It appears you have not yet Signed Up with our community. To Sign Up for free, please click here....



HIV Prevention Message Board


HIV Prevention Board Index


I wonder if anyone can give me their opinion on my exposure and if you think I need to have an HIV test. I want to know if oral sex between two woman is risky for HIV transmission? This girl that I've been seeing for a couple of months now has informed me that she's actually been with a couple of men too. The only thing we did when we were together was have oral sex - both giving and receiving. Is this what they call a risky activity? I've heard so many conflicting reports that yes it is and no it isn't.
We were both not menstrating at that point in time, so there was no blood involved, but what about vaginal fluids - is that not a high risk? :(
I'm going to say you're probably fine. You don't know if she even has HIV first of all. Even if she did, you'll still be fine. Although saliva has been known to carry very small trace amount of HIV, it is usually not enough to infect another person. A study once followed 13 indivduals who had been bitten by HIV positive people. The bites HAD broken the skin and saliva had entered the blood stream. All 13 people tested negative. Now, there is the potential as cited by the CDC amongst other reliable sources that have reported that people HAVE contracted hiv through oral sex. Understand though that this number is incredibly low and it doesn't happen often. At any rate, I would get tested just to be sure.
Thank you for your reply. So basically what you're saying is that if there was no blood involved then I really have nothing to worry about? If it was ever transmitted this way - female to female ... how would this happen?
I've spoken to her and she has informed me that I've got nothing to worry about as she's HIV negative, a lesbian and has never been with a man or done drugs. Your opinion would really be appreciated. Have you got any medical, HIV knowledge?
[QUOTE=smiteler;3239981]very true, but i don't think there is even a recorded transmission of hiv ever in that manner so for it to happen would be pretty far out there.
i think there are only a couple of cases from oral sex and they were being done on a male and a few extreme circumstances were going on also besides the sex like bad sores,bleeding and things that would be very obvious.
getting hiv thru oral sex is a rare thing. possible? yes
probable? no

i wouldn't stress over it myself
good luck[/QUOTE]

Yeah, that is extremely rare. I just meant that so many people are confused about others who are lesbian, gay or bisexual. ANYONE could have it reguardless of what you are. That's what I should of said. :)
Sorry, forgot to add ..... does anyone know if there has been transmission from oral sex woman to woman? Not sure how this would actually happen. I mean afterall, don't we all practice oral sex and believe that this is a form of 'safe sex'. They're always promoting condoms, but never dental dams for oral sex .... why do you think that is?
You're welcome. :) I've always been interested in health/body and enjoy giving/receiving advice. So here I am! No, I've never been in a situation like yours, but I do know someone with HIV. Unfortunately she does not take care of herself properly and is going down hill.

If I were you I'd call around to different clinics and see if you can set up an appointment just to be safe.
Thank you Amber for your encouragment and help - I really do appreciate it. Here's hoping I have nothing to worry about - afterall, doesn't every couple practice oral sex and there hasn't been documented cases? This is my real question to all.
I'm sorry to hear about your friend, but just remember that you're support and help will encourage her every day. Must say ... if I do turn out to be HIV positive, I'd love to have you as a friend! You seem really caring and supportive! THANK YOU!
Thanks Amber .... I know you're right and I really need to go and do this so that I can finally put this nightmare behind me. Here's hoping all is okay!
Thanks for your patience, caring and support!
To my knowledge, no, there has never been a recorded case of HIV transmission in this manner. A common misconception by most is that saliva contains HIV. While there is SOME truth to this, most of what is found in saliva is HIV antibodies. I highly doubt that you could have gotten HIV in this manner. I'm not sure what to tell you, if you can't get tested, you may never know. However, i am almost 100% positive that you do not have HIV. I really would not worry.

Now, about the bumps on your lips, that does sound consistent with perhaps herpes oh something of that nature. If possible, get checked.
Hm...that's odd that they're on your gums. While that is a symptom consistent with HIV, it does NOT mean that you have it. Sadly, the only way to know for sure is to get tested, but since that's difficult in your area, you really may never know. I do know you can get an at home test where you swab your mouth and send it in and they'll mail you back the results.
However, I am confident you do not have HIV. The bumps on your lips could be from dental issues as you said you were experiencing. oral sex simply is not one of the modes of transmission for HIV.

I don't know if I mentioned this before, but saliva is known to deactivate anywhere from 90-99% of the HIV virus. There simply is not enough of the virus in saliva to infect you, the viral load is far to low.
I think you misunderstood me, you do NOT have HIV. It would be impossible for you to have gotten it from that risk. In fact, I don't even like calling it a risk since it wasn't one. You really need to stop worrying, you're doing what I did when I thought I had HIV. You work yourself into a world of worry and nothing anyone says will deter you from thinking about it. Eventually you either need counseling or it goes away (my anxiety went away). It's not worth letting HIV consume your life. The bumps in your mouth really could be anything, don't let it get down to "oh no, it HAS to be HIV". Now, don't quote me on this one, as I am actually researching this right now just for you, but I do NOT think that bumps in the mouth are a sign of early infection of HIV. I do believe that comes many many years down the road. I will know for sure in at most an hour or two, so check back then for a definite answer.

And for the record, all of my information comes from the CDC and I have done my research. I am not a doctor, and not even a doctor could diagnose you simply through symptoms alone, only a test can do that. I do know quite a bit about the virus off the top of my head since I find it very interesting and I do know how it can be transmitted. I can honestly say that the way you think you got it is not a mode of transmission.
Thank you smar for your post - help me put my mind to ease abit as I got really worried from your last message.
So basically what you're saying is that I really never had a risk of contracting HIV through that manner? Afterall we were only transmitting saliva and what I've read is that it has properties not to infect someone.
The bumps at the back of my upper and lower gums have been there for quite some time now and didn't really appear after the incident happened. It could possibly be from stress, smoking or cancer? Not sure ... really worried, but don't think it's from HIV.
What is your opinion on this?:(
That's the spirit =)

I checked many different websites because after you brought this up, I too became curious. Amongst those websites was the CDC, the Center for Disease control. According to them, there is no recorded case of HIV through saliva.

So, as long as there was no blood in the saliva, you are just fine, and even if there was, the odds of you contracting it are incredibly low, so I really just wouldn't worry.
Hey if you can get yourself tested, more power to you. I highly recommend it, as it will definately put your mind at ease. A test is cold hard proof of whether or not you have it (and i promise to you, you will be negative). I'm on this site because I thought I might have had HIV because of a highly unprofessional tattoo I got which now I regret because it looks horrible. Turns out, tattoos aren't a mode of HIV transmission, but prior to coming on here, I pretty much spent day and night researching everything I possibly could about HIv and sifting through what's true and what's not. Eventually, I came here and they told me to stop worrying, etc. Anyways, after that, I kind of just stuck around.
Hi Smar
This whole HIV thing is really quite scary, hey.
I'm going to try my best to go and have the test done, so that I can eventually put this whole thing behind me ... afterall I think all the worrying and checking every mark on my body, etc is too much for me. I just don't know where to go and have it done, as I live in quite a remote place. Did you go and have the test done yourself or are you just going to leave it?





All times are GMT -7. The time now is 08:09 AM.





© 2020 MH Sub I, LLC dba Internet Brands. All rights reserved.
Do not copy or redistribute in any form!