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Here's my story: I been having sex with my exboyfriend from the beginning of 2003 to about May 2004. We had had unprotected sex like maybe 3 times although he did pull out before he ejaculated. November of last year, a few warts had developed which i knew were an STD so I freaked out. He had no symptoms at all. Along with the genital warts I started bleeding from intercourse. I had no idea what it was. I did go to a clinic just to get treated for my warts before they spread. I musta went like once a week for like a month. Anyways at that point I didnt mention the bleeding, and the lady did suggest to get a pap smear. So I did....my results came back near the end of the year....and they found that I had chlamydia as well. They gave me pills for it which i took right away. I had then told my bf at the time that i obviously got it from him (hes the only one i been with ) and to go get checked out for EVERYTHING including HIV which i was too scared to get tested myself. He did go to the clinic, got the stuff for the chlamidya then later he told me that everythign was fine and he was hiv negative. So I was relieved. Now almost a year later, the whole HIV thing came back to haunt me. I was just doing some research on symptoms and stuff just for the heck of it. Then I saw swollen lymph nodes which literally terrified me. All i know is during that period I was being treated for my warts and chlaymidia was present, i had a swollen node on my armpit, then it went away after a couple days, then right after I got one in my groin area which freaked me out at the time but it went away after 2-3 days so I didnt think much of it after. Other then that I can't recall any other symptoms. So now its been about 3 weeks since i started really worrying. I called up my ex and totally went bizark, he said I was crazy, and confirmed that he was negative and said he even has the paper, but I never saw it. We really havent talked since then. He has cheated on me, and I know after hes been with alot of women in the past..and he obviously had unprotected sex with soem of them or else he would have never got the STDS. The answers to his past can only be answered from him but he has not been honest with me from other things, and I dont know what to believe and what not to believe including if he really got tested for HIV. Sorry for makin this soo long. I ordered a hometest about 2 weeks ago off ebay..and its still not here, and im really goin crazy. Also i been soo stressed and anxious the last 3 weeks, that i started feelin off and on mild pain in my hands and wrists which now im thinkin is HIV related. Then just a couple days ago I had a swollen node once again on my armpit that has now went away. Just for a fact ever since the STD and lymph node incident, until 3 weeks ago, I experienced no pain or symptoms. I'm really goin crazy, adn cant function properly....I just want to know:

1. Can those swollen glands Ive experienced be from my Stds (warts/chlamydia)

2. Do all guys pre-cum, and if so, is it as risky as ejaculate

3. Why would i get a swollen gland like a year later (can it be from stress?)

Any other info or comments on anything would be greatlly appreciated.

THANKS SOO MUCH
[QUOTE=stressed123]Here's my story: I been having sex with my exboyfriend from the beginning of 2003 to about May 2004. We had had unprotected sex like maybe 3 times although he did pull out before he ejaculated. November of last year, a few warts had developed which i knew were an STD so I freaked out. He had no symptoms at all. Along with the genital warts I started bleeding from intercourse. I had no idea what it was. I did go to a clinic just to get treated for my warts before they spread. I musta went like once a week for like a month. Anyways at that point I didnt mention the bleeding, and the lady did suggest to get a pap smear. So I did....my results came back near the end of the year....and they found that I had chlamydia as well. They gave me pills for it which i took right away. I had then told my bf at the time that i obviously got it from him (hes the only one i been with ) and to go get checked out for EVERYTHING including HIV which i was too scared to get tested myself. He did go to the clinic, got the stuff for the chlamidya then later he told me that everythign was fine and he was hiv negative. So I was relieved. Now almost a year later, the whole HIV thing came back to haunt me. I was just doing some research on symptoms and stuff just for the heck of it. Then I saw swollen lymph nodes which literally terrified me. All i know is during that period I was being treated for my warts and chlaymidia was present, i had a swollen node on my armpit, then it went away after a couple days, then right after I got one in my groin area which freaked me out at the time but it went away after 2-3 days so I didnt think much of it after. Other then that I can't recall any other symptoms. So now its been about 3 weeks since i started really worrying. I called up my ex and totally went bizark, he said I was crazy, and confirmed that he was negative and said he even has the paper, but I never saw it. We really havent talked since then. He has cheated on me, and I know after hes been with alot of women in the past..and he obviously had unprotected sex with soem of them or else he would have never got the STDS. The answers to his past can only be answered from him but he has not been honest with me from other things, and I dont know what to believe and what not to believe including if he really got tested for HIV. Sorry for makin this soo long. I ordered a hometest about 2 weeks ago off ebay..and its still not here, and im really goin crazy. Also i been soo stressed and anxious the last 3 weeks, that i started feelin off and on mild pain in my hands and wrists which now im thinkin is HIV related. Then just a couple days ago I had a swollen node once again on my armpit that has now went away. Just for a fact ever since the STD and lymph node incident, until 3 weeks ago, I experienced no pain or symptoms. I'm really goin crazy, adn cant function properly....I just want to know:

1. Can those swollen glands Ive experienced be from my Stds (warts/chlamydia)

2. Do all guys pre-cum, and if so, is it as risky as ejaculate

3. Why would i get a swollen gland like a year later (can it be from stress?)

Any other info or comments on anything would be greatlly appreciated.

THANKS SOO MUCH[/QUOTE]
OK, take a big breath
1) swollen lymph nodes can occur for so many reasons, including the ones you mentioned. You could swell up from cutting your finger, or just because your body is fighting some small random infection. The lymph nodes in my armpit used to swell on me when I wore a certain type of deoderant.
2)I think all guys pre-cum, however, some a lot more than others, etc. As far as it being safer, maybe a little bit, but not enough to really substanciate some huge difference
3) refer back to 1). My armpits also get a little sore before my period. It could also have to do with hormones. There are countless reasons honestly.
I really wouldnt worry too much. If you had no other partners, and he tested negative, then obviously, you're negative. However, I really would never trust someone else's status to determine your own. Its like trusting someone else with your life. Knowing that he tested negative should be good incentive and backing for you to be confident in testing. I know its difficult, but I think sometimes stress can kill ya quicker;) People dont really realize how badly prolonged stress can damage your system, its the number one cause of so many illnesses....just because people stop taking care of themselves. Go get tested, it will give you a new outlook on life :wave:





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