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I do try to still be there for her. I guess I am just disappointed because when she had bereavement counselling last year I even drove her to her first appointment and sat with her while she waited and then waited in the waiting room for ages while she had the session. And I was there for every session she had. I would take her back home and talk things through and help her get settled again. But she just dismisses my treatment and basically says its not helping and I need to just get on with it myself. But I am trying, thats the honest truth.
And her partner called me yesterday and told me to either a) start getting myself together, or b) stop talking to my friend about it.
But the thing is I'm never the one that brings it up. I swear, she just always has to say something about it. And it really hurts because I knew her partner before they got together so he is a friend too. How can I get through this?
I told you I could never do anything right!
Anyway guess what happened today - well I had group therapy but it was split into pairs and I got paired with Lydia
:rolleyes: DOH!!
So we had to do role play stuff. The therapist gave us the roles to play. So I had to pretend to be Lydias older sister and she had to pretend after that she was the girl who betrayed me as a teenager. Only we didn't get that far because me being her 'sister' brought out some rather surprising facts.
It appears that Lydias sister is anorexic. She also weirdly enough has a name almost the same as mine (not Aurora, my real name!). Lydia has big time jealousy issues that her sister has anorexia but she herself is bulimic. Her sister is a dancer and Lydia wanted to go to dance school but didn't get in. So she really as issues with her. And I just so happen to remind her in some uncanny ways of her sister. Weird or what!!!!!
Maybe I am starting to see where her spite comes from.
Anyway whats going on with you? Have you thought of getting any more help my dear? Or how about some exercise that won't hurt, like the swimming?
I do think of you lots, and worry too. I want you to get through this. I don't want you to only take action if something bad happens that shakes you up.
Ok?!
Big hugs from me. xoxo
[QUOTE=Aurora]I do try to still be there for her. I guess I am just disappointed because when she had bereavement counselling last year I even drove her to her first appointment and sat with her while she waited and then waited in the waiting room for ages while she had the session. And I was there for every session she had. I would take her back home and talk things through and help her get settled again. But she just dismisses my treatment and basically says its not helping and I need to just get on with it myself. But I am trying, thats the honest truth.
And her partner called me yesterday and told me to either a) start getting myself together, or b) stop talking to my friend about it.
But the thing is I'm never the one that brings it up. I swear, she just always has to say something about it. And it really hurts because I knew her partner before they got together so he is a friend too. How can I get through this?
I told you I could never do anything right!
Anyway guess what happened today - well I had group therapy but it was split into pairs and I got paired with Lydia
:rolleyes: DOH!!
So we had to do role play stuff. The therapist gave us the roles to play. So I had to pretend to be Lydias older sister and she had to pretend after that she was the girl who betrayed me as a teenager. Only we didn't get that far because me being her 'sister' brought out some rather surprising facts.
It appears that Lydias sister is anorexic. She also weirdly enough has a name almost the same as mine (not Aurora, my real name!). Lydia has big time jealousy issues that her sister has anorexia but she herself is bulimic. Her sister is a dancer and Lydia wanted to go to dance school but didn't get in. So she really as issues with her. And I just so happen to remind her in some uncanny ways of her sister. Weird or what!!!!!
Maybe I am starting to see where her spite comes from.
Anyway whats going on with you? Have you thought of getting any more help my dear? Or how about some exercise that won't hurt, like the swimming?
I do think of you lots, and worry too. I want you to get through this. I don't want you to only take action if something bad happens that shakes you up.
Ok?!
Big hugs from me. xoxo[/QUOTE]



Ohhh, Aur....

You're just breaking my heart....for someone so sweet, how do you get the friends from h---???????????? It's not bad enough your friend is horribly unkind to you...now this other friend is heaping it on, too. What is the matter with BOTH of them??? This sooooooooooo defines the saying.."with friends like this, who needs enemies?????" Friends should be there for you. They aren't. Friends should care about you thru thick and thin. They don't. Friends should love you whether they think you are right or wrong. They don't. Friends do not abandon you in your darkest hour. They have. Friends encourage you. They don't. Friends should be there to hold you up when you don't have the strength to hold yourself up. They don't. Friends don't critisize you for things you cannot help. They do. Friends do not make you feel worse when you are already feeling bad enough. They do. Now, exactly what is it that you feel YOU haven't done right??? I'm betting you've never treated either of them the way they have been treating you? What I see is that they are kicking you when you are down. I'm sorry, Aur, but they just aren't friends. They are cruel, thoughtless and selfish, and can't see past their own noses. I am positively HORRIFIED at how they treat you!! I think Lydia Chlamydia has been kinder to you, and that's not saying much!!!!!! I realize it's none of my business, Aur....but if I were you?? These 'friends'?? I would have NOTHING more to do with them. They don't deserve your friendship nor your loyalty. I am soooooooo angry about this I could...I could.....become positively violent! And I'm NOT a violent person!! I'm sorry, Aur....but I simply CANNOT understand people like this. You, who are soooooo sweet, to be treated thusly....well, it defies understanding.

Ah hA!!!! So, the problem with Lydia has shown itself!! My, my, MY!! These are some revelations, hmm? Yes, I do see SORT OF why she has been the way she's been with you, but just to a point. I mean, you aren't her sister, are you? And she very well knows that! So while I can sympathize with her A BIT, and understand her a little better, her behavior to you still has been inexcusable. After the role-playing, did you two get a chance to speak one-on-one to each other? Has she been kinder? Does she recognize how unfair she's been to you? I will continue to hope that she will start treating you kindly!! And how's Will?? I keep him in my thoughts and prayers, too!

Oh, Aur, I don't even WANT to talk about me. I cannot put more on you than you already have on yourself. I'm just fine!! And when you are better, I will be MORE fine! :D Hope you have a trrific day tomorrow!!

MANY HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!
Char/pam :wave:





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