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My boyfriend has anger issues too. He would never harm me and he rants to me but indirectly. He's not yelling at me about something that I am donig wrong. He's just generally pissed off about traffic, his probation officer, his alternative work force, his substance abuse program and he's tired of having to be told what to do by others.

I think he has an anxiety issue because he always works things up. It puts me on edge and it is starting to wear on our relationship because he asks me why I don't talk to him anymore. I just ignore his complaining to the best of my ability and we have lost our connection and communication.

If you want to help your boyfriend you have to find out why he has such a short fuse. Mine says it's an opiate attitude because he can't have them anymore. But he's going to the pshyciatrist on monday and hopefully he can determine the cause of his anger because it debilatates his life. I mean how is he going to hold a job if he snaps all the time and can't handle authority. How is he going to maintain a healthy relationship if I don't feel I can communicate with him. Or I would just rather be away from him because I don't want to hear his mouth.

Anyway, just because he's angry all the time and vents doesn't mean he is going to be abusive. Yeah it's a downer and no one wants to hear it but is he yelling at you about things you are doing or is he just complaining about his life? If he's yelling AT you than it's verbal abuse. I still hate it that my boyfriend is angry all the time but he's yelling about things outside of our relationship that have nothing to do with me. It still needs to be corrected for my peace of mind though.

Anyhow, If your boyfriend can't control his temper maybe he needs to see a psychiatrist or a counselor to talk about it. Maybe the counseling could teach him to react differently to situations. But there's nothing you can do about it, he has to want to change. So you either have to accept that this is how you are going to live your life and work on trying to help him with his anger problems or find someone that doesn't have anger problems. Because it's going to take alot of work on his part and he's gonig to have to accept that he has a problem that he wants to fix.

Not everyone that has rage issues would beat a woman. Every man that beats women has rage issues. I mean I've had road rage before but that doesn't mean that I would get out of my car and pull someone out of thier car and punch them. If you feel that he oversteps your boundaries by all means get out of the relationship but I wouldn't assume his yelling would lead to hitting unless he is threatening and overbearing physically during his outbursts.
[QUOTE=jkitty;2877626]My boyfriend has anger issues too. He would never harm me and he rants to me but indirectly. He's not yelling at me about something that I am donig wrong. He's just generally pissed off about traffic, his probation officer, his alternative work force, his substance abuse program and he's tired of having to be told what to do by others.

I think he has an anxiety issue because he always works things up. It puts me on edge and it is starting to wear on our relationship because he asks me why I don't talk to him anymore. I just ignore his complaining to the best of my ability and we have lost our connection and communication.

If you want to help your boyfriend you have to find out why he has such a short fuse. Mine says it's an opiate attitude because he can't have them anymore. But he's going to the pshyciatrist on monday and hopefully he can determine the cause of his anger because it debilatates his life. I mean how is he going to hold a job if he snaps all the time and can't handle authority. How is he going to maintain a healthy relationship if I don't feel I can communicate with him. Or I would just rather be away from him because I don't want to hear his mouth.

Anyway, just because he's angry all the time and vents doesn't mean he is going to be abusive. Yeah it's a downer and no one wants to hear it but is he yelling at you about things you are doing or is he just complaining about his life? If he's yelling AT you than it's verbal abuse. I still hate it that my boyfriend is angry all the time but he's yelling about things outside of our relationship that have nothing to do with me. It still needs to be corrected for my peace of mind though.

Anyhow, If your boyfriend can't control his temper maybe he needs to see a psychiatrist or a counselor to talk about it. Maybe the counseling could teach him to react differently to situations. But there's nothing you can do about it, he has to want to change. So you either have to accept that this is how you are going to live your life and work on trying to help him with his anger problems or find someone that doesn't have anger problems. Because it's going to take alot of work on his part and he's gonig to have to accept that he has a problem that he wants to fix.

Not everyone that has rage issues would beat a woman. Every man that beats women has rage issues. I mean I've had road rage before but that doesn't mean that I would get out of my car and pull someone out of thier car and punch them. If you feel that he oversteps your boundaries by all means get out of the relationship but I wouldn't assume his yelling would lead to hitting unless he is threatening and overbearing physically during his outbursts.[/QUOTE]





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