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Thanks for sharing so much.

For what it’s worth, here’s my 2 cents.

Firstly, an eating disorder is NEVER a solution to your problems. You may have thought you looked good on the outside, but I can guarantee that you didn’t look good on the inside – either mentally or physically. You were obsessed by food, and that drove you to lie and be deceitful (I don’t mean that in a harsh way, I have been there, I know that it is the disease that drives you to lie). You need to view an eating disorder as a disease, would you ever wish that you had the flu? An eating disorder is just as much of a disease.

Your husband obviously loves you and is attracted to you. What’s more, he’s been attracted to you at every weight which means that he doesn’t care what weight you are. He loves you because of the wonderful, beautiful person you are inside, not because of your outward appearance.

Being overweight is not hideous, it is not horrific, it is not awful. The media would like us to think that being overweight is the end of the world but that is not true. There are many many fabulous women who look absolutely stunning, who are hugely successful, and who are “overweight”. Who you are has got nothing to do with what you look like.

The drive to eat healthily and exercise can only come from inside of you. You need to learn to believe your husband. You need to learn that you are a beautiful woman. You need to believe that you deserve to be happy, that you are wonderful and loveable.

Take practical steps to do this – every day look in the mirror and force yourself to say “I am a wonderful woman who looks beautiful and I accept and love myself for who I am” five times. Force the words out even if you don’t believe them, but promise yourself that you will do it anyway, and you will do it everyday. I promise you that this will be a lot more effective than any amount of beating yourself up over not eating “healthily” enough.

I read a brilliant quote the other day:

“I have never accomplished anything in my life that was healthy or worthwhile which was motivated by self hatred”.

Katie xxx

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