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Hi everyone. I am a college student and I think i have had anxiety issues on and off all my life. Growing up I was very shy. I didn't even talk in front of other people when I was in Kindegarten. It has been a long struggle... and I have come a long way since then. I think that my shyness has dissipated quite a bit, however I have trouble functioning in group situations. I am very good one on one or in a group of 3... but the more people who join the group, the quieter and more shutdown I become. If it is my family or a group of people I am very, very close to it is different. I don't know what is wrong with. My whole life I have gotten cues from other people that there is somthing wrong with me and that being shy is a bad thing. When I was little and in school, I remember one teacher making me stand in the corner. Other kids would always ask me why I was so quiet. My own partents would ask me if I talked to anyone in school when I got home or if I was a stick-in-the-mud. They would also call me a bump-on-a-log. As I got older, there were times when in social group situations i thought I was doing fine.... but then someone always has to loudly remark that "this girl over here doesn't even talk!" And they say it like they are mad about it. :mad: It hurts because I have come such a long way from when I didn't even talk at all and couldn't even look people in the eye to where I am now. And I did it all on my own. No one seems to understand that. When someone points this out or makes comments about how inadequite I am, it makes me withdraw even more. I am not a loud person or a party person. I am introverted and would rather read a book, than be out with a large group of people. However, most people think of this as some sort of charecter flaw. :confused:

I guess the point of this rant is that I am in this class at school where each day we have to form new groups and do group activites for the duration of the class. This is a required class, so there is no getting out of it. I don't know how I am going to get through this and I was wondering if anyone else has this problum and could offer me some support?

When I we break up into groups in this small classroom to do an activity... all the groups meet in the same room and it becomes very noisy. This is very distracting to me and I have trouble concentrating. One person reads the paper with the instuctions. I somtimes have trouble understading instructions read orally... I need to read them on my own. Then there are always a few loud people in the group who take over and it is hard to get a word in edgewise. Also, i am extremly soft-spoken... so it is hard to hear me when in these situations. Then, it never fails one group member will get there nose out of joint that I am not giving input and make a comment in my direction :eek: ... so I will start to say something... with my soft-spoken voice... and then the other group members who are not very good at listening will drown me out and no one will hear what I am saying anyway.

I know this probably sounds like I am being a baby.... but, no one understands my problums... because they are all extroverted. When I am in this class all my energy is drained. Its like my brain processes things differently than other people. It takes me longer to think about things and come up with the words I want to say. While I am doing this the other people are answering the questions at a rapid pace. :confused:

Does anyone else have this problum or know any coping skills? I have tried talking to teachers about my issues before to see if they could make any special accomodations for me... but the response I have always gotten is that I need to grow up. They dont say that, but that is what I got out of it.

Any input would be appreciated.

Thank you! :wave:

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