my ideas. After that, we try to maintain a regular debate, they say their part while i wait and listen, then once my turn comes around, they wouldnt even give me eye contact, they would go back to doing what they were doing (eating maybe, watching tv, etc), and then when i said something that probably has a good point, they totally interrupt me and throw in their story while i was still talking.

I have avoided those arguements lately, i just give in because i honestly cant remember the last time i was right. So i havent really tried for a long time.
[QUOTE=Lazer-LXXVII]Almost everybody i know thinks that im the most calm person ever and i would be the last person to get mad. But i never really want to let anyone know im mad, not sure why either.

It gets to points where im so pissed off that i just start punching a door or throwing things, but when nobody is ever around. It got so heated that once i actually cut my upper arm with a knife, just because i was mad. I didnt even want to do this to be honest with you, my mind just controls me when im mad, i ended up getting 13 stitches. I get easily pissed off when im driving, like if somebody does something stupid then i end up acting stupid as well, but not even thinking about it. For little things too, like in my neighborhood someone may run this little stop sign (pretty much everyone does it), and i just get angry about it so i tail them the entire way through the neighborhood. This has happened on tons of occasions, and a few people even mentioned it to me before.

The only thing is that i never inflict my pain on other people, never. Just my anger gets out of hand sometimes. Does anyone know how i could possibly fix this?[/QUOTE]

Yeah, when you get angry, you need to let it out. You can't just hold it all inside and then let it all out at once later on. That is dangerous. I'm not saying scream at people or hit them or anything..just calmly talk with them about the issue that is bothering you. I used to break things, scream, hits the walls..I would just go nuts when everything got to be too much. Now instead of doing that, if I get angry, I let the person that made me angry know. I don't get as angry as I used to though, I've grown up alot and I just tell myself that it's not worth it to get really pissed off and out of control, I've gotten control over the anger instead of letting it control me. As for the tailgating..that I don't do because it's simply not safe for you or the other driver. I do get road rage once in a while though..just remember that not everyone drives like you do and basically you can't change that, so you just have to deal with it. Being that you see this as a problem, you can work on fixing it, good luck with it.





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