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I am a new mom of 5 month old Mason. I really don't know where to start so I am just going to jump into it. Mason is a VERY good baby. He never really cries or fusses (I don't let him). We have had this same bedtime routine since he was about 3 months old. Here goes: I get home around 3:30 - 4:00 pm. Mason takes 2 naps a day. He stays at my mother-in-laws house (she lives right next door) :rolleyes: So when I get home he is on his 2nd nap sometimes. I usually nurse him when I get home because he is due for another feeding. Around 6 or 6:30 - I feed him his dinner and around 7 pm I give the bath. After his bath I nurse him to sleep. I put him in his crib right after that. So he is in his room sleeping anywhere between 7:30 and 8:30. My first question is, Am I putting my son to bed too early? My sister said that I am but like last night - I gave him his bath at 7:00 and I usually nurse him after that to sleep but I kept him up and played with him but he was so fussy. He kept buring his head in my DH chest and whinning. I think he knows when it is bed time because of how long we have had this routine. When he does go down - he usually sleeps until about 10:30 or 11:00. I have tried to give him his pacifier when he starts to wake up and he will take it for about 10 min - but will wake back up again. After trying to give the pacifier several times I finally give up and just get him out of bed and put him in my bed to nurse. I am so tired in the middle of the night to keep getting up and down nursing him and putting him back in his crib that I just leave him in my bed the rest of the night. My dh works all the time and sometimes doesn't get home until real late so I feel bad asking him to help. My second question is - What do I do about the night nursing. Do I continue to keep on or do I just let him cry it out? I don't have the heart to let him cry - so is there some other alternative? I don't want Mason to get used to sleeping in the bed with mommy - I would love to get back in my own bed sometime SOON. What do I do?
I agree with most of mandy's points, but not all. Yes, breast fed babies typically do not sleep as well at night. I think that like she said, try to feed him a bit more at night. If he needs to nurse once in the night, I would say that is normal. Maybe even twice as he may be going through a growth spurt (typically around 6 months, has he been nursing more during the day as well?) If he's doing it more than once or twice, I think it's more of a comfort/I love my mommy thing. I think that his bedtime is appropriate. I also think that he may be teething. Is he drooling more than normal? If you think that may be part of the problem give him some tylenol or motrin before bed to help. It will help the pain and also knocks most little ones out a bit.

However, 5 months is not too young to start letting him cry and learn to fall sleep on his own. And you need to get him out of your bed. I totally know that it is easier, but he is getting used to being in your bed and that is part of the problem. Even though he is young, he is very smart. He has learned that if he crys and won't take the pacifier you will pick him up and bring him into your wonderful bed and nurse him. Then he gets to sleep with his wonderful mommy. You are giving him just what he wants and he will never change it on his own because...why would he?? It's great to him!

Here's a few things that I would try. See if it is more about eating, or being with you. No more nursing in bed. Go in, nurse him and put him right back in his crib. Try not to nurse him until he falls asleep. He is relying too much on the comfort of nursing to fall asleep. Allow him to fill his belly and then put him back to bed awake and see how he does. He will cry at first and it will break your heart! Go back in every 10 minutes and calm him down, then leave again. The 1st three nights I did this with my son I sat in the other room crying right along with him!!!!! It killed me, but after 3 nights he got it. He was about 4 months old. You are doing almost everything that the pros say to do to get your child to learn to fall asleep on their own. You've established a routine, the final step is putting him to sleep awake and letting him learn to put himself to sleep. Also, another thing to help you out if it really is all about hunger...have your husband help with the feedings. I know he works late. My husband comes home around 1-2am. Guess what...he gets to help. Yes your husband is tired...so are you honey. This is a team effort. Why go put it all on yourself?

And if it really is all about hunger, you son will be eating a lot of solids very soon and that is really going to fill him up and help you out, but I think its more that he loves having you comfort him.
[QUOTE=brandiworth;1317232]I am a new mom of 5 month old Mason. I really don't know where to start so I am just going to jump into it. Mason is a VERY good baby. He never really cries or fusses (I don't let him). We have had this same bedtime routine since he was about 3 months old. Here goes: I get home around 3:30 - 4:00 pm. Mason takes 2 naps a day. He stays at my mother-in-laws house (she lives right next door) :rolleyes: So when I get home he is on his 2nd nap sometimes. I usually nurse him when I get home because he is due for another feeding. Around 6 or 6:30 - I feed him his dinner and around 7 pm I give the bath. After his bath I nurse him to sleep. I put him in his crib right after that. So he is in his room sleeping anywhere between 7:30 and 8:30. My first question is, Am I putting my son to bed too early? My sister said that I am but like last night - I gave him his bath at 7:00 and I usually nurse him after that to sleep but I kept him up and played with him but he was so fussy. He kept buring his head in my DH chest and whinning. I think he knows when it is bed time because of how long we have had this routine. When he does go down - he usually sleeps until about 10:30 or 11:00. I have tried to give him his pacifier when he starts to wake up and he will take it for about 10 min - but will wake back up again. After trying to give the pacifier several times I finally give up and just get him out of bed and put him in my bed to nurse. I am so tired in the middle of the night to keep getting up and down nursing him and putting him back in his crib that I just leave him in my bed the rest of the night. My dh works all the time and sometimes doesn't get home until real late so I feel bad asking him to help. My second question is - What do I do about the night nursing. Do I continue to keep on or do I just let him cry it out? I don't have the heart to let him cry - so is there some other alternative? I don't want Mason to get used to sleeping in the bed with mommy - I would love to get back in my own bed sometime SOON. What do I do?[/QUOTE]





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