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My Husband use to be the sweetes person alive then the past couple of years he has been getting really angery at things we might say or he will just start yelling at everyone. but when he comes down he says he didn't say or do any of that. But when we go to the doctors about it he's back to this sweetes guy again and they think I am crazy. What should I do we have a year old son and he is picking up his dads happit.
[QUOTE=meghan5507;3041724]My Husband use to be the sweetes person alive then the past couple of years he has been getting really angery at things we might say or he will just start yelling at everyone. but when he comes down he says he didn't say or do any of that. But when we go to the doctors about it he's back to this sweetes guy again and they think I am crazy. What should I do we have a year old son and he is picking up his dads happit.[/QUOTE]

Your husband may not believe he has an anger problem.
How can the doctor help if he (your husband) doesn't think he has a problem?

If your husband isn't willing to acknowledge he has an anger problem, he can't get help-- but he should think about what this is doing to his family.
If nothing is done, your son will pick up his dad's habit and act the same way.
I have gotten use to taking care of the baby by myself one because his family has there own business and he works long hours or is always working on stuff. He love to keep busy this last couple weeks he has been helping me with the baby when he comes home. and in the middle of the night. I would like to have another child because is great with children but I told him only if he goes and talks to a therapist. Which he was a little upset because he wants another one but if I wont have one till he gets help then that made him think about it some more. As for leaving him I am not getting a divorce my mother was divorced 2 and I am not putting my child through what I want through. I made the dission to get married to him and I will make it work.
[QUOTE=meghan5507;3072002]I have gotten use to taking care of the baby by myself one because his family has there own business and he works long hours or is always working on stuff. He love to keep busy this last couple weeks he has been helping me with the baby when he comes home. and in the middle of the night. I would like to have another child because is great with children but I told him only if he goes and talks to a therapist. Which he was a little upset because he wants another one but if I wont have one till he gets help then that made him think about it some more. As for leaving him I am not getting a divorce my mother was divorced 2 and I am not putting my child through what I want through. I made the dission to get married to him and I will make it work.[/QUOTE]

you're not doing your child any favors by staying in that situation. children learn what they live. you're teaching your child that it's ok to be verbally abusive..... it's probably only a matter of time before he becomes physically abusive. Do you watch the news? Do you see how many women are killed by the man they love because he has an anger problem? Did you see Chris Benoit just recently killed his wife and kid? Remember Lacy Peterson? That girl in Ohio just last week? Do you want to be on the news? You have a chance to get out now, you're still breathing. You really should consider all your options. You can't make it work on your own, it takes two.

did you ever think, you may be alive today BECAUSE your mother got a divorce?
[QUOTE=meghan5507;3047977]we had this problem before I got pregnant and during the pregnancy he put in depression by the things he said to me. during the birth he wouldn't help any. till this day he doesn't think that the baby is his responsablity its either mine or his moms. He and his family is self employed so he flips out on everyone. Blames everyone if something goes wrong when he is the one breaking equipment and is always taking off. We just don't know what to do he want go to the doctor[/QUOTE]
I am going through this problem, with my bf. He is not physically violent towards me, but he gets mad at the littlest things. He literally thinks about running people off the road if they are not doing "HIS" speed. He screems at every vehicle, because they are doing everything worng. I do have a wonderful relationship in most ways, but he takes his anger out on me, not by hitting at all but he scares me, by yelling and hitting walls. The thing is that he knows he has a problem, but he only thinks about helping himself when it gets to the point that i threaten to leave him. He is afraid to go to a therapist, because he sais, "they will just put me on antidepressants," and he doesn't want to live his life from a pill. I need help, before my relationship does suffer to the point where we split, because i love his with all of my heart he just has issues bigtime.
But seemy problem is not as bad as some women, with abusive husbands. My bf only has anger problems, he is not abusive towards me in any way. He only takes it out on me, because all of his friends dumped him when he quit doing drugs to make a better life for me and his child. so therefore i am the only person he has to listen to his problems. And when he is screaming, it is not at me, i just have to listen to it because i am the only person around him. I am not afraid for my life with him, i do feel protected all of the time, i just do not like him getting that angry all the time. for no reason. I am trying to figure out why he is this way. His dad moved in with us, (Finally out now) YAY, but i noticed while he was living with us, his dad always stays depressed, and angry, he is the most non social person i have ev er met. I just don't want my bf to end up like his father. I need help to get a little deeper, to figure it out.
[QUOTE=whitcole29;3083056]But seemy problem is not as bad as some women, with abusive husbands. My bf only has anger problems, he is not abusive towards me in any way. He only takes it out on me, because all of his friends dumped him when he quit doing drugs to make a better life for me and his child. so therefore i am the only person he has to listen to his problems. And when he is screaming, it is not at me, i just have to listen to it because i am the only person around him. I am not afraid for my life with him, i do feel protected all of the time, i just do not like him getting that angry all the time. for no reason. I am trying to figure out why he is this way. His dad moved in with us, (Finally out now) YAY, but i noticed while he was living with us, his dad always stays depressed, and angry, he is the most non social person i have ev er met. I just don't want my bf to end up like his father. I need help to get a little deeper, to figure it out.[/QUOTE]

yelling and venting at you because you're the only one who will listen to him IS being abusive, and the fact that you're making excuses for him shows just how far he's beaten you down already. And you don't want him to end up like his dad? He already is.....take off the blinders. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Don't try to be a hero and save this one....just toss him back.





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