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Hi Seraph! I'm back again!

I'm having a really hard time with the anger bit. My parents are always there for me. I don't want you to think that they aren't. I don't know how to move passed any of the anger. You are right that I'm mad that I can't change any of it. I don't know how to let it go. For example, I woke up this morning to a text from my brother. He was out last night, with friends, as saw my best friend's soon to be ex husband. He sent me a few texts about what happened. What is amazing to me is that I haven't heard from my brother in a week, since he reached out to me and asked me advice about therapy. That incident is on the "Relationships" board. It doesn't even occur to him that he reached out to me, had me worried, then fell off the face of the earth. Now is writing like nothing happened. It's such a slap in the face. Yet I know this is my brother and unless he gets help it won't change. How do I move forward like this? How do I try to have a relationship with him? How do I not let him affect me so much? How do I "shrug" it off? Like my therapist said he has not awareness of how his behavior/actions affect other people. I feel like it's like talking to a wall. My anger centers around me not being able to change it. But also I'm angry at myself for not being able to let it go. GRRRRR!!!!! I HATE FEELING LIKE THIS!!! It's weighing me down and making me depressed.
I'm glad you are in school and keeping busy. My dad was always nice and polite with other people and totally ignored me when I was young. When I married my ex-husband, he ignored him and talked to me. That was really weird. I wrote to him a lot and told him who I was and how I thought about things. He never wrote back but that was alright because I didn't have any expectations. He would only call if someone died. We can't choose our family but we can choose our friends and many times siblings don't get along. Maybe when he grows up and appreciates you but don't hold your breath. I hope you can find some good friends and not be around users or toxic people. He sounds like he is narcisstic which is a person who thinks only about himself. Don't expect too much from him. Don't isolate yourself or listen to negative things your brother says to you. I'm glad you have a therapist and can find emotional healing. You can break the cycle and get healthy yourself and be a whole person inside. There are a lot of interesting people in this world and as you reach out to be a friend to others or help others out, then you can become happier and confident in your abilities and know you are here for a purpose. Best wishes to you.

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