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Re: HATE My Boss
Apr 7, 2009
[QUOTE=JewelryJulie;3948090]I have total control over my anger--except for when my boss acts like an idiot--which is all day long. He follows me from room to room. He rifles through my desk. He micromanages my every step. He spies on me, talks loudly on the phone and makes my life hell. The job is otherwise tolerable. (I don't make enough to live on, but otherwise it is ok.)

I feel like I am going to lose control against him one of these days. What should I do?[/QUOTE]


[I][FONT="Comic Sans MS"][COLOR="DarkGreen"] It's so easy to read your post and make a comment like " Leave ". or " Ask yourself why your putting up with the issues that are stressors, that would send you, to lose control and end up leaving with a tarnish on your emp. record . "

[U]Yet on the other hand[/U], maybe, just maybe, your boss has had some really bad past emps...it doesnt' nessesarily need to be his past emps. It could be his whole life before you were employed there... he feels he needs to gaurd his investment and that is partly you... In not understanding why someone does what they do...we come to our own understanding..leading to what your saying...coming to conculsions that could possibly not be founded if we understood the "WHY". Is it to uncomfortable, to ask why your boss does what he does? or Is it that your unable to ask without showing anger at this point?
[U]Unfortunately[/U], your micromanaging him and his actions... your boss can't even breath without your [U]mind[/U] asking him not to...hahahaha ~ ~ hoping you can find some humor in that last comment....anywho, It's under your skin now...Myself, I usually wait for the last straw... sometimes for some that is too late and keeping in mind you don't want to burn bridges. Possible recommendations for future opps...

~ ~ [U]There is not [/U]an employment opp. out in the world, that combines people from every aspect; that each of us wouldn't at anytime begin the irritations, of people being around people with all our personal querks. in a work enviornment 9 or so hours a day... No job out there ~ ~

Wishes of Good Luck in your decisions... [/COLOR][/FONT][/I]
Re: HATE My Boss
Apr 9, 2009
[QUOTE=Drain Bamaged;3950634]It isn't a matter of "taking it personally" it is like someone getting into your [U]personal space.[/U] [U]He makes me feel "violated"[/U] if that makes sense. And just because he does it to everyone doesn't make it right. As a matter of fact, there are [U]many others here who also hate what he does.[/U]



[FONT="Comic Sans MS"][COLOR="DarkOliveGreen"] [SIZE="3"]So.......... With [/SIZE][SIZE="3"]That..... Written..........
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[B]It seems the Boss is the conversation of the day.... as you all gather around the Water Cooler expressing your own issues about what this Boss does..or doesn't do or is or could have this, that & the hell of OCD.. Knitting all of your [U][SIZE="3"]unfortunate - unedifying yuck[/SIZE][/U]... [SIZE="3"]Feeding[/SIZE] [SIZE="3"]into each other the MUCK and MIRE [/SIZE]..... You've all become ! [/B]


[SIZE="3"]Sorta seems, you all aren't busy enough...! [/SIZE]


[U]Personal space [/U]? Its at home, in your car; [U][SIZE="3"] It's not at work...[/SIZE][/U]
Your Boss has to pay for every moment you waste. Your costing him $$$$

[SIZE="3"][B][U]Thankful, I'm not your Boss !!!! I don't [B]babysit at work[/B]...
I'd want to know where you are and what your doing every moment too. Simply to verify why your getting paid...&... Why am I paying you to loiter. [/U][/B][/SIZE]
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WOW. Sounds like the anger mgmt board is not the place to ask for help--as you are very angry. Nice reply.
LOL.
Re: HATE My Boss
Apr 10, 2009
[QUOTE=JewelryJulie;3948090]I have total control over my anger--except for when my boss acts like an idiot--which is all day long. He follows me from room to room. He rifles through my desk. He micromanages my every step. He spies on me, talks loudly on the phone and makes my life hell. The job is otherwise tolerable. (I don't make enough to live on, but otherwise it is ok.)

I feel like I am going to lose control against him one of these days. What should I do?[/QUOTE]


[QUOTE=JewelryJulie;3950562]He does this to everyone. He is like OCD or something. I have worked here a year.[/QUOTE]


[QUOTE=JewelryJulie;3950572]It isn't a matter of "taking it personally" it is like someone getting into your[U] personal space[/U]. [U]He makes me [/U][U]feel "violated" [/U]if that makes sense. And just because he does it to everyone doesn't make it right. As a matter of fact, [U]there are many others [/U][U]here who also hate what he does[/U].[/QUOTE]

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[SIZE="3"]Interestingly enough on your first post ~ to this last post[/SIZE]; ([I]quoted above[/I]).

Just as the posts earlier states: ( [I]quoted below [/I])

[QUOTE=AnnD;3948309]I think there is more information that is missing from this? Why do you think the boss is doing what he is doing? Did you ask him why he is doing all these things[U]...[SIZE="3"]doesn't seem logical for him to hire [/SIZE][SIZE="3"]someone[/SIZE] [/U][U][SIZE="3"]and then follow them around [/SIZE][SIZE="3"]without him suspecting you of [/SIZE][/U][U][SIZE="3"]something[/SIZE]?[/U] It is hard to say what's up without knowing more information of what kind of job this is ...how long you have worked there and did you do something you are not suppose to do?[/QUOTE]


[QUOTE=JewelryJulie;3951055]WOW. Sounds like the anger mgmt board is not the place to ask for help--as you are very angry. Nice reply.
LOL.[/QUOTE]

[SIZE="3"][B][I]Your very welcome [/I][/B][/SIZE]for the " [COLOR="black"]Nice reply[/COLOR]" [U][SIZE="3"][I]LOL's back at ya [/I][/SIZE][/U]~ how sweet...:)
[COLOR="DarkOliveGreen"][FONT="Comic Sans MS"][SIZE="3"][I][SIZE="4"]It's not [/SIZE][SIZE="4"]Anger ~ ~[COLOR="Black"] as in AARRGggggg[/COLOR] :mad: [COLOR="DarkSlateBlue"][B]It's Passion...!!!! [/B][/COLOR][/SIZE][/I][/SIZE][/FONT][/COLOR]

[U][B][SIZE="3"]80% of Work Force [/SIZE][/B][/U]doesn't [U][B][SIZE="3"]"know"[/SIZE][/B][/U] the [U][B][SIZE="3"]difference[/SIZE][/B][/U] between [U][B][SIZE="3"]Work[/SIZE][/B][/U] and [U][B][SIZE="3"]Play[/SIZE][/B][/U]. [U][I][SIZE="3"]It's good you do understand. [/SIZE][/I][/U]

[U] [COLOR="Black"]" This board is not the place to ask for help."[/COLOR] [/U] [I][SIZE="3"]That's any easy exit[/SIZE][/I]. [SIZE="4"]You are being helped !! [/SIZE][SIZE="3"]It's not accourding to what [U]You[/U] [U]Want[/U] to [U]Hear or Read even Personally Ponder.[/U] [/SIZE]
[U][SIZE="3"][B]In the long and short of it all ~ ~ [/B][/SIZE][/U]
[U][SIZE="3"]Are you sure your not looking for:[/SIZE][/U] [SIZE="4"]Validation to carry [/SIZE][SIZE="4"]on with the "[/SIZE] [U][B][I][COLOR="Black"] [SIZE="4"]Hate my Boss [/SIZE][/COLOR][/I][/B][/U]" [SIZE="4"]theme. ? ? ? and Water Cooler Talk !!![/SIZE]




















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Re: HATE My Boss
Apr 10, 2009
I really do think you have anger problems NOT PASSION PROBLEMS. If one reads through my 3 posts, one would see that I am answering what was asked of me that you then posted below it out of order.

Why does he do that- is answered when I state that "I think he is OCD". Perhaps you are unaware of what that is, or its symptoms, but it can be highly frustrating to deal with if you don't suffer from it yourself.

You assume that we "gather around the water cooler" discussing this boss, but as a matter of fact, I wanted to know if it was just happening to me, or also to others. THUS I ASKED. You also assumed that I must be the problem. Assuming is a great way of NOT KNOWING THE FACTS.

You are jumping to conclusions and picking a scab. You must have bloodlust, as this is a place where you are SUPPOSED TO BE able to ask for help and guidance--ie "how do you deal with a difficult person? Do you have suggestions?"

AS WITH ALL OTHER ISSUES ON THESE BOARDS, THE POINT IS ASKING FOR AND HOPEFULLY RECEIVING ADVISE--NOT BEING SNICKERED AT AND TAUNTED.

You are VERY rude and you don't (?) realize it--I am hoping.

You have no idea what I do for a living, or what I am paid. The shear amount of assumptions, taunts and just general "f u" attitude in your posting is really quite obnoxious. Do me a favor--and yourself one--please stop replying to my posting, as you are not helpful, but are instead testing my ability to deal with rudeness and ignorance.
THANK YOU.
Re: HATE My Boss
Apr 20, 2009
Hi there I have no reason to be on this board I just noticed the header...so can't help with anger issues but..........
I can imagine how nuts this can make you but hang in there...another poster mentioned try killing him with kindness...try this..next time he is over at your desk politely say "can I help you out there, wht EXACTLY are you looking for?"
also you can try another tactic and that would be to ask him every time you need something to ask him...for example could you help me with this? could you show me how to do this, go a bit over the top if you need to, he is a manager after all it is his job to assist you...
I recently moved departments at my work and my new boss is great, no longer quizzes me on when I get in in the am, I had to leave today coz my kid has pink eye, he just said 'no worries see you tommorow' I thought 'wow' what a nice guy! any ways try playing the idiot or thry being super nice...wether they work or not it will give you something to do at work ..lol
good luck :)





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